Are dating apps worth it if you don’t have your own private place?

mancozbi · 2018-06-27T12:13:42+00:00

Do the owners or your flatmates agree that you bring women home? Do you have your own room? Is your room welcoming, clean, aesthetic?

FlipModeEngaged · 2018-06-27T13:33:22+00:00

As long as it's not at home with parents you'll be fine bro. Living with parents kills tinder game.

hunterpua · 2018-06-27T15:24:44+00:00

Yes but it requires a little more game to get girls to take you to their places consistently so if you don't mind putting in the work then go for it.

bumfuckloser · 2018-06-27T15:23:46+00:00

Go to their place. Wherever. Many years ago I was living in my car and while it was before tinder and Bumble I still used online dating at the time to bang two chicks in my car 🤷‍♂️

Anything is possible

fridii · 2018-06-27T14:59:41+00:00

I think it works well but depends where u live!

actanonverbal · 2018-06-27T15:33:40+00:00

I currently live with parents for the summer, and choose to look at it as just extra training. It takes more for the women to take you home. Good experience to be had before I move out again in august.

Peter_B_Long · 2018-06-27T19:08:20+00:00

last year I was fucking girls I met on Instagram while I lived with my family.

Usually I wouldn't even mention my living situation to the girls. I would just say, "let's go back to my place?" And once we were close to my door I'd say, "Oh by the way, you might need to say hi to my sisters". It all depends on your frame. If you sincerely feel like it's no big deal then the girl won't feel uncomfortable as much. Sometimes if I knew the girl was uncomfortable, I'd bring her over when everyone was asleep or ask my sisters to go in their room for a few minutes.

To prevent noise, I'd put a movie on and have the tv on considerably loud.

If my mom or my family asked what me and the girl did last night, I'd just say we watched a movie and end it there.

It worked out decently, although now that I live with chill ass roommates all my dates enjoy coming over and always feel comfortable.

V4refugee · 2018-06-27T16:07:05+00:00

It makes it harder for sure but not impossible. Last girl, I took to a motel after a couple dates and after that, I brought her home to "watch TV". She got over the initial shyness after the first time and realized that it didn't really matter and it was just more convenient to come over to my place. Girl before that, she had her own place and I would just go over whenever. Of course, there have been other girls that I probably could have "brought home" if I had my own private place.

yellowidiot314 · 2018-06-27T19:37:56+00:00

Hard enough to convince them 2 bang. Including you have your own place and car doesnt really help so much. Id do better to just live with my parents and use the saved money to pay hot chicks for nookie

Ducks1976 · 2018-06-28T16:43:39+00:00

It all depends on you and the girl. If you have your crap together and live with flatmates to save money, most decent women will recognize that.

I'm 41, divorced once, got out of another long relationship 7 months ago. Live in a small booney port town (job) and trying to rent here is a joke. Had to move with my parents while I'm waiting for previous settlement money and saving on top for a new house.

Anyways...... I went on Tinder as more of a joke with my Nephew. I had some pretty good offers from woman (some a lot younger). Mind you, I have a noble profession that makes women feel a bit more at ease, but, I was pretty honest about things and most were ok with it. Long story short, after turning down a possible fling with a cute 23 yo (I just couldn't go that young......damn morals), I met a nice 34 year old who's in the same situation as me and wants to take it slooooow. So far it's a success story.

M-A-S-C · 2018-06-27T18:17:14+00:00

Bro, I've had success on dating apps while living in my car.

imaqdodger · 2018-06-27T19:36:11+00:00

I think it depends on where you live and how old you are. Obviously if you’re in your 30’s or up, that’s going to be pretty damn weird. Living with other people your age is also going to be different from living with your parents.

WhatItIsToBurn925 · 2018-06-27T20:20:35+00:00

I lived on my own for years but never brought a girl back to my spot. I always had a great road record.

Westernleaning · 2018-06-27T22:27:38+00:00

Car, parks, motels, her place, your parent’s house when they’re not there, in your parent’s house if your name is Stiffler and your mom is home.

Rick_M_Hamburglar · 2018-06-27T22:35:22+00:00

Dating apps are a waste of time, they are developed in such a way that the app itself 'cat fishes' you. For example, you'll receive a notification saying something like 'someone likes you', you'll open the app and it will ask for you to buy the premium subscription to view the people who 'like you', the moment you pay the fee, you'll find that there aren't anyone who liked you. It's all a scam.

ColdbloodedEdward · 2018-06-27T22:44:47+00:00

they're worth it if you're looking for a low quality fuck, be ready to settle for below your standards as the [hb6+] have seen every attempt to get in their pants, just seeking out attention

ToxicBlood · 2018-06-27T22:52:15+00:00

I've been on Tinder for like 3 years now and yes it it very difficult. I got lucky a few years ago and met my GF on Tinder who had a dorm. I would just visit her at her dorm like once or twice a week and her roommate would sometimes let us do our thing. She only came to my place once before she ended things. I just put the TV on in the basement and fucked her with the TV on loud. I've only brought like 3 or 4 girls to my place and always need to have some kind of sound going since my walls are thin like yours. I can't wait to move out.

Ronniex17 · 2018-06-27T19:20:25+00:00

Fuck me people - if you live with your parents just say you’re currently renting a room in a flat share and your live in landlord doesn’t allow guests over.

Then just say the only reason you’re renting a room is that you’re in the process of buying........ that’s what I used to do.

Once the first date is over you can always say you’re at your parents, they won’t remember what you’ve said on tinder about your living arrangements and if they like you after the first date it won’t matter anyway.

Just make sure they have their own place.

2018-06-27T18:31:52+00:00

You can always go to her place. I have two roommates, it doesn’t make any difference because I have my own room. I mean, in college you literally share a bedroom with someone and that doesn’t stop people. Depending on your setup you may just not be as spontaneous but if you’re living with friends, nbd. As said earlier though, def can’t be living with your parents and bring her back there

Julian_007 · 2018-06-27T19:39:35+00:00

Not here to prove anything, but I'm more than happy to show the number of my Tinder Matches as well as the ones which I haven't even got to chat to yet. Not to mention POF, Badoo plus picking women in real life. I had sex with up to four different women some days (not at once) and I have messages to prove it. Also I like taking pictures, so I can prove with that as well. I have a collection of about 300 selfies with 300 different women in compromising postures, haha. I'm not the best looking man out there, but I look OK. I'm smart and I have the knowledge on how to work my way around women. You've mentioned about cost of taking them to dinner. I have a job and a business and I do OK for myself, but I'm not rich or anything. However, I almost never take women to dinner. I want to have sex with them, not to marry them. I usually take them for a walk in the park. It's always the perfect place to put her in circumstances where you can grab and hold her hand, play with her hair while sattting on a bench and kiss her without having the whole world watching. In a park, she will always feel safe and that very important. The most I've ever spent on a date was probably £20 and that includes my petrol for driving to her and back. Happy to write more about it if you want to learn from my experiences. I'm here to help others while I'm learning new things from others as well. I'm just a stranger, believe me or not, that your choice.

2018-06-28T06:15:46+00:00

I will get downvoted for saying this, but if you don't have your own space, the last thing you should be doing is learning seduction.

Sorry bro, money always comes before sex. You'll realize this when you'll turn 40.

Julian_007 · 2018-06-27T13:58:13+00:00

They are definitely worth it.

I live in England and I don't have my own place. I live with rent in one bedroom. In the last four years I've slept with over 400 Tinder women and I haven't brought one at home. Not even once. They either pay for hotel for us (usually they're business women and can afford to), either do it at her place, her friends place, in the car, secluded parking spots, their place of work if convenient, etc. I haven't once paid for a hotel as it's not worth it for me since I have options. If you reach to the point where she is willing to sleep with you, she will always sort something out if you can't. Women are creative. Get on there, make things happen and worry about logistics later.

Maggost · 2018-06-27T12:57:15+00:00

This is such a weird question though and it doesn't belong here.

Title	Are dating apps worth it if you don’t have your own private place?
Author	Owamelleh
Upvotes	143
Comments	75
Date	June 27, 2018 12:09 PM UTC (8 years ago)
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