Where to meet women as a 23 year old guy?

OnlyOnceThreetimes · 2018-07-30T03:33:14+00:00

You are on the wrong sub for your personality type. All these guys think cold approaching at clubs, malls, coffee shops, etc. is the only way to do it. Ignore them and their downvotes, it isnt for you.

You need to setup a system that puts you in the proximity of girls frequently. Take advantage of the "mere-exposure" effect.

It is a psychological phenomenon where people tend to like other people who are familiar to them. This occurs after being in someones presence day after day.

How you do this is join classes. Photography class. Salsa dance lessons. Drawing class. WHATEVER.

Co-ed sports teams like volleyball. Focus groups.

These things FORCE you around people. You build connections without trying. Just be extra friendly with people.

That way you arnt wasting times on dating apps and scuzzy bars. You are bettering yourself with classes and friends.

Good luck!

Mr_Lonely_Heart_Club · 2018-07-30T03:18:26+00:00

Go to the dog park. Stay out of the bars. I mean, as a place to find women, it's terrible.

oddapple · 2018-07-30T01:56:33+00:00

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le_GoogleFit · 2018-07-30T03:54:01+00:00

So this advice might not be popular on here because it avoids “game” and doesn’t take a long convoluted route and doesn’t need a bible of an explanation like the book everyone likes to jerk off to, “models” but here it is:

Every guy I know who has slept with a lot of women approached women. They got rejected? They didn’t care. These guys had nothing in common, looks/financial standing/education. They approached. Doesn’t matter what they said. They approached. Follow me?

Approach.

d6walkon · 2018-07-30T04:20:52+00:00

What are you passionate about? Do you have any hobbies? That might be a good question to start with

johannthegoatman · 2018-07-30T13:55:59+00:00

Make female friends. It works super well.

PhantomTroupe26 · 2018-07-30T02:40:22+00:00

I'd suggest doing daygame and meeting women on the street, in a mall (my favorite place lol), or any public place where there's people. I also hate going out to clubs and such so I prefer daygame.

If you still live near where you graduated, go back on campus and find women to talk to during the school year. If you're ever out eating with friends, find girls to talk to during that time.

There are always plenty of opportunities. You just have to be persistent and seek them out. Good luck to you my friend

Edit: changed sentence in second paragraph

GrislyGrape · 2018-07-30T16:10:00+00:00

First thing first, Go outside. Try a walk, or, if you have a dog bring them to a local brewery that's dog friendly. I don't like beer, but everyone else does apparently. And 2 things that women/men love? Beer & Dogs, especially single owners of dogs that by which enjoy beer.

Second thing is to talk to a girl, start with small stuff. Now, normally with public speaking I'd recommend to picture your audience naked. I wouldn't really recommend this on a date or talking to a girl you find attractive because it might the conversation more...pointed.

third thing is to have a solid female friend if they friendzone you. Take this female friend with her to go out to do stuff and have them be your wingwoman! There is no better wing than a woman. Women treat other women's opinions of other people far more than they do men (and rightly so to be honest, we're really fucking dumb).

fourth thing is to get married. It's easy, once you find a girl you like, buy her dinner and walk her into a courthouse, give her a ring and just say that you're trying to give it to her for free. Give her a marriage form and just tell her you need her to sign it (don't tell her it's a marriage form), make up some excuse about the form stating that you can't charge her in any way shape or form for the ring. Once she signs it, then boom, you're married. EZ-PZ.

Remember, "Instant Marriage" By GrislyGrape

P.S. I told my gf this and she said I'm lucky I'm in a relationship. So take everything I said with like an ocean's worth of salt.

myotheraccountisfunn · 2018-07-30T06:47:56+00:00

Middle school playground, apparently

LimitedContributor · 2018-07-30T21:05:05+00:00

Posts like these really make me feel lost as f. Not blaming the OP. I'm closed to being 28.

judahman8 · 2018-07-30T02:25:09+00:00

Go to bars and clubs and start opening sets my dude. Wear a suit

kingmulla · 2018-07-30T04:22:59+00:00

Outside??

DominicanFury · 2018-07-30T12:05:58+00:00

well you could try starbucks or dance classes.

NilacTheGrim · 2018-07-30T13:00:33+00:00

Wherever they happen to be. Find out where they are, and go there.

Carlosskine · 2018-07-30T19:56:24+00:00

LOL bro your story is identical to mine. I just had my first date 2 weeks ago and probably blew it :D.

Good advice so far on the thread.

19throw_away94 · 2018-07-30T20:03:06+00:00

Some solidass advice in this thread

hellayaked · 2018-07-30T02:52:30+00:00

Talk to people in general. Build some momentum then just approach people in grocery stores. Learn good body language. Be a seducer not provider. Dude how come you didn't pull in college? Not to make you feel bad, but its super easy there even with r/secution basic techniques. Its a good learning ground. Get some in field practice just talk to everyone. Go to bars and clubs and make out with fat chicks, its good karma. Literally just do whatever you like and bring her into your world. Start small. Do approaches, especially with girls who give indicators. Then start just making out with some. I literally pulled a girl to the bathroom 3 weeks ago in a nice bar. Made friends with everyone. Bartender bought my friend and i a shot. This girl came up to me and said " Lets make out." It is because a fat girl i made friends with introduced us even, the fat girl had just met her that night too. Pays to be friendly. This was a smaller bar too. Bathroom was nice and clean. Now I see her regularly and shes into some awesome shit sexually. But it took me 6 weeks to get there after a 5 year relationship. The week before i was getting punched because i was practicing nonreactivness but was a little too unreactive hahaha. I didnt even run much "game" that night. Now im trying for another girl and will hoenstly take me longer to get like 2 months probably since im going to focus more on fitness and money. Just get out there bro and have fun with life! Message me if you like.

Title	Where to meet women as a 23 year old guy?
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Date	July 30, 2018 1:36 AM UTC (7 years ago)
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