What a funny way to tell on yourself... If they ask you for an open marriage and you never gave any signs of wishing for such a thing, better be looking for lawyer ASAP

infinite-ignorance · 2024-07-16T20:31:39+00:00

She didn’t love him. She’s just upset that people might think she’s a bad person for what she did. She wasn’t infatuated with him any more, wasn’t “in love” so time to kick him to the curb and seek limerence elsewhere.

NoLawfulness8554 · 2024-04-30T20:52:02+00:00

For her, it it’s all about the emotion. Where is her loyalty and ability to stay committed?

NilEntity · 2024-04-15T06:51:53+00:00

My ex brought up an open thing in the ILYBINILWY conversation when she sprung the whole thing on me. Just a quick mention of how we could be open or something, didn't even explicitly mention "open marriage", how a friend of her had done that and liked it (not marriage, only relationship) etc.

Imho she just wanted the benefit of getting with her new guy (no idea if she was already with him at that point or just this close to closing the deal) while still enjoying the benefits of marriage, me as a provider and husband, not being divorced and all that comes with etc., i.e., she wanted to have an affair with my blessing while actually already being completely done with us.

Of course that shit didn't fly, pretty much the last thing I wanted to hear in that moment.

CulturedGentleman921 · 2024-04-11T14:00:24+00:00

Open marriage request means:

She has cheated and feels guilty and wants to wipe that away.
She wants to get her back blown out by Johnny Thunderbang while utilizing you for your resources and support (cake eater).
She is actively interviewing your replacement (monkey branching).

At any rate, She already has cheated or knows who she wants to bang...maybe she even has a list!

It's over. End it.

AirSailer · 2024-04-11T13:04:37+00:00

A typical woman bases her decisions on feelings. Feelings produce dopamine in women. Dopamine makes humans feel good. This is part of female nature. It's not a bad thing, it just is. Unfortunately the effects of dopamine are similar to other drugs, the same input produces diminishing results over time. Therefore, if a woman feels like her man isn't meeting her needs, even if he is, then she will look for another man. Once the woman finds another man who makes her feel good, she will focus all her energy on getting more of that feeling... This includes torching a marriage to a good man. Typically the women come up with nonsense reasons to justify what they are doing in order to obfuscate the underlying reason, which is that she's seeking more feelings.

One-Donkey-9418 · 2024-04-11T09:52:46+00:00

Any woman that demands this( screwing other guys) grant her it and divorce her. Do not look back. Good times are in your future. Do not take them back, ever.

UseResponsible4368 · 2024-04-11T03:30:07+00:00

You'd love "Strong Successful Male" on youtube. A huge chunk of his content is men writing in to him or to reddit with "Open Marriage Requests". You might want to check out some of his youtubes on the subject, some are quite entertaining, and all are eye-opening. The funniest ones are when the woman asks for it (so she can cheat guilt-free with the boss, physical trainer, coworker, etc.) and the affair partner eventually kicks her to the curb, while the guy is being pounced on by every other woman in his life. Usually to guys in their 30s and 40s that married in their late 20s/early 30s. And their wives now in their late 30s/40s. Once her boss refuses to leave HIS wife or the Physical Trainer tires of the MILF challenge, she quickly realizes she isn't a 21-year old hottie at the Cancun Spring Break Party, while hubby is being chased by every 27-35 year old at the office, fitness center, etc. Then wife demands to "close" the relationship again, ha!

Oh does the valuation change!

All this being said, yep, No woman in love wants an open marriage. What they want is the Female version of what was called the "Madonna/Whore" Complex in previous generations, except their version is "Sugar Daddy/Bad Boy" complex where they want one guy to dry their tears and pay their bills, but other guys to give them the thrills.

However, according to that now-famous divorce attorney (Jim Sexton? I think his name is) whose interview had millions of views, an open marriage request is hearsay unless it's written, and even then .

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