Does anyone go through fail/successful dating streaks??

Ok-Shock8867 · 2024-04-30T03:15:49+00:00

Study upward/downward spirals.

Success/failure isn't a coinflip and your stats class doesn't matter. When you're successful with women, you get more confident, you subconsciously come off as more confident, you get more women. Same with rejection. You get rejected, you come off a little more sad or insecure, you get rejected more until something breaks the cycle. Even if you THINK you're behaving the same on every date; I promise you, you're acting way different during the success vs failed streaks.

domdomdom333 · 2024-04-30T06:20:32+00:00

Yea, been on a fail streak for the last 10 years. Maybe next year...

Snoo70640 · 2024-04-30T03:21:53+00:00

No, we all have perfectly even dating schedules

Eros_Abundance · 2024-04-30T08:32:48+00:00

When you talk about human behavior statistics and logic play a little role unfortunately.

This consistent inconsistency happens to me also, I believe it might be a self image related problem, maybe you have been on a dry spell for 2 months but the moment you get a girl and you get some positive feedback you go back to your playboy mode and keep having results until you get some negative feedback in a row and you go back to your virgin mode and the circle starts again

unswunghero · 2024-04-30T12:19:06+00:00

Yes but I think it's mostly a combination of luck and building momentum.

NoMoassNeverWas · 2024-04-30T13:16:25+00:00

Yes, that's how it has been for me. On 3 failed dates, after 3 very successful ones.

3 Ls is my biggest streak so fingers crossed. 10 is bad but fuck it, you're only as good as your last date. 1 successful one will make you forget the last 10.

Happyseducer · 2024-04-30T16:28:15+00:00

ABSTOLUTELY This is pretty much the norm. Momentum is really important. A good discussion could be on how to make the bad streaks as short as possible

adamgerges · 2024-04-30T03:03:14+00:00

take a class in statistics

Kagenikakushiteru · 2024-04-30T09:03:44+00:00

Nah I always escalate on dates so my hit rate would be 60-70% in terms of hooking up.

I mean my dates are always cocktail bars, or day time winery trips. Why would these girls I hardly know come meet me if there wasn’t physical attraction to begin with

OriginalMandem · 2024-04-30T14:57:08+00:00

Yeah but I usually attribute it to the seasons. Big up swing in activity on the apps for me, presumably because people are getting the spring horn

Theboynextdoor09 · 2024-04-30T15:06:37+00:00

Over and under confidence throughout swigns along with comparision ruining your interactions

EmployFew2509 · 2024-04-30T15:19:03+00:00

I’ve never had a second date

morphinetango · 2024-04-30T18:59:27+00:00

I've gone through spells where I can't get a date for weeks, or could get 7 first dates in a week and dead end at every one, and feel utterly hopeless and unworthy. And then there's times when every date goes super well and then I have to decide who I like fucking more. For me, if I walk around with a certain air of "I like this, but I also don't need it," suddenly I get it in abundance.

StandardSet3002 · 2024-05-05T00:43:43+00:00

I think I’ve given up

epimpstyle · 2024-04-30T22:27:52+00:00

TEN failed dates in a row

You are a weirdo if 10 girls have decided not to see you again! Think again about how those interactions were and maybe you'll see a pattern, it's something you've done every time and the girls didn't like it. Ten in a row is not okay.

IcyBjorn84 · 2024-04-30T18:10:51+00:00

You're coming at this from the perspective that you are every woman's cup of tea. Not how it works in reality. You may be lucky in having a first date with women period, but it doesn't mean they are all the same in how they would look at you. Everyone is an individual. Different women look for different things in a man. There is more but I feel I should ask these questions first to get a better perspective. Where are you seeing these women to secure dates? Where are you taking these women on first dates? What kind of women are you talking to or getting with? This would narrow down the problem you are having on some of these dates.

However, what I noticed is that (without any other context) you are going through woman after woman after woman. As in you take them on a first date, kiss, have sex and then move onto another woman for a first date expecting the same outcome without any regards to what they may want afterwards or any thought to pursue a real relationship. Again judging from what you posted without further context. That may be another factor in what is going on and adding to the problem, women do talk to each other and they probably know about how you are from someone else and agreed to go on a date with you anyway and not follow through with sleeping with you on the first date. Just a possible consideration because I have seen this happen many times. And IF that is the case, then your character is in question here, not your luck. How you treat women now is just as important as how you treat a potential future partner.

silver54 · 2024-05-01T05:51:26+00:00

Definitely have streaks of good and bad. If i can get a girl on a date, it always goes well. My hit rate is seriously close to 100%

The problem for me is landing consistent dates (online dating primarily). I always get consistent likes/matches, have a profile ive optimized over time really meticulously, have closed plenty of dates in the past, but still deal with many conversations going no where.

Currently in a dry spell of about 4 weeks. Also had my first ever situation where a girl ghosted an hour before the date then came back with some excuse late. She was ultra flirty beforehand too. Never had a flake like that last minute

Really fucks with your head sometimes. Even though ive had a lot of dates in the past, I'll think things like " do i even know what im doing? Im a total fraud" during these dry spells

Title	Does anyone go through fail/successful dating streaks??
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Date	April 30, 2024 2:53 AM UTC (2 years ago)
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