Clubs are the worst place to start conversations. I'm sorry

DaygameCode · 2024-05-23T17:17:45+00:00

That’s because the club isn’t really about talking.

It’s a game or scenario where your primal instincts and primal mannerisms have to be projected through social status, body language and non-verbal communication.

No one cares about what you have to say in there, what women care about is how you make them feel with your stimulus, the fun you bring and the pre selection you convey if you are someone important or the life of the “party”.

Dapper-Avocado-3726 · 2024-05-23T17:17:14+00:00

If you look good you don’t have to talk much that’s the key

harmlessdjango · 2024-05-23T17:14:06+00:00

I'm not good at this seductive thing, but I just wanna let you know that I relate to you. I too don't like loud spaces (neurodivergent). My main strength is my wordplay and humor and it doesn't come off well in a loud club

AnnikaQuinn · 2024-05-23T23:31:36+00:00

What are you sorry about exactly? You Canadian?

Dynamix86 · 2024-05-24T08:02:10+00:00

Clubs are designed to be intimidating for men because that way they will start to drink alcohol to build up the courage to actually start talking to a girl.

I’m 38 now and the last place I want to be at is at a club with a bunch of drunk people, people having to scream, ending the night with hearing damage and people stepping on your feet or spilling drinks over you. Not to mention the effect on your sleep

ClitPlayaBootySlappa · 2024-05-23T17:49:53+00:00

+add the large amount of attention whores and cock teasers you run into in clubs

You can have a chick, grinding her ass on your dick (or grinding her pussy on your leg), even tongue kissing you, and she still says she won't fuck you. Cause she has to go home to her bf/husband/kids, or she has to leave with her massive group of friends/coworkers.

In any other environment, we're most likely fucking.

ImActuaIIyHim · 2024-05-23T21:29:50+00:00

Yall overthinking this. In the club yall can just be whoever u wanna be and itll work. Just learn some moves and the club is ur new best frie d

dankskull_18 · 2024-05-24T05:43:15+00:00

Worst for talking and the best for escalating physically As you could from social vibe to seductive in few seconds too.You can go upto her and look at her Get her attention and then lean forward to ask her name or something while leaning your escalation should already start by placing your hand on her arm and then keep getting your cheeks,skins touch each other back and forth while talking this way she definitely wanna continue staying if she stays she is interested (some don’t 😉 let them leave)

And you gotta be very cool and confident while doing that you want it to seem it’s not a big deal if you believe it she is gonna believe)

P.s- English is not my first language

epimpstyle · 2024-05-23T18:01:01+00:00

Yes, they are the worst, but later at 1-2-3 in the morning they are good, but not inside, actually outside. You have to create opportunities when they don't exist, just be smarter with a minute before another person and you are good.

If it is not okay inside, start outside where you can see everyone entering the club, stay a few meters away from the door so now you have the opportunity to make a cold approach... If you have already said "hi" to some girls before they enter the club, when you are inside you can make the real approach and it is easier because you have already said "hi" before they enter the club, they will recognize you.

WholeMilkElitist · 2024-05-23T17:17:29+00:00

Clubs = non-verbal communication. You're seducing with your body, not your mind.

That being said, I'm not very successful when I go out clubbing, so the two changes I am making to improve in that regard are improving my aesthetics (more gym, cardio, and cutting) and learning some dance moves. If you have a table, it can be easier to pull a girl back to your table to chat.

CrudProgrammer · 2024-05-24T00:59:06+00:00

WHAT!?

Isthatreally-you · 2024-05-24T05:15:04+00:00

Talk with your body and actions.. this is what the club is all about. You dont go for long ass convos in a club yo

BravoPUA · 2024-05-24T17:42:06+00:00

The club is like the bating cage or driving range when you need to hit a bucket of balls and focus on a few things.

Once you learn those lessons, only go there if you enjoy it.

Or if running a bootcamp = the only reason I would go to them years later.

If you aren't a "club guy" and you are acting like one, and meet a "club girl" when she finds out you arent really a club guy...she isnt going to like that.

Be congruent and pick up girls along the way as you live your life.

But level up your life, so you are a better version of you, so you can meet, and get, higher level women along the way.

AnAIAteMyBaby · 2024-05-23T17:50:53+00:00

There's very different types of seduction. Club game is a bit more primal, you say less and do more.

I remember when I was heavily involved in the pick up community here in London about a decade ago there was a clear split between day gamers and night gamers without much overlap.

Generally the better guys who had the most success did night game, mainly in clubs. Most of the day gamers seemed to struggle a lot and I regularly heard of guys talking about doing many hundreds of approaches without a single date.

PeanutAnnual6119 · 2024-05-23T18:41:45+00:00

Yea no shit they are bad places to make conversations. People go to clubs to drink and dance and have fun not to have long conversations with people. But this doesn't make them a bad place to meet women. It's just a different type of game.

Also people here always lump nightgame into only going to clubs for some idiotic reason. When there are millions of types of bars and nightlife spots that aren't clubs where it is way easier to talk to people.

It's pretty simple...if you don't like dancing, djs, edm music, drinking and doing drugs then just don't go to clubs. Go to one of the million other types of bars that fit whatever you enjoy.

Videogamesarereel · 2024-05-23T22:15:25+00:00

Libraries are only good situationally, not for volume pickup. You have to whisper and all someone has to do is complain and you will get kicked out.

thek1ng69 · 2024-05-23T23:37:01+00:00

I agree.

dobbs1997 · 2024-05-24T03:20:21+00:00

So stick to those places then lol the club can still be a place to seduce women but if it’s not your speed then it’s not your speed

Fantastic-Life-2024 · 2024-05-24T15:12:58+00:00

Dance that's the secret.

throwaway-research1 · 2024-05-24T15:27:09+00:00

Available_Bass9725 · 2024-05-23T17:23:51+00:00

There's the lounge area??

Classic_Writer8573 · 2024-05-23T18:19:57+00:00

I always had my best luck at the late night restaurants women stopped at after clubbing.

MrPound4Pound · 2024-05-23T17:16:58+00:00

Different places require different game plans.

SaaSWriters · 2024-05-23T18:22:50+00:00

I don't think women would be able to let go of their fear between so many unknown people

I don't know about that. For the most part they look like they'rehaving fun.

or even HEAR you.

All you need to do is to move her to a quiet area.

understand your witty replies or your seductive intent.

What is all that?

Can't expect seduction when you can't even handle conversations! Thoughts?

You clearly talk too much. You are not giving a calculus lecture.

If she wants to talk to you, she'll follow you to a quiet area and get closer to you so she can hear what you saying.

Title	Clubs are the worst place to start conversations. I'm sorry
Author	AntEasy7172
Upvotes	106
Comments	33
Date	May 23, 2024 4:56 PM UTC (2 years ago)
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