Guys, my wife (31) last night, after I deflected a bunch of her shit tests etc during a disagreement, threatened to get my gun, then a knife, etc. and hurt herself so that I would listen to her.

She did this because she used the disagreement to bring up other grievances (how I wouldn’t listen to her etc., classic stuff)

She also ran upstairs and locked a door to manipulate me into thinking that she was going to hurt herself. Lastly, she even physically got in the way of me at one point from leaving a room and threatened to damage my stuff.

I basically was remaining cool, sticking to my guns (I wouldn’t budge on the disagreement and remained outcome independent, and deflected more about the classic “i don’t feel heard” stuff…also said NOT to touch me or my things) But when she started the self-harm stuff, I DID go to check on her. Of course, she had not hurt herself or even grabbed anything.

At a couple points she even said how she didn’t like this or that, and I said she “didn’t have to like it”

But my question about this is, when a woman is emotionally manipulative like this, does this indicate that she has BPD but is still attracted to me? Or does this indicate that she is done with me? A couple points she asked me to go to my mom’s for a few nights, which I declined.

The next morning I basically called her in the room a couple times and said “i’m calling 911 next time, you needed emergency services” with a smile. I also let her know that the way she was acting was abusive and manipulative.

We are apart today but I plan on removing attention from her now for a while.