I was married for 10 years, two kids 6 and 8 years old, I have been separated since February, she did the whole “I’m not in love with you anymore” thing. Blindsided, sure, but as with many of us, I should have seen it coming. We had a really shitty year last year, sold everything we owned, moved to a new country, only to pack up 4 months later and move back. Then 4 days after getting back home, she dropped that bomb on me. One of the few requests I had was that for the first year of separation we would refrain from introducing new partners to the kids. I felt we have put our kids through a lot in the last year and they needed some stability. Well, that lasted about a month before my kids starting telling me about this man and his two kids they have hung out with a few times. I asked STBX about it and she told me that they “are just friends” and that “he’s going through the same thing as I am”. Turns out this guy also split with his wife in February. Fast forward another month, and my STBX now tells me that “things have changed in the past couple weeks”, implying they are now seeing eachother. I had a minor meltdown over it cause I can’t believe she could just fall into a new relationship so fast. I’m trying not to think about her/them at all, but I will admit that she is still taking way too much room in my head, rent-free. Part of me wants to go find a random woman to sleep with just to get back at her, but that’s not healthy either. I know I just have to be patient and keep focusing on myself and not her and her new relationship, it just stings. I guess I will take comfort in knowing that 99% chance their new relationship blows up spectacularly.