Love of my life

-AppropriateLyrics · 2024-06-23T23:19:53+00:00

Are your kids old enough to read?

JustAnotherBoomer · 2024-06-20T07:19:22+00:00

Once a comment like "you are the love of my life" becomes equivalent to "where do you hide the AAA batteries this time?," then you will reach the promised land.

captainchippsixx · 2024-06-19T23:56:51+00:00

Doesn’t matter. Start recording as needed. Protect yourself.

henrysmyagent · 2024-06-19T23:42:46+00:00

Virtue signaling. Pure, 💯% virtue signaling.

Do not believe any of the noises that come out of her mouth.

Only her actions are to be believed.

MonarchistExtreme · 2024-06-19T23:19:14+00:00

I bet it's not that deep...in the middle of my ex wife's most toxic behavior she'd have moments where she'd say some throw away line that I would cling to like a life preserver in hopes it was a sign of a change in direction of our relationship.

I learned to ignore every single thing she said and focus entirely on her actions. The actions tell the truth.

Emotional_Lettuce251 · 2024-06-19T20:42:14+00:00

Just to let you know, OP, this is pretty much the situation I was in. I decided I was going to "fight to good fight" for the sake of our 4 kids, and because it didn't seem financially viable (although, my stbxw has been public school teacher for over 20 years). My stbxw didn't talk to me or touch me for 7 years. Then, one Friday night, she came down to the basement (pretty much where I lived) and told me she would be filing for divorce the upcoming Monday. Now, this was an extra 7 years that I did get to see my children every day, but, aside from that, it's like she stole the majority of my 40's from me.

As to why she wrote that, I obviously have no actual idea, but my thought is it's because of the kids. Something she can use as manipulation down the road. "See, look, on his 2024 Father's Day card I told him he was the love of my life".

My stbxw, she likes to say "We are getting a divorce". I'm not playing that game. NO! "WE" aren't doing anything. YOU are divorcing me and I'm going to make you own it.

DivorceRecoveryMen · 2024-06-19T19:57:28+00:00

Happiness is not overrated. Never stay for the kids and go get your happy. You deserve. Just saying!

NewDay0110 · 2024-06-19T19:38:19+00:00

Love never existed for you. It's just your hormones building up your sexual energy so you are incentivized to make the kids you now have. When I think about the times I was in love in my life and how it turned out I can't believe how silly younger me was. If you get away from your wife for a while, find yourself a new girl, you will probably think the same thing. Maybe some couples find "love" by building something beyond the sexual attraction, but for most people love is just another scam perpetrated on us by society like sweepstakes, extended car warranties, and university degrees.

bk2747 · 2024-06-19T19:35:59+00:00

Don’t take her back, also, any way she can get her own place? The longer she stays the more it’s gonna cost you if you get hit with alimony. She needs to go.

No co-habitation. If y’all wanna play roommate, she needs to pay rent. Don’t wanna do that? Hurry up and file and get rid of her.

yourcarlosdanger · 2024-06-19T19:00:31+00:00

Stop overthinking it. Its some sort of manipulation tactic that her squirrel brain thinks is clever. Its not clever. It transparent manipulation. She hates it that you are getting off of her emotional roller coaster. She is entitled to emotionally manipulate you. How dare you break away from the petty tyrant?

Signal-Dot2326 · 2024-06-19T17:51:25+00:00

Ignore the crazy that's all you need to do

Abject-Composer-1555 · 2024-06-19T17:38:37+00:00

Do the kids know that you are just cohabiting?

I don't know why she did this, it may be something just because she thinks the kids are going to read it?

DaddyNoBux · 2024-06-19T16:07:50+00:00

Cohabiting is an absolute nightmare existence

I would rather spend a couple of months in in a North Korean labour camp than go through that hell again

TheWormTurns22 · 2024-06-19T15:42:20+00:00

Because she's likely Narcissistic Personality Disorder, or Borderline Personality Disorder. Since you've elected to stay in the same house for sake of kids, look up both these on youtube, educate yourself on how to survive/live with these monsters. This throwaway statement on the card is just meant to sow chaos and very typical of these people. You need to learn to ignore EVERYTHING she may say, good or bad. For your sanity. I honestly can't tell you if sticking around will help the kids or not. She's going to poison them against you whether you there or not. Keep a close eye on them, and love them extra, do all you can for them, and do NOT criticize or even mention their mom keep your lips zipped on her. Even if they ask, respond neutrally. Your great hope is they will eventually see who is the normal parent and who is crazy.

0neMinute · 2024-06-19T15:35:31+00:00

She is trying to give false hope, the angle is to pull you in and get your attention. Once you act on this and give her attention she will act like your crazy and will be bitter and cold. Want to have her pursue you? Do nothing and let the love bombing increase

ArtichokeSavings9472 · 2024-06-19T15:25:41+00:00

Why get hung up on one comment from her? Look at the big picture there are many issues here you two can’t stand to be around each other, fighting all the time , apathy towards the relationship . Your children deserve to see both of you happy and thriving not miserable all the time pull off the bandaid give those kids the life they deserve

Title	Love of my life
Author	softinvest
Upvotes	12
Comments	28
Date	June 19, 2024 3:16 PM UTC (2 years ago)
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