Body count is no measure of someone's 'game' or sexual desirability

wtknight · 2024-07-16T11:03:58+00:00

Removed. No posts about body count.

thisaccountaintrea1 · 2024-07-16T06:44:58+00:00

Quality is more important than quantity, yes. Most folks will respect the man who pulls three 10s more than they respect the man who pulls ten 3s.

IrresponsibleFarmer · 2024-07-16T07:05:40+00:00

And when a female friend revealed that she had a body count of over 100 at a party once, you could see the scales fall from men's eyes as they tried to conceal their disgust.

As a male I can tell you that feeling of disgust is innate and primal. I can't explain it and it's very hard to rationalize it away, which is why I think it is biological in nature. And if you compare it to the past our attitude towards (female) promiscuity is as tolerant as it's ever been. Turn the clock back 100 years and a female with body count of 100 will be put into the lowest totem pole of social standing.

even if they agree that it's a silly metric you can see what's going on behind the scenes.

At the end of the day you have to make peace with these "silly metrices". The causes might be stupid, outdated and irrational, like a vestigial organ, but they are undeniably part of our nature. You can probably convince yourself that they don't matter but good luck convincing other people that they don't. It is similar to how (male) height having a disproportionately large effect on female attraction.

kongeriket · 2024-07-16T07:36:04+00:00

My most handsome and charismatic friend has only slept with one woman his entire life and been dating her since just after high school

I can believe that.

The most sexually active people are in fact pretty average. Somewhere between 5 and 8.

1s and 2s as well as 9s and 10s are the least likely to be very sexually active. This makes sense intuitively - the averages exist precisely because the averages mate more (and have been, historically, as well). So, in that sense, your thesis holds some water in the sense that body count is not necessarily a measure of someone's 'game' or sexual desirability.

With that said, your overall post suffers from a common disease on this sub: the assumption that men and women are interchangeable. Well, they're not. Men are not women. The exact same set of actions will be perceived differently and none of that will change in your lifetime or in my son's lifetime.

It's a pathetic double standard of course, that they want women to be promiscuous enough to fuck them then turn around and judge women for being easy and disregard them as potential partners.

Some do, some don't. But the double standard itself exists for a reason: It's very easy to hit a body count of 100 as a very average woman. But it's very hard to hit the same body count as a man. This reality will never change no matter how much rhetoric and ideology you try to pour over it.

Also, women expect men to be intuitive lovers. Fair enough - but how would they become one without accruing experience? (which inevitably means high or at least higher body count) Women aren't innocent in this mindset either. That is, if you assume this mindset is bad (I don't - I'm agnostic to it).

TermAggravating8043 · 2024-07-16T07:02:39+00:00

I somewhat agree. I’ve noticed those with larger body counts tend to be those with extreme mental issues and struggle with many aspects of life rather than just relationships.

However I think the whole body count conversions get completely blown out of proportion. The average body count for anyone is 7, so meeting someone in triple digits is rare and shouldn’t be used as the norm.

I will agree there is a double standard for men that seem to think having a higher body count makes them more attractive but it’s the opposite for woman. Unless your a slut yourself, no one wants to date a slut. But woman don’t make a big deal out of it the way men do, they just quietly avoid you and then they get to 40 and wonder why you’ve never been in a ltr.

SwoleAustralian · 2024-07-16T06:30:26+00:00

Body count just means that you're sexually attractive, if you weren't, people wouldn't be sleeping with you, so there is the factor of desirability there.

If you aren't desirable people aren't going to have sex with you in the first place.

obviousredflag · 2024-07-16T07:22:36+00:00

You always need to have the circumstances that go with a bodycount to interpret anything about desirability. There are lots of men and women who do not want to have sex outside a committed relationship. Their bodycounts are low, regardless of how desirable they are.

boom-wham-slam · 2024-07-16T09:04:13+00:00

I agree it's not a perfect metric. However it is an easy to calculate metric. So what it lacks in accuracy it makes up in ease of use.

It is quite good though in some respects where it's both accurate and easy to calculate and has little weaknesses. One being with women, specifically in your example with a body count of 100. She is factually a slut. So it's a good metric to determine that.

I can say that being in the high digits for a man can be he's fucking every ugly chick or hiring prostitutes but it's not always nor would I say that seems likely. If you can fuck hundreds of 3s you could easily instead fuck 50 7s.

I would never fuck a girl under a 6. My bc is well over 300. All my ex gfs are 8 or higher. I also dont make my whole life about pussy. I have literally 9 new women I exchanged numbers with blowing up my phone literally asking me to come fuck them. I'm going to blow most of them off. In part because I have a gf and a fwb right now (they both are aware of everything and are OK with it) and I prefer to sleep with the same women instead of fuck new ones constantly even if it doesn't seem like it. But what all does this say about me? Seeing as I'm not fucking ugly fat girls... 🤪

Being willing to risk pregnancy, STDs, and all the other ramifications that can come from having sex with someone

This is a bullshit argument. I've fucked alot more than most and I don't have stds or any unwanted kids. I'm not stupid I know how to use condoms and take appropriate measures at the appropriate times. And to avoid girls I think are trouble. I've said no to women I thought mess with drugs for example. I've said no to women I thought were having risky sex. Add to that condoms. It's quite safe.

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4ktx · 2024-07-16T06:37:47+00:00

How many woman want you simultaneously not congruently. Also the level of women you are attracting.

FirmQuarter6623 · 2024-07-16T08:40:12+00:00

When a 6 smv man get laid a lot with hot bitches, it's indicator of his game. When a woman sleeps around, she just cannot hold her legs together.

Junior_Ad_3086 · 2024-07-16T08:44:02+00:00

there's a rather strong correlation between male promiscuity and desirable traits (as long as no sex workers are involved). of course it won't apply to every single individual hence your anecdotal examples but generally speaking it's much easier for men who are tall, handsome, successful, confident, funny etc. to get laid than those who are not. that doesn't mean that every attractive man will be promiscuous but promiscuous men will usually be more attractive than the average man. for women this correlation is very weak at best, unless they're at the very bottom of physical attractiveness almost every woman can choose to be promiscuous. to clarify, i don't think being promiscuous itself is a desirable trait for men or women but it has different implications depending on gender.

there's also data that clearly shows that promiscuous individuals tend to have higher divorce rates and less satisfying marriages, so i don't think it's a silly metric to care about as far as long-term relationships go. no guy wants to marry the town bike and there are evolutionary reasons for this too. for the longest time in human history contraceptives were not a thing and committing to a promiscuous woman likely meant raising some other dude's kid. modern times don't just erase thousands of years of biological programming. of course men will have different standards when there's no commitment involved, promiscuous women are more likely to be willing to engage in casual sex by definition, so they'll actively be selected for when it comes to that. the downsides don't matter in short-term arrangements anyway.

Emergency-Routine814 · 2024-07-16T10:12:27+00:00

I will judge someone with a high body count both men and women. It says a lot about who they are as a person it'd be stupid not to. Anyone who says otherwise is coping

shadowrangerfs · 2024-07-16T10:17:36+00:00

I disagree. You have to be somewhat attractive to get a lot of people. If a guy has a body count of 100, that means 100 different women found him attractive enough to sleep with. Even if he had to shoot his shot with 300 women, that's still 100 women who wanted him. Every guy who takes a shot at 300 women isn't going to get 100 of them.

sevenstargen · 2024-07-16T10:29:12+00:00

This is fact probably at least 50 percent of my lays come from the fact I'm an above average musical performer.

twel1999 · 2024-07-16T07:45:26+00:00

High body count shows that you've no control over your carnal desires

Title	Body count is no measure of someone's 'game' or sexual desirability
Author	AnomicAge
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Date	July 16, 2024 6:26 AM UTC (2 years ago)
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