A man’s attraction/sexual attraction to the woman is the only exclusive indicator of sexual when it comes to successful sex or relationships

kongeriket · 2024-07-29T21:51:05+00:00

overwhelmingly men and to a certain extent women underestimate how important being “hard” and staying “hard” is throughout the whole sexual process. And the implications of that fact. Metaphorically/physically/conceptually.

I'm not one of those anti-porn crussaders/freaks, but this does legit sound like pornsick stuff. Anxiety over the erection is almost always psychologically induced. And while porn isn't always at fault, it's usually the main culprit.

women can have duty sex and can even cum/orgasm from duty sex.

Yes.

Where as if a man can not even get hard then penetration is not really plausible as an option.

Yes, there is. That's why God invented tongue, fingers, kisses and more recently, sexual toys.

Also if a man doesn’t show interest or want sexually it’s an almost insurmountable hurdle.

Lol, no. That's such a virgin take.

In my house, sex is a duty to each other. About 3 to 5% of the time, one of us isn't really in the mood. When that's me, there's no way I'm saying no to the missus and there's no way she doesn't cum spectacularly and then fall asleep in my arms.

You just lack imagination.

And the implications of this conceptually/metaphorically/physically are self evident.

😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

Thanks for the entertainment, OP.

I genuinely laughed. I needed this.

egalitarian-flan · 2024-07-29T21:57:42+00:00

Are you aware that not all sex involves penile penetration, men can still have orgasms when not fully hard, penises still get pleasure from being stimulated when soft, and men are also able to have successful sex without piv?

Just_Another_Cog1 · 2024-07-29T22:00:12+00:00

. . . bro

Have you heard of the prostate?

Did you know it's possible to orgasm from stimulating the prostate? Two ways, actually, because stimulating the prostate can cause a regular orgasm (with the usual spurt and all that) but it can also cause a prostate orgasm.

Oh! Also, when you cum from tickling your prostate, you don't have to be hard. You can even ejaculate. No boner required.

(p.s. This doesn't work for all men, of course, but it's a real enough phenomenon.)

Is it important to be hard during sex? Sure, sometimes . . . maybe "most of the time" for some people . . . but there are times when it's not exactly necessary. And if it becomes necessary, then you play around some more until you're ready to go.

I'm curious about something: what do you think the purpose of sex is?

LevelCaterpillar1830 · 2024-07-29T22:08:22+00:00

reciprocation can only start once someone makes the first move/act/etc. sexual attraction or sexual desire or lust. Is one mechanism that causes one to initiate and take risks and start the first act/move. And the implications of this metaphorically/conceptually/physically are important.

Uh, yes? Of course? The parties need to... desire each other... to have... sex? And somebody needs to initiate. Alright. We're getting to highschool level sex-ed, almost there.

women can have duty sex and can even cum/orgasm from duty sex. Where as if a man can not even get hard then penetration is not really plausible as an option. Also if a man doesn’t show interest or want sexually it’s an almost insurmountable hurdle. But if a woman starfishes and does nothing but consent to the sexual experience happening then sex is actually possible and mutual orgasms can still happen even if she shows no interest or want in it facilitating it happening.

Ah, damn. We were this close to greatness. This sounds eerily close to being a rape apologist. Insane take. Right back to the dumpster...

The main idea is that a man wanting/desiring/lusting for a woman is what actually facilitates everything from sex to relationships REGARDLESS of how interested the woman is in the man.

The meds should be on the counter right next to you. Otherwise, you know how this sounds, right?

And the implications of this conceptually/metaphorically/physically are self evident.

I'm afraid I am too much of an idiot to understand something so evident. Mind expanding on this one for me?

AcephalicDude · 2024-07-29T22:14:14+00:00

I think what is missing from your view is the reality that women have a tendency to get turned on by abstractions. Those factors that you think would make a woman want sex with a guy they did not initially find super physically-attractive, are actually often the factors that do turn a woman on physically: displays of competency or wealth; a funny, smart, kind personality; being attentive, responsive, considerate; etc. The same is also true of men, because it is actually more of a function of the human mind: we literally perceive people different after they have demonstrated desirable abstract personality characteristics to us. They literally look better to us, we literally find them more physically attractive because of the non-physical stuff we like about them.

alwaysright12 · 2024-07-29T21:53:55+00:00

You appear to be suggesting men can't be raped by women?

optimistic_entropi · 2024-07-29T21:58:06+00:00

There is quite a bit of evidence suggesting that the female orgasm facilitates sperm retention.

Also the hormones released during and after sex in both partners are what creates/strengthens bonding between the pair which increases the likelihood of relationship longevity.

MistyMaisel · 2024-07-30T03:08:37+00:00

I tried duty sex once, never again. Only a man would pretend a woman is coming from this and that it isn't painful, degrading, and maximally unpleasant. It turns out, vaginas don't always just get wet or expand when their owners aren't into it.

Our arousal and desire is just as important as a man's, the fact a man could feasibly rape us despite that well, women can rape a man who is soft too. And it would be just as unpleasant for y'all to be getting mashed while soft by a pussy.

And this is to say nothing of prostates or hands or mouths.

God, I don't usually toss this out, but I don't believe for a second you've had sex to suggest all this.

No wonder so many women remain single, their other option is men who think sex is basically caused by them, all about them, and that her interest in it is at best something to be bypassed if she'd just lay there and take it. No wonder cats and a vibrator are out paving y'all.

Redpill-mind · 2024-07-29T21:57:54+00:00

If she’s settling or she wants him desperately it will work if he wants her or desires or lusts for her. If he doesn’t want her or desire her or lust for her then it will undoubtedly fail

Why can't they both just lust for each other ?

apresonly · 2024-07-29T22:05:30+00:00

a man being hard or soft is none of my business

i dont know their bodies like they do, so its their decision what they think they can do and what they wanna do

i am nice and supportive either way, we can have sex, we can do oral, we can cuddle, whatever 🤷‍♀️

and men can get me off regardless of a boner, in fact, it may be easier without one

pg_throwaway · 2024-07-30T00:43:34+00:00

Like it seems every day PPD is filled up with new posts from people talking like they are experts about things they have no experience with.

Like a guy who's never had a girlfriend talking how "bad" women are to date.

Now it sounds like a guy who's never had sex trying to explain how sexual relationships work.

how important being “hard” and staying “hard” is throughout the whole sexual process

Really? Then how do lesbians have sex? What about eating her out? What about fingers? What about toys?

Also if a man doesn’t show interest or want sexually it’s an almost insurmountable hurdle.

Anyways, back in the real world, "duty sex" works fine with guys. I've been not in the mood for sex when a girlfriend (or my wife) is feeling horny and wants it. Maybe I'm tired, maybe we did it to many times already, maybe I have a literal headache. But I want her to feel satisfied so I go with it. Guess what? It still goes up and I still have a good time.

Men can also be raped by women. With the right stimulation dick goes up even if you don't want it to. IDK, do you even know how your own penis works? Are you an alien?

And the implications of this conceptually/metaphorically/physically are self evident

I don't think you even know what the point of your post is, tbh.

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Psyteratops · 2024-07-29T21:53:40+00:00

What is the important fact that this theory would point to if it were true? What is a set of conditions you would accept as proving it false?

DerpaDerpaDooDinkle · 2024-07-29T22:20:53+00:00

Do men/women underestimate the importance of an erection during sex? Seems like there are some drug companies running ads on every TV show possible that would disagree with you. I feel like a limp noodle is sad times... exception being post-orgasm for the man, but lady isn't done yet... then you gotta use whatever other tools you have available to you.

Reciprocation, by definition, does require someone to make a first move.. I'm not sure the point you're making here. Women can make the first move too.. I hear blow jobs are a great starting point.

It is far easier for a man to screw a lifeless woman than it would be for a woman to screw a lifeless (non-erect) man.. maybe not impossible, but... more difficult, for sure. I'm not sure what your point here either... that men are typically the more active participant? That tracks with my experience. I'm not sure if women are generally lazy or just prefer to be in "receive" mode rather than "bounce and grind" or if it's just an issue with bouncing on something that hits your cervix makes it not very fun. Ladies do seem to have more hang-ups about being sexually aggressive.

SaBahRub · 2024-07-30T14:02:52+00:00

Nope. Plenty of men still love/appreciate wives who aren’t so hot or young, or fuck them a lot, and vice versa.

Plenty of couples don’t prioritize sex, because other aspects of the relationship are more important or fulfilling

Title	A man’s attraction/sexual attraction to the woman is the only exclusive indicator of sexual when it comes to successful sex or relationships
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Date	July 29, 2024 9:34 PM UTC (1 year ago)
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