Wife starting to threaten divorce, feels inevitable

Zestyclose-Bag8790 · 2024-09-18T17:04:19+00:00

MRP is not about changing your wife. Her possible positive changes are only a side effect.

You need to do continue to work hard on yourself. We are here to be our become our best selves. To earn our own respect and most importantly to own our shit, so we can change.

Gym and diet are obvious, but at this point it makes sense to me to visit with a good divorce attorney and be prepared. Your attorney will have some concrete steps you can follow to be prepared if your wife is headed for the door.

Leeman1990 · 2024-09-18T16:58:18+00:00

There’s someone else giving her attention. You need to be better than that someone else or it’s over. Simply threatening to leave is a band aid that will fall off. Dread will help but you need better frame. Get out of the house and focus on yourself. Make more friends, make more money, lift heavy and frequently and cut out carbs, sugar and reduce alcohol(drugs) consumption. Make everything about you becoming a better man. Be better, it’s the only option.

soontobesolo · 2024-09-18T16:57:08+00:00

It's over once this crap starts. You need to prepare yourself and build strategy. My advice: https://www.reddit.com/r/Divorce_Men/comments/1f4yhuc/my_advice_to_those_starting_down_this_path/

RedWhacker · 2024-09-18T17:39:08+00:00

You should worry more about improving and less about the future ex-wife.

redandswollen · 2024-09-18T19:18:30+00:00

You probably need to strategize on how to minimize the damage when (not if) she leaves. Help her find a job and start spending more time with your kids. Document everything you do with them so there's no doubts about you getting 50/50. Meanwhile, STFU to her. She's not your friend anymore. Not your confidante. She'll soon be the most dangerous person in your universe.

rpbb9999 · 2024-09-18T18:29:25+00:00

You got complacent and things went to shit, go figure

EitherBedroom2341 · 2024-09-18T20:09:52+00:00

She divorced u in her mind at least a year ago. Its hard to accept but its too late to save ur marriage. Don’t try and work on a relationship with someone who doesn’t want you. You may never understand why she made the decision. Be ready to accept that.

dolanthesemicolon · 2024-09-18T18:36:22+00:00

Twice... she's called it twice.

If my wife did that to me (once), I'd lawyer up, and stick the fucking papers in front of her.

Yoroff · 2024-09-18T21:07:37+00:00

My response to her threat of divorce would be silence. The only person that I’d talk to would be my divorce attorney. I would never argue. Never yell. She’d find out when the papers were served. The only time she would hear from me would be depositions and testimony at court.

mrpwtf · 2024-09-19T03:23:55+00:00

Try rubbing her asshole while she falls asleep.

wkndatbernardus · 2024-09-18T20:14:07+00:00

I would prolong the marriage as much as possible so she can get some time at a job under her belt. If she needs some encouragement, tell her you really want that vacation home or other BS she's been dreaming about so, her having a job will make that happen quicker. This will mitigate alimony/CS. Meanwhile , as others have said, contact a lawyer and get a strategy in place. Thankfully, you have only been married ~10 years so, the alimony won't be as crippling but CS will be terrible unless she's working.

Also, any arguments have to stop immediately. Just walk away if she starts hassling you. You could very easily end up with a domestic violence charge if you aren't careful. Never arguing with a woman is good RP advice anyway. Vaya con Dios, amigo.

num_de_plum · 2024-09-18T21:10:58+00:00

She's fucking someone else.

Swagstoic · 2024-09-18T17:15:31+00:00

Your only insight should be from your lawyer on what your post divorce plans are.

Aside from that. Sidebar.

BigfootDragon · 2024-09-18T17:09:46+00:00

Wait a minute, isn’t this just a shit test?

GRIZZ-3 · 2024-09-18T20:59:34+00:00

There is another guy my guy

SelectAirline · 2024-09-19T00:02:39+00:00

All threats are honored. Go ahead and file for her. You can always walk it back later if necessary.

FilthMonger85 · 2024-09-19T00:03:45+00:00

How's the sex? Sounds like she's fucking someone else.

SovereignOfSelf7 · 2024-09-19T01:19:46+00:00

There’s somebody else bro.

WishMeLuck77 · 2024-09-19T17:44:04+00:00

She, she, she.. you’re here to talk about yourself and not your wife, your wife doesn’t matter at this point anymore.

Speaking of your wife though.. you might soon realize what covert contracts are, and why they get busted.

Happy busting.

lmao, 2019.. that’s almost as hilarious as the dude who was speedrunning MRP in just 5 days.

Praexology · 2024-09-18T16:55:30+00:00

Any insights?

Buying all new athleisure wear that shows her body off, hair done, make up, tanning.

Lol.

I wonder if your kids will call him by his first name, or by "Dad".

wmp_v2 · 2024-09-19T13:57:00+00:00

Found MRP in 2019, was lifting but didn’t realize how much I DEER’d or did the dancing monkey routine.

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Majestic-Comb318 1 point 21 hours ago OYS #01

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she... she... she... she...

lol. guys like you are fucking tools and deserve all the shit you get. you deserve to be cheated on. you deserve to be divorce raped. you made this happen all on your own. there's nothing to do about it at this point -- just watch the explosion.

Funny_Wolverine_9 · 2024-09-19T02:33:27+00:00

please join us /divorce_men subreddit

Title	Wife starting to threaten divorce, feels inevitable
Author	Majestic-Comb318
Upvotes	30
Comments	50
Date	September 18, 2024 4:41 PM UTC (1 year ago)
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