In the middle of a divorce and now my wife is claiming I gave her an STI, which is impossible.

justsomedude1111 · 2024-11-17T12:26:34+00:00

All you have to do is get yourself tested. If it's an STD you'll know where you stand, which is most important. If she gave you something she ought to know, right? Hit her right back with the same vocabulary and see what happens. It's pretty stupid for her to say she has an STD that you gave her, because if there's a chance she's wrong, she just admitted to cheating and now you're both in danger.

Knave7575 · 2024-11-16T16:32:42+00:00

Prove it to who?

NewDay0110 · 2024-11-16T05:50:02+00:00

Sounds like this is just an intimidation tactic. It shouldn't have any bearing on the divorce whether or not you gave her an STD. Test yourself to make sure you are OK. Just tell her you don't care and it doesn't matter anymore.

tyyyy110 · 2024-11-15T19:04:56+00:00

any update?

Sea_Emu_4259 · 2024-11-15T17:50:26+00:00

Cheating helmet: * Std check * DNA parental test for kids( don't Ask or tell her) * Hidden gps tracker if she uses the 🚗 to notice location pattern (bf place or motel). If no car one incognito in her bag

techrmd3 · 2024-11-15T16:26:43+00:00

standard tactic your Lawyer should be able to advise you how you navigate this

in practice there is a denial under oath by you and that's the end of it

I doubt if her counsel will even bring it up in court, but it would be funny because it opens up your attorney to ask her about it under oath... funny lawyer stories usually have this setup

TheWritePrimate · 2024-11-15T15:47:26+00:00

Mine did the same thing. Falsely accused me of cheating and giving her something when I literally never touched another person (sexually) from the day we met until well after she left. Just move on. Get tested, but if infidelity isn’t a factor in your jurisdiction then forget about it.

Appropriate_Wrap5890 · 2024-11-15T15:29:12+00:00

Dude, she prolly gave it to you bro, sounds like blame shifting to me. I’d really analyze her actions during this process. Also, if you are not taking notes about stuff like this, then you should start.

regertsrus · 2024-11-15T13:52:07+00:00

There is nothing to prove. The court does not care about infidelity

Exactly65536 · 2024-11-15T11:05:36+00:00

She can claim you conspired with aliens to abduct her and probe her, doesn't mean she can prove it.

Also, what's the point of proving it?

LashkarNaraanji123 · 2024-11-15T08:28:53+00:00

DARVO in action.

No_Pace2396 · 2024-11-15T07:22:58+00:00

Part of making it your fault for the marriage failing. You won’t be able to prove you weren’t because she’s already decided.

AllTheGoodys · 2024-11-15T06:50:25+00:00

If she has hpv, possible. Most people who carry don't even know, and it's also not detectable half the time (this is why everyone should get tested if they plan on entering a long term relationship where you are going to raw dog it all the time, crazy people dont). If it's not hpv though, she has been cheating and people who cheat gaslight the other person to hide the fact that they're cheating. They're hoping that you were cheating as well so maybe you think it was you.

ajackofallthings · 2024-11-15T06:29:09+00:00

Why would that matter anyway? What state are you in that they care about any of that? Unless you are beating her or the kids.. infidelity usually doesnt matter in divorce.

DivorcedDogDad69 · 2024-11-15T05:59:17+00:00

You can't prove it, you can only stay steadfast in accusing her that she's slept with someone else. What STI is it? If it's HPV, 85% of people have that and it's likely you both have had it since you met.

Title	In the middle of a divorce and now my wife is claiming I gave her an STI, which is impossible.
Author	Future-Pie-1907
Upvotes	23
Comments	30
Date	November 15, 2024 5:56 AM UTC (1 year ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/Divorce_Men
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