Being neurodiverent - like many of in pill communities are - is a gift and a curse. You probably already knew that innately inside of you, but maybe you've tended to focus on one or the other aspect of it. Perhaps like me you grew up feeling superior in school , having a photographic memory and the ability to do math like a calculator. Or perhaps, also like me, you also felt inferior to everyone because of your inability to socialize and enjoy the simple things in life that other people can, your relentless preoccupation with the mystical/divine either directly or through relentless pursuit of science, art, literature or music.

Being neurodivergent you will absolutely be a late bloomer in certain ways, missing out on key milestones and experiences that other people have. Maybe you didn't have your first kiss, or you didn't learn how to drive right away, or you didn't get a job right when you graduated. Its easy to feel like the world is passing you by when you arent having the same experiences that other people are having at the same age as you.

But at the same time, you're learning and growing in ways that other people aren't. Everything from the psychonaut exploring the depths of the human mind, the musician learning self expression, the scientist learning to the nobility of discovery. Its almost like you are given things , given certain gifts, out of order from other people. Maybe you learned to read at a much earlier age and began devouring literature. Or maybe you were born with perfect pitch. Neurodivergent people seem to have certain talents that others don't, which you might call special interests or gifts.

However, you might feel as if you missed out on certain stages of life, like being given an expert level manual on life but missing the fundamentals. This dawned on me after several experiences of taking classes in subjects which were far more advanced than my level in that particular subject. My learning curve in these situations was such that I progressed much slower than other people, and then suddenly progressed very quickly far surpassing my peers. This is I assume due to the fact that I was given the expert level material in advance of being taught the fundamentals. And I feel this can be an analogy to what life is like growing up neurodivergent. At first you feel as if you are behind everyone, but once the fundamentals of socialization and maneuvering the human world click for you, you are now able to far surpass people with a neurotypical mind.

Its for this reason that I don't think neurodivergence is either good or bad, being merely a modifier which makes life much harder at first, but then gives you the opportunity for a much higher ceiling of success than other people. Even in seduction/dating I believe this to be true. In my experience both incels and fuckbois show many of the same signs of neurodivergence. They actually have much more in common with each other than they do with normies. The same traits that can make you an incel can just as well make you a chad. From ADHD - impuslivity and lack of filter can become confidence and decisiveness. From the autistic - hyperfocus and introversion can become achievement and competence.

For every trait in the population theres a reason why it exists. There's a reason why millions of years of evolution created you. There's a reason why out of millions of sperm cells, one was able to reach the egg. You need to embrace yourself and the cards you were given.

There are people claiming that neurodivergence is the worst thing that can happen to you, especially when it comes to dating, but its not the complete truth. Yeah I have to work 10 times harder to fit in, to meet people, to connect, but no one will ever be bored of me, no one will ever replace, and no one will ever settle for me because I'm one of a kind. You either hate me or you love me, no one is going to be luke warm and tolerate me. I'll never have a midlife crisis because I already had my crisis when I was 7 years old. Im so grateful to have a life of meaning and purpose in the work that I do and the people that I am surrounding with.

To the younger neurodivergent people out there who are struggling it gets a lot better. And its ok to feel like you are behind. It might feel like its a curse but its also a gift. I think if we had more neurodivergent mentors and educators we wouldn't have such a problem with male loneliness. In a age of technology its increasingly easier for the social outcasts to become outcasted even more, and likewise the social butterflies become doubly successful. Its just as we see the rich becoming richer and the poor becoming poorer. The most well socialized among us are better connected than ever before. And the struggling socially are more isolated than ever.

Neurodivergent youth need help and that is why I personally will be dedicating my life to serving the neurodivergent community. The effect of this needs to be explored. When you go on an incel forum its hard to imagine anyone who is neurotypical making any of these posts. You see people who are ugly, people who are secretly chad level attractive, but the common thread is that none of these people are neurotypical. And that might lead you to believe that neurodivergence is a curse but its more complicated than that And its possible to actually live a life of greater meaning and purpose than other people, I promise you that. Most of the richest most successful people in the world are neurodivergent. CEOs like elon musk, jeff bezos have aspergers. Rapper like Kanye/Eminem are autistic and have ADHD. Its possible to achieve much more than you can even imagine, and its possible to fuck the baddest bitches on the planet.