Hi All, 42M separated from my STBX wife 39F for 3 months, she wants a divorce. I had a very hard time at first dealing with the heart break. Its been very difficult to move on, I found the best way is to go a minimal contact as possible (we have a child so no contact is impossible). Distancing myself from her has been helping me move on and focus on myself. Seeing her or talking to her or hugging her always triggers emotions and sets me back to square one, so I've taken the distance her approach. Now when I see her my communication is very unemotional, brief, not showing any interest in what she tells me, not asking any questions, not asking if she's ok, nothing. Just a robot making the child exchange. She asked me if I'm going to continue being cold, I said I'm not being cold just distant to protect my heart. She wants to he friends, I'm not ready, and may never be, or at least likely not until I've met someone new, which in not going to force or rush into. My question is: if there was ever a chance of her and I reconciling, would the chances of this me 0% if I never warm up to her and give her tue time if day? She's not given any indication of wanting that, and I'm certainly not going to be the one to chase her anymore, I did that already too much in the first 2 months of our separation (probably pushed her further away). So if I can never get past the phase of being distant with her, than likely a reconciliation will likely never be possible. Although I'm not even sure at this point if she wanted to try again if I would be (for the first 2 months it's all I wanted). Has anyone else ever wanted to reconcile but needed to keep distance to protect yourself that you never even gave a reconciliation a chance because you kept your heart closed indefinitely? Thanks in advance everyone for your insight.