I am not surprised that a lot of people on here struggle with dating

aslfingerspell · 2025-07-04T02:48:45+00:00

I'm sure most of us are okay 90% of the time. It's just that people come to places like this to debate the one part of life not going well, and are most motivated to post when most passionate/upset about something.

Think of it like the famous 80/20 idea. 80% of a person's posts or comments will be about their 20% lowest points in life, their top 20% hottest/controversial opinions, and so on.

I also think modern dating has a lot of structural issues that aren't individuals' fault. There's so much luck that goes into it too.

leosandlattes · 2025-07-04T03:04:10+00:00

Hating the opposite sex has never stopped anybody from getting laid. Tons of women who hate men and still get simp attention; tons of men who say vile things about women and are still getting pussy on the regular.

There is nothing to actually debate here—you are just telling people to touch grass because they debate about gender dynamics online.

Direct_Onion_8917 · 2025-07-04T02:53:00+00:00

You're getting a snippet of people's lives. I don't go spewing black pill shit to my coworkers. It's like seeing someone at the gym and thinking all they do is work out.

Clutterboxx · 2025-07-04T03:26:39+00:00

Wow people who struggle with dating tend to discuss those things online, in other news a fork was found in a kitchen today.

Puzzleheaded_ghost · 2025-07-04T03:03:26+00:00

This place is so polarizing. You won't leave here better at dating, you might even start to hate your relatives. 30% intellectual stimulation - with snarky individuals who can't, debate so they take cheap shots with lame ass debate techniques. Sorry, purple pill, if I wanted to learn, this is not the place. People here just want to win, or troll. I looked into the abyss and saw purple pill. Now I'm a blue pill troll,by imitation.

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r2k398 · 2025-07-04T03:34:25+00:00

You’d think that but then you read about the absolute losers some of these people choose to stay with. Just look at the aitah or aio subs.

Temporary-Flight-192 · 2025-07-04T03:39:43+00:00

well…….l do think there is actually is something going on culturally and it goes beyond sex and dating, although that’s a subset of the problem. People now have fewer friends than in the past, especially men. We no longer attend church, people “socialize” online, communicate through social media instead of in person….I could go on.

Most young people have been exposed to very graphic pornography of all flavors before even having their first kiss. Helicopter parents don’t let their kids have unsupervised time, more and more parents with awkward kids that overprotect them, homeschool them, medicate them…..

etc..,etc…etc

There are definitely people here with some problems, there is definitely a trend for more people having more problems with social interaction in general.

(and on this sub…autism, lots of autism)

bumblyjack · 2025-07-04T03:39:47+00:00

I came back to dating last summer after being off the market for 10 years. It took me two weeks to find the woman for me. Now, it's a year later, and we're happily engaged. Even with a successful foray into and out of the morass that is the modern dating pool, I can't help but be horrified and disgusted by what I saw. Having been away for years, the changes were glaring to me. I'm curious to see how many frogs in the pot have noticed the water start to boil. It seems quite a lot have. At least that, if nothing else, is encouraging.

MC-Purp · 2025-07-04T03:51:28+00:00

I see what you mean OP. Some of the folks do seem miserable.

kvakerok_v2 · 2025-07-04T03:20:37+00:00

Let me present you the flip side. Have you ever used cheats in a videogame, got everything and it immediately got boring? That's how dating for me is while using red pill. The absolute ease of locking down a woman, and her then introducing you to new women you can fuck is insane. it's like God Mode in some weird-ass harem game.

If I had infinite balls I could spend literally all my free time just driving between women and fucking them. But none of them are marriage material, even though almost all of them try to pretend they are. And that is very disappointing. I don't want to fuck dozens of women, I want just one I could have a family with.

Title	I am not surprised that a lot of people on here struggle with dating
Author	Mad_Mundy
Upvotes	10
Comments	38
Date	July 4, 2025 2:43 AM UTC (1 year ago)
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