How do I stop building women up in my head?

JackSquirts · 2025-07-11T19:01:16+00:00

Think of the nastiest, most rancid shit you ever took. Now, recognize she's definitely matched that and might even have a gurgle brewing right now.

And read my "lovebombing" pinned post on my profile - it talks about how most guys build up women before they know them.

coolwater85 · 2025-07-11T19:36:33+00:00

This is going to sound ridiculous, but try it.

Ever heard of the phrase “She acts like her shit don’t stink” ?

Whichever woman you are building up in your head, simply know that at some point in time (probably recently) she had a raging case of diarrhea. Like absolute liquid shits that smelled horrendous.

She’s not this perfect representation of purity, cleanliness, beauty, kindness and goodness that you think she is. She has her own self-conscious issues, sees major flaws when she looks in a mirror, feels like she does weird things, struggles with emotional maturity, overreacts to certain situations, etc.

The women you are building up are just normal people, living normal lives, with the same normal mental battles you deal with every day.

ironjawn · 2025-07-11T19:18:58+00:00

First off, what you’re describing is completely normal. It’s actually a sign that your emotions and imagination are working as designed. The key is recognizing that your feelings are signals, not truth.

I often tell guys to think in terms of the monkey mind paradigm: your primal brain will spin fantasies and longings because it’s wired for bonding, desire, even obsession. That’s its job. Your higher self - your reasoning mind - is there to manage it.

Instead of trying to suppress those thoughts, practice noticing them. Label them: This is my monkey mind building a fantasy. That simple awareness gives you distance and control.

If you want, I’d be happy to walk you through an exercise to strengthen this skill. Just DM me.

kenbsmith3 · 2025-07-11T19:59:59+00:00

Stop making them superhuman - You build them up to be above you and not at your level..... They are shitting, stinking, regular people too.

Really you just need to change your Framing device in your head. You are building them up because you don't feel worth it. Instead of "I would be lucky to get with her", it should be "We should both be excited to explore this dynamic together"

Just remember to pull out if you are not getting welcoming energy.

BravoPUA · 2025-07-11T22:00:08+00:00

Power of Now

Stop living in the future that doesn’t exist.

Many guys are stuck living in the negative past.

Both doom you and ruin the present. Which then ruins the past and future.

The way

IdeaLonely · 2025-07-11T19:11:47+00:00

Go to gym and work on yourself

DavidStamina · 2025-07-11T19:05:16+00:00

1. Visualization is actually good.

The more vivid the better. But first try to not do it with specific women. Just visualize it in general, you'll have a certain woman image in mind with which you do it.

2. The more you do it the more you'll shift your predominant vibe which radiates from you and the universe will send you the opportunities to materialize and get what you visualized.

3. The final step is then to actually GO for it when the universe begins throwing those opportunities to you.

Substantial-Bad-4508 · 2025-07-11T19:19:14+00:00

I keep building women up in my head and envisioning a future with them...

I'll assess the reason why you feel this way by asking you a question. How do you FEEL about yourself?

Nigelthornfruit · 2025-07-11T20:06:52+00:00

Gay sex

Virtual_Ad_4817 · 2025-07-11T20:32:24+00:00

Lol date a lot of them. Set multiple dates per week. It's easier now than it's ever been to do this.

Ram_Raid3001 · 2025-07-11T20:52:51+00:00

Convert energy - the energy you spent building someone else up, exert that energy into building the life you want.

LimbBisquet · 2025-07-12T00:51:03+00:00

Get a life.

burncushlikewood · 2025-07-12T02:49:58+00:00

In my life growing up I was an only child, lol so much boredom, I learned how to be independent and take care of myself, maybe you should learn to enjoy your own company and stop smothering her, all relationships are better when you give that person space

maggoznem · 2025-07-12T09:18:02+00:00

1 approach more/have more dates

New_Banana3858 · 2025-07-14T18:46:07+00:00

to be honest.... just have zero expectations and trust the process.

GDAWG37 · 2025-07-11T22:37:02+00:00

Women are shit. Just think like that. Don't hate them. Just pity them.

PhourKuhfiveSicks · 2025-07-11T19:01:28+00:00

You don't need anyone

FriendlyWrenChilling · 2025-07-12T08:19:41+00:00

You don't need to change if you don't want to. Gunwitch a technique whereby you transfer your "sexual state" requires you to do this kind of visualization to some degree. But I dont think is realistic for you until you reach some point where you become more outcome detached.

BatBottleBank · 2025-07-11T19:19:57+00:00

Remember that she fucked chad the day they met.

Title	How do I stop building women up in my head?
Author	justaydogg
Upvotes	63
Comments	34
Date	July 11, 2025 6:57 PM UTC (1 year ago)
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