Q4W: How do you deal with rejection after intimacy?

Icy_Ad_4544 · 2025-09-23T22:03:59+00:00

I was rejected all the time in my teens so I guess like most things I just got used to it. 🤷‍♀️

Idk about the 20 year olds of today but when I was growing up, most women were told since puberty that just because a man was willing to have sex with us it didn’t mean he was looking to date or wanted a relationship. So I never had that expectation from the beginning when I was trying to date.

-Shes-A-Carnival · 2025-09-23T20:34:56+00:00

go get another one the next Friday night

Lemon_gecko · 2025-09-23T20:26:12+00:00

Didn't happen. Usually I'm rejected before. After not so much. But I also don't really care what happens after. I mean there were instances when texting died off and we never saw each other again, but I expected that, it's part of hookups.

With relationship also didn't happen. I think partly because there is no point in going for a relationship to get sex with me, if anything it might hurt his chances. Partly because I know where I stand with people. And I don't suck at sex so no reason to fuck me and then reject me.

Makuta_Servaela · 2025-09-24T12:24:48+00:00

I've got other shit to do, so I guess I just get back to my other things. I might think about the past experience with him now and then, and if I liked him a lot, then I might daydream about how that relationship could have been, but that's the very most I'd do.

How do you mentally cope with being good enough for sex/fun but not for a relationship/commitment?

I don't see it as "good enough", I see it as "different". People want different things from a partner than they do from a friend or FWB. I happen to be what they like in a friend or FWB, and happen not to be what they like in a life partner. Plenty of people are like that for me as well, so I get it. Nothing wrong with it.

AngeAware · 2025-09-23T19:48:38+00:00

The neat part about waiting until marriage is that you don't have to deal with it

EulenWatcher · 2025-09-23T19:46:32+00:00

Have never had to deal with it. I was rejected when I asked a guy out as a teenager, but I’ve never been intimate with a guy to get rejected/ghosted.

I think women who find themselves in this patterns should get men better, wait for a bit before they have sex, and maybe go to therapy.

My_House_on_Mars · 2025-09-23T20:59:42+00:00

Don't women initiate most divorces?

Like you deal with anything in life, be upset for a while and move on. Guys get rejected after intimacy all the time too, couples break up all the time.

How is this a question?

kmb218 · 2025-09-23T23:18:55+00:00

It’s impossible to be wanted for a relationship by everyone. Rejection is a normal part of life. Being rejected does not mean there is something wrong with you neccesarily, you just might not click with a specific person.

What helps is seeing that noone is exempt from rejection, pretty much everyone I know who has ever dated, even the very attractive people, has been rejected at some point.

Of course it might be sad or disappointing in the moment, but luckily for me, it passes pretty quickly thanks to my mindset.

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CancerMoon2Caprising · 2025-09-23T21:16:51+00:00

Idk. I picked my prior fwb. There was no catching feelings for them so there wasnt a "rejection feeling". They didnt have many relationship qualities to begin with, so it was a retty straightfoward arrangement.

After my last 2 relationships, the sex was so good and consistent that a fwb is a step down now. So i didnt really indulge in casual sex after that. Im strictly relationship-only sex right now. Casual sex is like a 7/10 vs. relationship sex a 10/10. Ive had some amazing fwb but boyfriend sex was beyond that. This switch happened from sexual discovery and compatibility. The only time we ever turned each other down was when we were sick. I wouldnt interrupt his sleep if he seemed really tired. There was mutual courtesy there, which is top tier. I like sex daily to every other day. (Before and After work). But thats the gist of my sex life.

I vett the men that I date for sexual compatibility (roles, fetishes, orientation). And if we dont align, he's disqualified as bf material (for me).

So i dont really deal with casual sex relationship rejection or dead bedroom.

mar-uh-wah-nuh · 2025-09-24T04:07:51+00:00

I've never been rejected by a man. I've rejected several men who wanted to turn a sexual relationship with me into something more serious.

Title	Q4W: How do you deal with rejection after intimacy?
Author	AnonTheGreat01
Upvotes	4
Comments	32
Date	September 23, 2025 7:01 AM UTC (9 months ago)
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