Any guys 5'4" or shorter doing amazing in dating ?

Bin2Good · 2025-09-24T12:22:02+00:00

Get jacked, real jacked. Grow a thick skin, real thick. Then practice being social and charismatic.

hunterpua · 2025-09-24T16:01:48+00:00

My best friend and one of the best seducers I know is 5'4".

He's known among our circle for dating girls taller than him.

He doesn't try to play like he's tall, he leans into being short and uses it to his advantage. He always says stuff like, "You're lovely but you wouldn't wanna date me, I easily disappear into a crowd and next thing you know, some other chick is chatting me up", he teases girls by calling them his mom, he playfully guilt trips them by saying stuff like, "Oh sure, push around the short guy", he makes them prove themselves to him by actively preferring taller girls and asks them stuff like whether they can reach the top shelf or the overhead storage compartment in planes.

He also taught me the mindset of, "If she likes you, she likes you."

What that means is most guys disqualify themselves. If they can't think of any reasons why girls would be into them then they think they're not attractive.

My friend doesn't think about that at all. He let's the girls worry about giving the reasons.

This post and the line of thinking that its coming from is just not something that crosses his mind. He doesn't ask this question. He doesn't care about the answer. He just goes and flirts with women with all the audacity in the world and let's them worry about justifying their choices.

Right now he's dating a 5'10" German girl who always gets things from the top shelf for him. Lol

So consider that maybe a lot of your dating problems are actually coming from your own limiting beliefs.

Sure, some women have said it themselves that they prefer taller guys but that doesn't have to apply to you. Don't go into an interaction assuming what she feels, be like my friend instead and just think, "If she likes me, she likes me."

Ok_Island4769 · 2025-09-24T12:33:16+00:00

Get lean and date a 5 ft girl

Chroro · 2025-09-24T12:58:30+00:00

5'5 here. Doing somewhat ok, just broke off like 3 months ago due to differences in belief. She was religious while I am an atheist. I didn't see it working out in the long term despite liking her a lot. She was the same height as me too, she said she didn't think she would date a guy that is the same height as her, but then said she loved me for who I am. I broke it off on good terms.

It kinda gave me the confidence I needed to keep trying and made me realize my self-worth. I truly believe girls that don't care for things that are out of your control are worth pursuing. Keep trying!

Kierenbrowncoach · 2025-09-24T16:14:41+00:00

Your height is only a dealbreaker if you let it be. Women are not out here carrying tape measures. They’re scanning for energy, presence, and the way you make them feel when you walk in the room. I’ve coached men shorter than you who were dating women half a foot taller because they carried themselves like kings, not applicants begging for approval.

If you see yourself as “the short guy,” you’ll project insecurity and women will mirror that back to you. If you see yourself as the prize, the spark in the room, she’ll feel it before she even clocks your height. Your energy sets the frame, not the inches on your driving license. Your edge comes from doubling down on what you can control: style, physique, charisma, and the boldness to flirt. When you ooze confidence, you’ll be surprised how many women can be secretly turned on despite the height difference.

Stop looking for motivation and start stacking wins. Approach, flirt, escalate. Build a life so magnetic that women want to be part of it regardless of how tall you stand. Attraction is a game of energy, not centimeters. Own your presence and women will respond to the man, not the measurement.

No-Compote-2127 · 2025-09-24T12:59:44+00:00

I know 2 short men of that height with complete opposite dating lives. Both grew up in similar environments in the same area, to roughly similar socioeconomic backgrounds.

One is my older cousin, dude is chill as zen, pretty awesome to hang out, takes care of his look well and used to pull real baddies in his heyday. I never heard him say anything remotely insecure about himself or others for the matter of fact. I also can't remember him saying or doing anything to make you feel at tense, offended or insecure about yourself. He has this magnetic attitude of someone who adds fun to the party, is chill to hang around and simply in the present moment.

On the other hand other guy is much more tense, he has years of built up insecurity and furstration that kinda radiates outside of himself. Aside from being boring as hell, he has a weird habbit of putting unintentional tensions in social situations. That along with being somewhat opinionate and with little social skills makes it an awkward and difficult person to invite at events.

Bottom line is, just let go of any effort to try controlling situations, chill and have fun.

Classicalesp · 2025-09-24T16:03:31+00:00

im 5'5 and doing pretty good

bagman_ · 2025-09-24T16:11:30+00:00

I have a short friend that resembles a brown jack nicholson and he does just fine. Get your charisma up and make some money + hit the gym

ProdiLemaj · 2025-09-24T12:34:55+00:00

5’7” and I’m failing miserably in dating. I’ve seen shorter guys than me be successful though. Charisma goes a long way, I just don’t have any.

_islander · 2025-09-24T14:31:49+00:00

5’3” here. My dating life can be divided in two: until I was about 30, I had a tough time with women. I was deeply insecure, shy and pitied myself for being short.

Once I worked on myself (a long process of several years), my outlook on life changed and success with women followed. I’ve been married and on long-lasting relationships with women who I consider “out of my league” ever since.

I consider myself average looking, not jacked, average build, but I do exercise regularly and take care of my appearance. Sometimes I look at myself in the mirror and wonder “how the fuck am I so lucky?”. The difference was my attitude. Hope that helps!

Next-Length-7691 · 2025-09-24T12:28:33+00:00

Same hight here. Doing like shit feeling lonely. I do sometimes pull it off because I'm funny and follow "Harry Has" youtube channel on how to wear stylish clothes. I get compliments on my clothes and that's usually the starting point of talking stage

rich_god · 2025-09-24T13:30:11+00:00

5'5 here, height is not an issue if you don't make it one. It's actually a pro in many aspect : easier to look jacked, less intimidating, better hugging height... I have a lot of success and height is not even relevant.

Smitch250 · 2025-09-24T14:02:32+00:00

Are you jacked? Thats your meal ticket. Wear boots with inserts and squeeze out 5’6” on that 1st date. Thats what my dad did and it landed him my mom who is two inches taller. She says she doubts she would have ever accepted the 1st date if she knew he was shorter than her but once they met the rest is history so its the best way. The only way? May the force be with ya. My dad is 5’6.5” and my mom is 5’8.5”

Old-Pick-3997 · 2025-09-24T15:42:32+00:00

I'm 5'3". And surprisingly ever since I started online dating. I have gotten better than my previous years in dating to the point I already have 2 girl FWBs. No girlfriend atm but that's ok, I'm just going with the flow. If it's meant to be then it's meant to be. I'm from the Philippines also so at least there are not too many tall girls here. :D

What helped me in getting better at dating personally are these:
1. Getting jacked but still at the lean side
2. Dress well and boldly that I stand out from every guy
3. Having a good hairstyle that actually matches my face shape and looks
4. Good skincare routine
5. Being really social even as an Introvert (INFJ)
6. Filling my time with actual hobbies other than social media and video games (Drawing, Coffee Brewing, Reading, Weightlifting, etc)
7. Making friends with girls so that I have more wing-women or a connection to other girls.
8. I stopped chasing validation and stopped being needy with girls.
9. Focused on my purpose and what I want to do in life
10. Self Help Books such as Atomic Habits by James Clear and How to Make Friends and Influence People by Dale Carnegie

Existing-Big-3039 · 2025-09-24T14:00:44+00:00

Height has absolutely NOTHING to do with your success or failure with dating. I'm 6'4, and can't get anywhere with women, while I see much shorter guys having great success.

Squali_squal · 2025-09-24T16:38:41+00:00

Ppl keep saying get jacked. You know how long it takes to get jacked. Good luck brother

sirensoflove · 2025-09-24T18:21:58+00:00

5'4/5'5" and dating a hot cougar who's feeding me and treating me out😳😳😳

sirensoflove · 2025-09-24T18:57:15+00:00

im 5'4 and i dated a pretty girl for 3 years bro! and recently been back on the dating market. dating apps kind of suck but I'm getting dates every now and then but fumbling some pretty girls. right now seeing a milf and have a few dates lined up with some cute girls after updating my pics. so you can do it!

edit - im also skinny as shit!

thegreat4 · 2025-09-24T18:58:05+00:00

My stepbrother but he has the confidence of a 7 footer

KimchiWave84 · 2025-09-24T22:32:04+00:00

5'4 is totally workable... i see it more through a design lens but composition matters more than size. confidence reads in your posture, how you move through space, eye contact. photography taught me that presence trumps measurements every time. height becomes irrelevant when someone's genuinely interesting to be around

adolfop_420 · 2025-09-24T23:01:36+00:00

Don’t get crazy jacked cuz then u look like a tool but definitely have thick skin and a great sense of humor if u make her laugh you already winning lol

NeonRoll_Sushi · 2025-09-24T23:55:24+00:00

practice talking to everyone during daily interactions. cashiers, baristas, coworkers. builds confidence without pressure

ArjunVermaReddit · 2025-09-24T12:59:30+00:00

For whatever its worth Im 5'10 and dating is really hard though I try my best

ThatChromeCR · 2025-09-24T15:55:15+00:00

aw man there’s this asian guy that goes to my gym that cant be more than 5’1. but he’s tatted like hes in the yakuza and wears a durag and i see EVERYBODY talking to him. i even catch him talking this really cute curly hair latina whos like 1 inch shorter than him all the time. so it can be done! your swagger and charisma has to be on point though

epimpstyle · 2025-09-24T13:07:08+00:00

Phill Heitlinger, Justin Marc

michaelchief · 2025-09-24T13:29:02+00:00

5‘5“ here. Many would say I am doing amazing in dating. Even wrote a book about it. I will echo what some other commenters are saying here that practicing charisma goes a very, very long way. It is absolutely a learnable skill.

And remember that being short gives you a genetic advantage: it's easier to look jacked whereas taller people will need to spend a lot more time and effort to build that much muscle. Take advantage of your genetics. Hit the gym.

Used_Outside1592 · 2025-09-24T15:29:11+00:00

Take it from a 6'4 guy that can't get a girlfriend

It does not matter just be comfortable with yourself and let the love you for you

Independent-Still-73 · 2025-09-24T13:30:33+00:00

I'm 6'0 so what do I know but it seems to me there are plentyyyy of women 5'4 and under and if you have adequate 'game' and attraction your height would matter a lot less to them.

db1139 · 2025-09-24T14:07:34+00:00

I killed it when in college, and I tend to do well when meeting people in person. Actually broke up with a girl recently. The apps generally don't work for me though.

Anyway, I've done all the things people stereotypically tell you to do. I'm short, but I'm muscular, funny (to some people), well traveled, well read, do volunteer work, have plenty of friends and a very good job. I'm far from perfect and definitely have things to improve on. However, the mix of all that helps. Honestly, I don't know if I'd ever get a date if I wasn't muscular, but that might be in my head.

robroythedrink · 2025-09-24T14:28:51+00:00

A little taller at 5’7 but also brown and maybe a 6 at best in looks.

Recently got a coffee with a girl, nothing crazy but she was the one who initiated me on social, and was enthusiastic the whole time and is open to hanging out again.

A few things that have made a ton of difference for me recently: -I started working on something im passionate about and putting it out on social -I’m watching way less porn -I’m staying active/working out and going outside, hiking, running etc -im watching yt content like Owen cook and Todd v bc i resonate way more with less attractive guys who find success -im fully internalizing that i can create whatever reality i want by just being delusional and stubborn till something works. Literally whatever I have to say to not get discouraged and stop doing things, i say it and keep moving. And when it’s hard, i remember that the nature of life in this universe is supposed to be hard and unfair, and that nothing good comes easy, so you can either cry about it, or you can keep working because you know eventually something’s gonna work out for you.

AltruisticAsk5080 · 2025-09-24T15:55:10+00:00

Bro I am 6 feet tall , slim fit physique

Yet not doing well in dating scene

Fantastic-Life-2024 · 2025-09-24T15:56:19+00:00

I know a guy but he has allegedly a horse cock.

Title	Any guys 5'4" or shorter doing amazing in dating ?
Author	pakipipipu
Upvotes	63
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Date	September 24, 2025 12:14 PM UTC (9 months ago)
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