I'm at the hate stage for her now

True-Tale3450 · 2025-11-18T16:17:59+00:00

Be strong you can get through this and come out a better person. One day you will meet someone better suited for you and all this will be just a bad memory.

Adventurous_Map_292 · 2025-10-31T20:22:45+00:00

Go to the gym. Work on yourself. Read. Don’t get hammered. Become the man that no woman will ever want to deny. Practice meditation and mindfulness. Use sauna and cold plunge to manage anxiety.

DivorcedStoic · 2025-10-29T23:05:14+00:00

Hatred is only going to get in the way.

darealyst · 2025-10-29T19:59:25+00:00

Its a wave. The first time you get mad, it lasts 2 months, the next time 1 month, the next, 2 weeks. And so on. Eventually its all done and you don't get mad anymore.

Keep your eyes on the finish line.

Acceptable_Piano4809 · 2025-10-29T01:50:58+00:00

It’s a MARATHON not a sprint, that’s for all family litigation. I’ve been at my divorce 3 years.

Ho_Fart · 2025-10-29T00:29:42+00:00

Just got to this stage. I’m not a hateful person but holy shit do I hate that woman

hhh888hhhh · 2025-10-28T20:35:52+00:00

It won’t be the last phase. Sadly.

Coffeecankicker · 2025-10-28T15:41:34+00:00

I’m at the hate/miss you part. I saw her the other day and I want to scream at her for all she’s done to me but instead just turned around and walked the other way.

Beamformer · 2025-10-28T15:26:29+00:00

The opposite of love is Apathy.

Funny_Object_5538 · 2025-10-28T14:27:54+00:00

Necessary step. Enjoy it

Candidate_Worldly · 2025-10-28T13:41:47+00:00

Yes its quite refreshing. A much more sensible emotion than pining for someone who destroyed the family and burnt everything to the ground.

Heavy_Guitar_4848 · 2025-10-28T12:49:31+00:00

Hate gives you energy that should be used in positive ways. I ran on it for a while but the crash out phase happens at some point. Looking back that was also good because changes came from that too.

ClippedWinng · 2025-10-28T12:34:14+00:00

I'm in between that stage and acceptance. As long as she leaves me alone and I don't hear from her, I'm happy and loving my best life. When the topic is about our kids, its just monotone talk. When its anything else, I roll my eyes and have to work on not being rude.

I dont want to be in the anger stage and talk about it in therapy, but I also don't see the need to be on friendly terms.

mrwizard65 · 2025-10-28T11:50:10+00:00

Sit with and analyze the hate, don’t live with it. Catch it, release it at the gym. Hate is the path to the dark side.

MiloGoesToPorridge · 2025-10-28T07:34:40+00:00

Yup, the hate stage is definitely better than the initial wounded sad bit, absolutely. I remember enjoying it a bit.

Try not to wallow in it too long, hate is just carrying hot coals in your pocket and hoping it burns the other person. It's not good for you man.

MonkeyBranchBuster · 2025-10-28T06:58:57+00:00

Haha, I remember the phase, it came back a few times but it stops. Don't leave us for good buddy, drop in sometime to tell us about your glow up and upgrade.

Immediate-Story2562 · 2025-10-28T06:04:54+00:00

The grief of an end to marriage is a rollercoaster. Hope you can ride it with dignity.
All the best and hope everything works out for you my guy!

Title	I'm at the hate stage for her now
Author	BeginningProgress551
Upvotes	57
Comments	21
Date	October 28, 2025 6:01 AM UTC (9 months ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/Divorce_Men
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