This probably came naturally for a bunch of you but was something I never picked up on until I had some failures. In my experience, girls find it a massive turn off when I’m willing to move my day around to sleep with them.

There was a girl I’d been hooking up with for a bit. We were talking about our day and I mentioned I was grabbing dinner with my dad later, who lives in the same city. She said she was horny that afternoon and I told her I could always get dinner another day and her response was “If you really cancel your dinner for that then I’m going to be pissed off with you”.

Same exact thing with a long term ex. We had some plans later on and I was going to see some friends earlier in the day. We were on the phone and landed on the topic of sex. I offered to have her come over instead and she went “Ew don’t cancel your plans for sex”. Almost any guy friend of mine wouldn’t have cared if I canceled for this reason, some probably would’ve said congrats.

In my experience, most women don’t grasp that sex doesn’t come easy to most guys. An average guy can be looking for a hookup for weeks/months without success. The average woman could find a guy to have sex with in an hour, if they really wanted. They don’t realize this gap exists, and you being willing to move your day around comes off as extremely needy, which turns them off. Think about it, how many times has a woman dropped everything to come have sex with you?

There are of course some exceptions to this rule, if a woman wants you really badly, she won’t give a fuck what you do in order to see her. But generally speaking, unless she explicitly tells you to stop what you’re doing, don’t tell her you’re bailing on something just to fuck her.