Fellas be careful. M31 been with my wife for just about 17 years and married for 12. Together since we were 15 and 14. We have three kids together and have had open communication since day one so the fact that it took so long to find this is crazy (But I think it could’ve had something to do with me backing up her phone and a bunch of emails came in the other day). Just found a five year to now present email thread on my wife’s Gmail with details embedded in the source codes!! “HTML text, mime version, etc”. It was the weirdest thing when I noticed it. Like why do you have 45 blank pay rent reminder emails coming in on the same day from 530 at night to 4 o’clock in the morning some days? And I just always happen to be gone when they came in? But I guess they’re encrypted or something so they delete? “I got one to pop up saying the message is deleted or no longer here”. That’s why I need some sort of computer expert or decoder expert I would pay lovely PayPal, cash app anything if you’re able to decode even one message. It’s crazy because you can see that there’s two IP addresses. Denies everything. Never saw that. All she’s saying is she set a reminder for the rent that she hasn’t paid in 10+ years since I started providing for her and it’s not like she was texting me to do it when I was the one physically paying it every month but that’s neither here nor there. I just need these emails for proof so I can physically stop the gaslighting and accept what’s happened. Ya know? This is 17 years of my life I was with this woman. We were together longer on this earth than we’ve been apart. Just sad man. But maybe she’s right and I’m just crazy. Maybe her having her notepad on labtop open with one of the emails source codes copy and pasted when I found it and went to go do it, is me being crazy. The computer that she just got a couple months ago for her birthday and is the only person that has touched that computer since we got it. She refuses to say that she did that even though there’s another notepad tab open right next to it, which she clearly did. Sorry for ranting guys. 17 years. If anybody knows how to decode emails or hack them (she’s ok with doing it and wants me to do it and will be right there when done, at her dad’s right now. 🤷🏼‍♂️) I would greatly appreciate any advice. 🙏 note* she is not acting like a normal innocent person would, she’s showing all the stereotypes of guilty. I feel it in my soul. If I’m wrong, I couldn’t trust myself with anything ever again just based off her mannerisms and we’ve been together for so long! It’s just feels “different”.