What is your success rate?

becomesharp · 2025-12-06T10:45:09+00:00

Expect 90-100% blow outs for the first several HUNDRED approaches if youre new and not naturally talented or demographically disadvantaged.

Cold approach is one of the most difficult social things to do in the world, and youre doing it as a brand new guy, with potentially no natural advantages. Youre going to get blow outs. A lot of them. It's part of the process, and frankly, its a good thing because it prevents most guys from ever becoming your competition because the barrier to entry is so high.

Ask any good standup comedian how many times he's bombed when first starting out. CONSTANTLY. Same deal.

CelicnisGhost · 2025-12-06T11:17:04+00:00

Cold approach is going to have a low success rate now matter how you go about it.

Coaches/PUAs maximize their odds by going after girls showing IoIs.

Don't worry about the success rate too much. If you want success, go for the friend approach. I have incredibly high success meeting girls through friends, I have gone to second base with literally 100% of them, and sealed the deal with almost all.

barlowaplesand · 2025-12-06T12:43:23+00:00

I think the trick is to just truly embrace the numbers game.

Like many people when tehy first discover 'game' and all that stuff, you buy into the marketing that you can basically 'control'/create her attraction. Like it's in your hands.

But after years of experimenting with the 'technique's in the books and even watching 'coaches' get killed in the field, it becomes super obvious that it truly is just a numbers game. e.g when you get rejected, there's nothing that you could have said or done to get the girl. There's typically nothing at all to 'learn from the rejection' other than you just weren't her type. Approaching the same girl in a 'ground hog day' situation trying all kinds of different 'methods' (puhspull, mysterymethod, direct game blablalba) would have given the same result

But it's kind of liberating when you accept it, tbh. You don't 'dwell' on the rejection at all. There's no 'pressure'. I just think of it as 'tidner in person'. An apporach is a 'swipe'. She will either 'swipe back' (be receptive, help the convo along, flirt etc) or she won't.

InFoolSpate · 2025-12-06T14:19:27+00:00

Success rate: 4 dates per 38 approaches

Interviewpalm · 2025-12-06T15:04:16+00:00

i think it will vary SO MUCH by things like your location, height, build, age, type of girl you go for etc

I used to have 2 friends who both had amazing game. One of them got laid on a huge percentage of his approaches. Better than i've ever seen from the coaches we all know of. And the other dude who wasn't anywhere near as classically handsome DID get laid some, but his hit rate was a million times worse

jackthehat6 · 2025-12-06T10:42:07+00:00

it's not a metric worth worrying about

I mean, lets say you are 60 and you only approach absolutely beautiful 18-21 year olds. YOu could have the BEST 'game' on planet earth and get rejected 1000 times in a row and then get laid with number 1001

Or you could have very average game, but you are tall and handsome with a chiseled jaw, 26, and you mainly approach average girls around your age. You could literally get laid on like 75% of approaches

Tom torerro and The famous London day gamers used to say they get laid on every 40 approaches or so. However, Tom (and others) literally faked infields so it's probably fair to assume they lied about that number too! So maybe THEY get laid once every 100 appraoches or so.

And so in reality, this whole thing is just a numbers game

End of the day, it's not really about your 'game'. She just needs to be attracted to you. If she is, the amount of 'game' you need is the same level of game teh normal dude off the street has. If she is NOT attracted to you at all, you could practice pushpull and the rest of it 8 horus per day, but you still won't get THAT girl in bed (since she wasn't, and won't be sexually attracted to you)

InvestigatorFull1364 · 2025-12-06T14:32:00+00:00

A lay per 30-60 approaches is advanced. As a beginner, expect no success for a long time. But dont sweat about it, once it clicks it is very worth it.

Here is the journey summarized: https://coffeedaygame.wordpress.com/2025/11/07/how-to-get-laid-with-daygame/
And here is the mentality of approaching: https://coffeedaygame.wordpress.com/2025/08/23/the-initial-stop/

theadoringfan216 · 2025-12-06T10:06:12+00:00

This is if you're good.

I can't remember the exact number but I know it was for every 30 approaches you should get one lay.

barlowaplesand · 2025-12-06T11:40:19+00:00

a dating coach on here posted quite a few FR's recently. Might give a rough estimate

TuneSoft7119 · 2025-12-06T13:58:30+00:00

ThatDarnSmell · 2025-12-06T18:01:44+00:00

It was usually a waste of time as far as actually finding a girlfriend. But it was fine in the sense of practicing. My current girlfriend I found through a mutual female friend and most of my previous girlfriends were through local volleyball and climbing groups. My ex-wife was through OLD and I no longer use it. People overlook social game. It's worked the best for me, at least.

barlowaplesand · 2025-12-06T20:56:55+00:00

Are you using pushpull?? that's supposed to create extreme attraction and if you do it, you should be getting most girls you approach

google pushpull lines

Broad-Cranberry-9050 · 2025-12-09T19:24:43+00:00

Like another guy said, expect more rejections than successes.

One of my favorite scenes about this is from HIMYM. If you havent seen it barney (the womanizer of the group) is praisisng himself for getting his 100th hookup. Marshall (has only ever been with his wife) tells him he's actually not that good at picking up girls because if you do his average from the amount of girls he hooks up with to the ones he flirts with it showed he only pulls like 5% of girls he flirts with.

That's the thing, I get right now you arent getting any. As you get better you will get more successes but dont expect it to be every time. Be ok with rejection. The guys you think pull all the time dont have great success rates either. They just dont care if they get the number or not, they are being themselves and being result independent. A good night for them is not the numbers they got, it was living the moment.

You are early in this process, it's not going to go great at first. That's normal. Dont give up and work on your social skills. Talk to guys and girls. You need to learn to approach a stranger, be charismatic and not expect anything in return. Go to a party and have fun with your friends.

JackSquirts · 2025-12-11T00:08:28+00:00

Probably 10% of the time I ask for a number or a date and I get it about 80% of those times. I don't spray and pray though - I approach who I find attractive and escalate based on how the convo goes. If I don't feel like it's going really well (or I missed a ring or something), I don't bother escalating. Of those numbers, I'll reach out to about 2/3 of them and end up on a date about half of the time. So if we're doing the math here, I get a date out of approximately 1/30 or 1/40 approaches lead to something. Kinda pulled that out of my ass, but it feels right.

humpaa1 · 2025-12-06T10:30:40+00:00

Go to krakow

rishi02- · 2025-12-06T14:21:31+00:00

Just date women who look uglier than you , that will increase your success rate by at least by 30%.

Communication is key remember

Title	What is your success rate?
Author	Sure-Guest1588
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Date	December 6, 2025 10:04 AM UTC (8 months ago)
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