6 months into relationship, What would you do?

Lacunaethra · 2026-03-05T13:19:26+00:00

so next time if I will be single I know I can get a lot of girls that I want

I'd be interested in your gf's perspective about that.

professionalfumblr · 2026-03-05T13:00:49+00:00

What

maybematcha · 2026-03-05T13:56:07+00:00

Stop wasting her youth

Yellow-Kid · 2026-03-05T13:36:14+00:00

For a 32 y/o you might want to start thinking what you want and when, if you are only in the relationship to learn and you don’t fully “love” the girl to start a real commitment, do the girl and yourself a favor and break up with her. Also if there is nothing else to learn, being with other women might be more “productive”, that way you get to have more viewpoints, different personalities, etc. and you don’t end up asking yourself “if that’s the way other girls are”, “are they all like this”, “ I’m tripping or is something going on with her”.

Blakebaby03 · 2026-03-05T15:41:48+00:00

Stop wasting time brother.

I had a similar relationship a few months ago, and now with clarity I liked her so much but it was a lot of time down the drain. You both deserve someone who is 'head over heels' for each other, and its obviously not this relationship.

norwegiandoggo · 2026-03-05T15:04:42+00:00

Some people are susceptible to the FOMO (fear of missing out) with other women and they are never 100% sure about anyone. That's OK, but it's just perspective on the whole thing. Others do feel 100% sure about someone. It all depends on your personality and how you two match.

To me, it sounds like you're not even 90% sure about her. Maybe it's time to break up if feel like you're below 90%. The way you write - it does sound to me like you should break up. You don't seem very enthusiastic about her. It's almost like you're just staying with her for continued convenience and learning. Not much else. That is not a good enough reason to stay, in my opinion.

If you are the type of person that wants to date around, but also enjoys the comfort of a relationship. Then you have to choose if you want to have several shorter relationships in succession, or if you prefer an open relationships with one primary and multiple lovers. Or polyamory where you have like 2 girlfriends at the same time.

Or - just live with the tradeoff where you give up either freedom or comfort. Like: Be in the relationship while feeling FOMO. OR, become single but miss out on the comfort. Most people just choose one of these and accept the trade-off. You can't always get everything you want.

Matter_Still · 2026-03-05T17:26:12+00:00

“I learn so much about relationships being with you even though you’re not my type. And the things I’ve learned about sex will come in handy with the kind of person I really want.”

Imagine if she told you that.

Certain_Process_7657 · 2026-03-05T14:44:30+00:00

Reading between the lines it sounds like she's on the heavier side than your ideal type. That's usually what the hidden meaning of "cute" is. Good enough to sleep with for a few months but just not attractive enough for long term keeper potential since you're not proud to introduce her to friends/family.

I've been there more times than I'd like to admit but it typically just lasts a couple weeks or maybe 3 months max. Don't waste any more of her time or yours. 6 months is plenty of time to have figured out if there's serious long term potential.

Just dissolve it bro. Wish you the best.

vandeley_industries · 2026-03-05T14:27:21+00:00

If this is your first relationship it skews how you think. The most common stereotype is holding onto the first relationship you have (especially at an older age) so the fact you’re not tells me this isn’t it. However, you gotta be ready to actually be done. I thought the same thing with my last until it ended then I was like “fuck, I didn’t recognize what I had”. It was still the right move to leave, but you have to be prepared for the reeling feelings if they come.

Back2theCouture · 2026-03-05T14:53:06+00:00

I can’t give you any opinion because I can’t see the whole picture.

But to tell you the truth, “keeping this one until the better one comes along” is not controversial in women’s world. Especially the ones who fall into “this is not my first rodeo.” Seen too many times in my life how many women I personally know do this. Changing boyfriends 3-5 times a year is a norm in their world. They always believe they could get guys who are better looking and financially-better guys than their current bf. So truly I’m not judging their morality or yours. Whatever float your boat.

But maybe if I were you I wouldn’t give her false signs that you’re very serious with her. I wouldn’t love-bomb her or anything like that. Or getting very close emotionally that she always clings to you.

A1Horizon · 2026-03-05T16:02:34+00:00

Don’t waste her time man. Don’t use her to learn if you have no intention of learning for her sake and for some potential future woman instead.

JRMiel · 2026-03-05T14:34:50+00:00

I totally understand what you mean.

I was on the exact same situation as you. First girlfriend in my 30s. She was nice, had good time with her. But impossible to tell if I was in love with her or more in love with the situation of being in a relationship.

Finally she decided to end our relationship quite early.

I do not miss her. But still miss the benefits of being in a relationship

It will not help you. But just saying that you are not alone feeling what you experience right now

Aggressive_Special25 · 2026-03-05T15:39:24+00:00

Relationship needs a destination. Yours is a dead end. Why continue? Waisting your time

dryagedsalmon · 2026-03-05T15:46:00+00:00

Crazy because the girl I’m seeing just told me the same thing LOL

Jack26918 · 2026-03-05T21:56:26+00:00

You should see what SHE thinks. Is she aware of this?

Rama_Karma_22 · 2026-03-05T22:12:07+00:00

Stop wasting this girls time and try dating a woman and get back to us.

dismal626 · 2026-03-05T22:34:31+00:00

You shouldn't be getting into relationships just to "learn about girls". That's not fair to women who genuinely might be into you because you're just leading them on.

Frosty_Connection867 · 2026-03-05T22:51:31+00:00

You're just using her to get more experience with girls, why did you agree to be her boyfriend? Why didn't you just agree to something casual, now you're gonna hurt her feelings because you were deceptive about what yoy wanted, you're being selfish, break up with her now so yoh don't lead her on more

Affectionate_Boss657 · 2026-03-05T14:31:53+00:00

Not even in a relationship

Thierr · 2026-03-05T16:18:15+00:00

What do you think, should I break up because I am not 100% sure about her?

I think a good place to start would be finding out your attachment style in a test. To me it sounds like you are avoidant attached (like many on this board) and it's a good thing to know if you actually dont like her that much or you're just unconciously afraid of commitment.

spicymuffinss · 2026-03-06T05:46:09+00:00

post a pic of yourself buddy

Solcannon · 2026-03-06T06:20:22+00:00

You sound shallow AF. Like all you ever looked for in women is looks and sex. Not once do you mention things you like or dislike. You think she is attractive, but you see her as an object to learn from to find a more attractive woman. One that you can justify dealing with her personality because she is at least more attractive.

You will never be happy that way because you base the quality of the girl solely on how attractive she is. Even if you land a more attractive one, you don't give a flying fuck about anything else. So everything about them and their lives is an annoyance to you. You will constantly be looking to, "trade up".

Good luck with that.

You should get tested for personality disorders and should seek therapy. Otherwise you will wake up and wonder why nobody has chosen to stick by you in your life.

ev3rm0r3 · 2026-03-06T06:50:50+00:00

The moment you said " i know I can get a lot of girls ", you just became a dating narcisistist. GL bud, and I hope she finds the right man to be in her life. If i could forward this post to her I would.

Doki_Doki_Doki · 2026-03-06T12:38:50+00:00

you're learning and growing, which is cool, but ask yourself: are you truly present with her or just using her as a stepping stone? if it's the latter, be honest and keep it real with her.

KanyeWesticles95 · 2026-03-07T02:43:28+00:00

you’re basically asking if it’s ok to have a practice gf. if you don’t care about wasting someone’s time then sure.

but it seems morally bankrupt since she’s in a dead end relationship as her prime baby making years fade away for you to simply get experience

think about it like this, you’re also wasting your time - you could be using this time to find a real long term partner instead of wasting time on a placeholder

LordPoopyIV · 2026-03-07T16:20:31+00:00

You tell her that you want to talk about your feelings and thoughts you have been having, how much your relationship means to you, and how much you have learned. And that this includes unfulfilled desires. You just share your thoughts snd feelings, while being careful about hers, and then you ask how she feels about this.

Either she can't handle it, and you can break up in a fair way, or she understands, and you can start talking about how much freedom you can allow eachother to explore other people. There is no reason you can't just talk about these things. Usually you ease into it, allowing each other one step at a time, talking it over and seeing how you each feel, and eventually you can have threesomes

If you just talk openly about what you want and take her feelings into account you are that much more valuable as a partner. And you can get away with a lot more than if you keep secrets

ResentCourtship2099 · 2026-03-05T13:06:19+00:00

What do you mean that she's not your cup of tea

Title	6 months into relationship, What would you do?
Author	Joy_Boy_12
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Date	March 5, 2026 12:53 PM UTC (5 months ago)
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