Most of all I want book or article recommendations on this topic.

I've been thinking about why people become pedophiles and came to the thought that pedophiles aren't really worse than people who over power and rape women or take advantage of someone intoxicated. This lead to me thinking how predatory behaviors as a whole are bad. Strange thought but I've always believed if my loved ones were killed I could get revenge by killing someone else but I would never rape someone else as a form of revenge. What makes killing ok but not rape? To me its the power dynamic. I have no interest in a situation where the power dynamic make me feel empowered to rape someone. Well why would anyone else feel empowered to rape? Probably because they don't view the other person as an autonomous being. I think when we dehumanize people we also believe they lose their autonomy. In a situation where someone doesn't have autonomy, predators would believe there is no problem with preying on this person. I would never do this because I believe people ALWAYS have autonomy and that its intrinsic to life itself. This is how it leads to bigotry. Bigoted beliefs such as racism, sexism/misogyny, homophobia, classism, and more have built in power dynamics that disproportionately favor one party. This power dynamic then give the favored party the "right" take advantage of the "lesser" party. When I think about applying this logic to multiple situations it still holds as far as I can tell. Example, 2 college aged people go on a date, and the man over powers the woman and rapes her. It seems as if this man think women are not their equal(dehumanizing) and therefore are allowed to be raped because they don't have autonomy. Its hard for me to confirm this is how the chain of thoughts and beliefs lead to predatory actions when sometimes they're held subconsciously. I would love if anyone could point me to research, studies, or personal accounts, where this was observable. Feel free to poke holes in my claim.

Questions for people to answer: When people discover their longterm partner is a terrible person ( predator, killer, abuser...) where their any signs especially certain beliefs?