Stumbled upon this subreddit through an angry comment bashing it - now it has changed my life

redpillthrowaway87 · 2014-07-18T02:12:14+00:00

If you are a newbie, don't start hating women, hate yourself instead and fix the situation.

I'm glad you left this as your final sentence, because this is really IMHO the most important thing about red pill philosophy.

I'm new to red pill myself, but already I've noticed very clearly that blaming others for your situation is a woman's game. As men we don't do that shit, we take responsibility for what we've done, and what we've allowed others to do, and we fix that shit.

otiswild · 2014-07-18T00:54:58+00:00

Hate and anger are appropriate initial responses, but remember that hating someone gives them power over you, you're expending mental energy on them. When you can have no feeling at all regarding them, you have mastered your feelings and have won. They don't deserve the mental energy and memory space required to be angry at them.

And make sure any anger at yourself is self-CONstructive. Regard your past as a sunk cost, and lessons learned.

BlueInq · 2014-07-18T01:06:43+00:00

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Invalidity · 2014-07-17T22:49:38+00:00

I believe that men are comfortable with knowing that women have their needs. They are just fed up with the duplicity of how women treat them. If men knew what women were attracted to and women were wholly honest about it, you'd have more men doing what it takes to become the object of a woman's attraction.

But women likely realize that if all these men were competing with eachother to become desirable mates, who would be there to provide for them? Women cannot be honest. It is not in their best interest. They hook you as a provider, telling you sweet nothings about how caring and gentle you are, and how someday you'll find the right girl... but for now, you're gonna take care of them like a good man should without getting your needs met.

You'll be angry at first but then you realize that this is human nature, and with the knowledge you gain, you can act accordingly and get what you want.

dreauxx · 2014-07-18T04:31:31+00:00

Word my brother. I road the same train in highschool, and about a year and a half ago I said the same thing. "Fuck. This.".

I am my own person now. No one woman can or ever will "possess" me. I take care of myself, make my music, and talk to, hang out with, and have sex with whoever I feel like I'd like to. Not because I'm some "Alpha" (and I hate that term) guy. It's because I'm a Man, and I'm sick of women playing all these stupid fucking mind games to fulfill all these stupid fucking desires they let marinate in their minds. Weddings dresses, rings, clothes, large beautiful houses, cars.. Fuck you disgusting people. Learn how to love yourselves and appreciate what you are, and maybe we could too.

teeelo · 2014-07-18T02:29:53+00:00

Awesome post Man, really well read. Good for you and I am glad you are sorting things out.

Overkillengine · 2014-07-17T23:17:48+00:00

don't start hating women, hate yourself instead and fix the situation.

There's the truly important part. Hating them will not change them, and thus is pointless if you want to do anything other than fester like a boil.

Hokuto199x · 2014-07-17T22:54:54+00:00

Should have pumped and dumped that 9. Would've made you feel like a boss.

a_chill_bro · 2014-07-18T13:17:04+00:00

don't start hating women, hate yourself instead and fix the situation.

Kill the beta. By any means necessary. You got this shit bro.

mctoasterson · 2014-07-18T13:28:02+00:00

It doesn't surprise me that TRP is polarizing. It doesn't surprise me that most people initially react to TRP with anger. Detractors want to label TRP as a bunch of "angry guys". But if anything, TRP is a positive worldview because it shifts ones locus of control from extrinsic to intrinsic.

On the macro level, TRP is a realization that the "power" others hold over you is largely an illusion. You were raised with a societal paradigm that told you if you were nice, pleasant, and abundantly helpful you would be (eventually) rewarded with pussy. All real world examples indicate the contrary.

In reality, as you now know, you have a great ability to take control of your interactions with women. Where you were passive before and allowed extrinsic factors to dictate your success or failure, you are now in the drivers seat. You are improving yourself and setting yourself up to get things you want and need in exchange for what you used to give away for free.

McRedMan · 2014-07-18T02:09:54+00:00

If your looking to lose A LOT of weight, look into keto, /r/keto

I've lost 45lbs in the pas 6.5 months (280>235) eating bacon, eggs, cheese, butter, steaks, etc. But I've found it incongruent with muscle gain in my experience.

In any case, congrats on swallowing the pill and best of luck man.

__ROOSTER__ · 2014-07-18T05:12:19+00:00

Hate your old self, love your new self.

assail · 2014-07-18T03:24:40+00:00

No such thing as bad publicity

rlaptop7 · 2014-07-18T06:12:29+00:00

"I'm going monk mode for the next 6 months. The vigorous self improvement is already yielding results - I lost 10 pounds, got a well-paying summer job"

Awesome dude.

Keep it up!

HoneyIShrunkMyDick · 2014-07-18T08:33:07+00:00

I went to a school of 70-80% girls

It's a shame you didn't discover TRP a little bit earlier.

Still, knowing that you missed that opportunity might well spurn you to become the very best you can be. It seems that a large number of top PUAs have a similar "I was hopeless with girls at college" story, which gave them the drive to work at it and succeed.

tarkin1 · 2014-07-18T08:36:06+00:00

Just remember not to hate women, but love women for the feminine bunbles of joys they can be when you maintian frame.

2014-07-18T05:23:31+00:00

Word. RSD Tyler is the fucking man, I don't care what anyone says, I've seen him live a few times for free tour and watched him open a few sets. He lives it. Check out his video on what to do if you are a hardcase newbie (aka BP beta boy) if you havent already - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5OVZ9xk1B-o

Monkmode is great and all, but you also want to root your improvements in reality to keep ensuring you are on the right path. Go out and run some game - if you have been limited to high school friend circle game, go push yourself to try picking up in a club. It will keep you from getting illusions and different form of BP delusions like "oh girls only respond to money and looks, I'll go out after I get rich and swole by 30."

3rdweal · 2014-07-18T11:30:33+00:00

Now everything is fine. I understand. I'm just not good enough. Women aren't evil, they have their own needs and tendencies. Nobody cares about my woes, I am the only one who can fix my life.

An excellent synopsis of what people should absorb from this sub. It hits you like this and even though you know it is logically coherent, you fight the conclusion because of the path of future effort it implies - but once you allow yourself to believe it, there's no going back.

iStillEatSnakes · 2014-07-18T11:55:34+00:00

Welcome onboard. I was in the same situation about 8 months ago.

watersign · 2014-07-20T03:40:11+00:00

TL;DR - AWALT. Negative comments all over reddit are great for this subreddit. If you are a newbie, don't start hating women, hate yourself instead and fix the situation.

GOLD!!

2014-07-18T18:23:53+00:00

Same, I arrived from an askreddit "what is the most horrible subreddit" thread

Reordin · 2014-07-18T19:08:04+00:00

Yeahhhhhhh buddy! As for monk mode, make a schedule, literally write that shit down and adhere to it. Best way to attain goals is to make them tangible.

bluedrygrass · 2014-07-18T14:48:31+00:00

Since you're going "monk mode" and are so serious about fixing yourself, i think you may be really interested in /r/NoFap and /r/pornfree .

JonnyBeanBag · 2014-07-18T14:16:48+00:00

Good...GOOOOOOODDD......let the truth flow THROUGH you!

Give in to the Red Pill young one, your power grows daily, I can FEEEEL it!

antwonedw · 2014-07-18T15:58:12+00:00

good post. wish u da best man. monk mode sounds epic.

variableLt · 2014-07-18T03:54:52+00:00

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JosephStylin · 2014-07-18T12:12:53+00:00

You're a fucking boner. The only reason any of that happened to you is because you did nothing about it. You dont need to be in amazing shape to hookup with girls. You dont need to be interesting or smart. All you have to do is try.

roskybosky · 2014-07-18T13:04:48+00:00

I have been lurking on trp for some time. I don't get what this guy is so mad about. Did he expect sex for favors? For friendship? If red pill guys disapprove of females having a sex life (cock carousel) then why make it a point to try to get sex from women? Isn't that contradictory? Are you all mad because you don't get the girls at a party? Isn't that like women hating the prettiest girl in the room? Everytime I read posts on this website, I can't quite undo the backwards logic, even though I've read the sidebars.

Women are here for THEM, they are not here for you, and owe you nothing. Is this your point?

Invalidity · 2014-07-17T23:22:05+00:00

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Title	Stumbled upon this subreddit through an angry comment bashing it - now it has changed my life
Author	The_BitterTruth
Upvotes	383
Comments	98
Date	July 17, 2014 10:42 PM UTC (12 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/TheRedPill
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