Gents, I'm trying to hold as much as I can. As in previous posts on here I was looking into getting a PI because the wife has been acting complete 180. I know its puke and vomit but being deployed does shit to you when the only thing is communication, but I want to verify so if it is true I can have my stuff in line when I get back.
Getting to it; things that have been red flags.
- The frequency of texts, used to get ton, now nothing, no pix etc.
- Missed our scheduled FaceTime two weeks in a row. I care more for the kid but didn't give a "We are busy right now" or any of that shit. I mentioned it to her and she did the "Oh yeah, my bad"
- V-Day - Fuck covert contracts but if you send nothing but two texts all day...thats noticeable.
- Lastly, she met up with a bunch of our friends for a playdate with my daughter. My friend sent me a message telling me my wife was acting different and on the phone most of the time. He mentioned he was getting a weird vibe.
It fucking sucks and is BP as hell but this gut feeling I have needs to be verified before I start sharpening the blade to kill the puppy and oneitis. Last time I felt this way it lasted 3 months and I am not going to do that to myself.
The PI has dealt with it before with deployed members and understands the issues as he was deployed multiple times during his wife.
Two things come out of it as he said: 1. She's cheating 2. She isn't. He stated he deals with the deployed in a different way as he knows how things can seem similar with other guys marriages. He did hint that since she has only a set window and little other time its good for us.
It does suck and again I am doing this to kill the false thoughts or verify them.
Anyways, on another note; lifted 4 days out of the week; rode 12 miles today, and starting to train for a triathlon as I always wanted to do one.