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What is this about?

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March 28, 2017
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Was posting in r/deadbedroom and was message by another user to check this place out and it could help me. I've lurked for a few days here and there but not really sure what this is. Anyone care to give a rundown?


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Title What is this about?
Author AmeriknGrizzly
Upvotes 12
Comments 38
Date 28 March 2017 07:37 PM UTC (3 years ago)
Subreddit askMRP
Link https://theredarchive.com/post/206342
Original Link https://old.reddit.com/r/askMRP/comments/621nmk/what_is_this_about/
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[–]BluepillProfessorMod / Red Beret13 points14 points  (1 child) | Copy

What is this all about

Directed to sidebar.

15 minutes later

Holy fucking shit. This is describing my life. Holy fuck this is nuts and eye opening.

LMFAO. Thanks for making my day.

[–]AmeriknGrizzly4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy

Fucking eye opening.

[–]bogeyd6Mod / Red Militia[M] 7 points8 points  (7 children) | Copy

Not really, the work is there for you to do and figure out. Also, we do not condone messaging people privately from other subreddits as a recruiting tool.

[–]Boogy030 points1 point  (3 children) | Copy

May i ask why not? There are some people in here that changed their life because of PMs received from us linking to MRP.

[–]bogeyd6Mod / Red Militia2 points3 points  (2 children) | Copy

I said we don't condone, I didn't say we forbid it.

[–]Boogy030 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

Ah, ok.

[–]Aaren_Augustine1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Lines. Lots of reading between them. Volumes really.

[–]BluepillProfessorMod / Red Beret0 points1 point  (2 children) | Copy

There are differences of opinion on that point and I disagree but Bogey is right that the consensus is against me on that point.

[–]bogeyd6Mod / Red Militia0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

Appearances are everything.

[–]ParadoxThatDrivesUs3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy

Exactly right. It's a free country so of course individuals can PM anyone that they want. But for the sub itself to formally endorse it turns us into missionaries looking for converts, which is only going to drive people away and muddy the message.

[–]rocknrollchuck8 points9 points  (0 children) | Copy

Here's a favorite of mine:

Verbal Intercourse is Optional

And the counterargument in the comments:

What you should not do is clumsily bring your attention level from 100 to 0

*Welcome to the Desert of the Real, brother. Now get to work!

[–]RBuddDwyerRed Beret4 points5 points  (3 children) | Copy

Have your fun for the next little bit, then delete this thread and come back with a dedicated reddit account for here. Never post here with your main reddit account!

[–]drty_prRed Beret1 point2 points  (2 children) | Copy

Have your fun for the next little bit, then delete this thread and come back with with a dedicated reddit account for here. Never post here with your fun reddit account!

FTFY bro

[–][deleted] -1 points0 points  (1 child) | Copy

Eh, I post anywhere I like and just delete my Reddit account from time to time

[–]drty_prRed Beret3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy

What if you have a great user name though?

[–]SepeanRed Beret3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy

I had a dead bedroom for 4 years. And on top my wife was a complete bitch. I tried all sorts of stuff to fix it, nothing worked.

Then I found this place. Six months later, she's suddenly a sweet, loving, kinky girl. Keeps herself waxed for me, bjs every morning, the works.

Read the sidebar, do the work.

[–]anythingincRed Beret2 points3 points  (2 children) | Copy

she was having an emotional affair and said "I love you but I'm not in love with you anymore."

That happened to me a couple years ago. We both wanted a divorce but I still spent a week googling and reading and found The Divorce Busters 180, and then Rational Male, and then MRP. Fastest, easiest divorce in state history probably.

You are in good company OP.

It kills me knowing that my wife has no interest in me sexually, it makes me depressed and I've told her she just says sorry and then she gets depressed and it turns into a mess. Honestly I feel bad but I just want to feel wanted sexually, I want to feel that passion we shared.

The Red Pill sucks. It sucks to look in the mirror and realize nobody you would be attracted to would genuinely desire to fuck you. It sucks to look around at your life and realize ONLY YOU have the power to change it. It sucks to realize that it is YOUR responsibility to be happy and valuable and surround yourself with people that are good for you and ad value to your life.

For the majority of our relationship I was pretty controlling, things pretty much had to be my way. I was selfish but she never voiced any disproval so we kept trucking. I learned how to relax over the years and things were pretty good. I was also severely depressed and had very low self esteem. I could barely function, it took all that I had to maintain a job. I didn't help cook, or clean or do laundry. She didn't really either and we lived like pigs for a long time but neither of us complained we just loved each other.

You are lucky because you have a frame of reference for a RP relationship. You remember what she wants.

For the majority of our relationship I was pretty controlling, things pretty much had to be my way. I was selfish but she never voiced any disproval so we kept trucking.

That is not selfishness. It is knowing what you wanted, and letting other people work to be in your life. It is attractive.

I learned how to relax over the years and things were pretty good. I was also severely depressed and had very low self esteem. I could barely function, it took all that I had to maintain a job. I didn't help cook, or clean or do laundry. She didn't really either and we lived like pigs for a long time but neither of us complained we just loved each other... We both grew up but she became the responsible one...

Now, this shit is NOT attractive. You started slipping bro. But imagine if you had the best parts of being in control, combined with happiness, combined with self-esteem, combined with owning your shit, combined with your spouse working to please you as much as you worked to please them and having genuine desire.

You let go of the reins, you gave up control, you stopped trying, your life started circling the drain, and you wife got ready to jump ship. Turns out she isn't jumping yet, but she also isn't helping you bail out the water. The Red Pill sucks, because bailing, and floating, and sailing is your job. It is intimidating, but ultimately freeing. Knowing that it gets better, and you have the power to make it happen.

She does say she is still attracted to me and everything she just doesn't want to.

  • Step 1: Do not talk about the lack of sex anymore. Talking about it dries up her panties.
  • Step 1B: Lift, read the sidebar.

Nofap

You feel ashamed about your sexuality bro? Or is it just an addiction to easy gratification? Did you make it 90 days or did you quit? Jacking it occasionally is fine...being addicted to easy gratification is weak. Multiple times a day reeks of depression and validation/gratification dysfunction. Get busy improving yourself.

[–]AmeriknGrizzly1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy

Didn't make the full 90, didn't need to. Turned out was just an easy way to deal with depression. Jerking feels good I'm depressed shit got out of control. Back down to normal levels with that.

Yeah I turned into a full beta; crying, talking about my needs and feelings, opening myself up and just doing all those things I was told to. Shit got better but I'm a beta buck now. I bend to her every need, I go out of my way to make sure she doesn't have to do shit. Then I bitch and cry when she isn't interested in me.

I started working out and dressing nicer a while ago so I'm just gonna keep that up and go back to the cocky, hard loving dick I use to be.

[–]anythingincRed Beret1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

I started working out and dressing nicer a while ago so I'm just gonna keep that up and go back to the cocky, hard loving dick I use to be.

That is pretty much on point.

"I love you but I'm not in love with you anymore."

Remember, this gives you carte blanche. You can't be doing anything FOR her anymore. You want to be a hot cocky-funny jerk-boy because that is the YOU that YOU want to be. Your wife is either going to please that guy because he is valuable and attractive and she wants him around...or he is going to not be around anymore. First you have to be valuable and attractive.

[–]Balldogs2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

What it's about is terrorising your wife into having more sex with you. It's easy. You just have to become a sociopath. Stop caring about her. Fuck other women in front of her while you maintain eye contact. If she challenges you, grin, shit into your cupped palm and smear it on her side of the bed. Put her cat in a bag and flat it up. Paint her favorite window black.

This will make her want you again. Guaranteed. Ted Cruz definitely doesn't kill women, and chemtrails are caused by cancer.

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy

What I love about this sub is that step no. 1 is READ. I'm sick of the old trope that it's masculine to not read / not like reading / be unable to read. No. If you want to change the way you think, you got to sit your ass down, crack open an ebook, and let the ideas wash over you, fill you up, change your mental wiring. Read before lift, imho.

[–]donedreadpirateRed Beret[🍰] 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Agree. Diet before lift is also helpful if that's a problem area. We focus on lift a lot but if you're a pussy with no frame who eats McDonalds every day you got work to do before you're ready. But by all means, starting lifting today won't hurt you.

[–]creating_my_life1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

It's like deadbedrooms, but it works. :)

Welcome.

[–]Coniferous_880 points1 point  (7 children) | Copy

Literally...the very first links on the sidebar.

Look over here ------------------------->

[–]AmeriknGrizzly2 points3 points  (6 children) | Copy

Sorry I mainly Reddit from my mobile. I don't have a sidebar.

[–][deleted] 5 points6 points  (3 children) | Copy

[–]AmeriknGrizzly5 points6 points  (2 children) | Copy

Holy fucking shit. This is describing my life. Holy fuck this is nuts and eye opening.

[–][deleted] 2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

"This is your last chance. After this, there is no turning back. You take the blue pill - the story ends, you wake up in your bed and believe whatever you want to believe. You take the red pill - you stay in Wonderland and I show you how deep the rabbit-hole goes"

[–]tim_rp1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

You're not the only one who's had his eyes pried wide open by that blog post.

[–]rocknrollchuck1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

On Android, go to the More menu in the upper right corner of the browser and select "Request computer version." The page will reload, sidebar will be on the right.

[–]JDRoedellRed Beret0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Somewhere on your app there will be a way to see the sidebar

This is you right now... begin the sidebar and it will start to make sense. Come back in a month after you've at least read the Bluepill Professor's book and The Rational Male. Don't talk about any of this to your wife, just read.

[–]AmeriknGrizzly0 points1 point  (5 children) | Copy

Jesus I have become a total pussy. Last night we went to my father in laws to help move some stuff. We already had dinner planned which I was going to cook when we got home. Well he offered to buy us pizza, which isn't a food I like to eat very often well I said I didn't want pizza and wanted to go home but she wanted the pizza so I just sat there and didn't eat for over am hour just so she could eat her pizza. I was pissed but didn't say anything ended up being passive aggressive the rest of the night and ending it in a pathetic fight.

[–]ReddJiveRed Beret5 points6 points  (0 children) | Copy

OP I am going to help.

Your first clue is Frame. Build it.

In this scenario you tell her enjoy the pizza, smack her ass in front of her dad. tell her to have him bring her home.

Then you leave and have the meal you wanted.

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (3 children) | Copy

It's good you didnt say anything. STFU (shut the fuck up) is the first skill you need to learn, while you're learning.

So STFU, quit posting, start lifting and read the sidebar. Most of it is in the link below.

And last tip from me, don't go redpill-rambo on the wife right out of the gate. You have a lot to learn first. STFU, put in the work, and then come back.

https://www.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/wiki/index

[–]AmeriknGrizzly1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Copy, thanks.

[–]screechhaterRed Beret1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy

Just be cautious on the STFU lots of nubees think this is to sit and be silent, it's more about letting her feelz out of her mouth, uninterrupted, or shit show test and you have no real answer Generally STFU allows someone to run out of gas

Next time, ask for a salad to be delivered and eat with them It's best to do things that keep you from looking like a martar Go it ? This is you life right ? So avoid the energy exchange on the fighting because "she see's you as rude" by just sitting there not eating the pizza. I fucking hate pizza too, now that I have eliminated it from my diet, but I will be damned if I don't eat or roll wit the punches That is unattractive, and that is what she was shit testing and you allowed to escalate into a fight

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Yes, it should be STFU about the complaint and change the subject to something fun ASAP.



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