How Do You Guys Keep It Straight With All The Information

cholomite · 2016-09-07T16:22:03+00:00

I think a lot of new guys get overwhelmed because they come here and are doing all this stuff with the main goal of getting their wife to respect them and fuck them better. So they read, and try it out on their wife, and analyze how she reacted and think about what to do next to get her to act the way they want. If your woman is your main focus for all of this stuff, you'll always be reading and rereading because you never stop giving a fuck and are always in her frame. The reading material is just helpful tools to become the kind of man women find attractive, not to get your wife to be attracted to you. It's hard to explain but basically, until you completely let go of wanting to become better so your wife will respect you, or wanting this and that from your relationship, you'll never really get the results you want.

Read what you want but don't make applying it to your relationship a priority. Instead just use it as a tool to find inner peace and become the man you want, completely regardless of the woman in your life.

The only thing I've ever reread was SGM because being good at sex and making her cum are way more effective at getting her in your frame than passing shit tests and learning how to say "no".

bornredd · 2016-09-07T17:45:16+00:00

Take your time and digest slowly.

I do one new change at a time per aspect of my life. Diet change? Wait til that sticks (for a week or so), then fix the next bit. Read one book and really digest it. Then do the next. Don't slam them down like you're a 400 lb hambeast at Golden Corral. Taste them, savor them, come back later and taste them again.

It's been nearly 2 years now for me, and the changes are staggering. But I don't look or feel all that different week over week. But then I check my writings and photos from 6 months ago, and I'm making great progress. I check from 2 years ago, and I'm a completely different man.

Incremental changes, friend. That's what the iron teaches you. You raise your weight a little at a time and you get stronger. You change your diet a little at a time and you get healthier. You fix your attitude a little at a time and you get better.

jeezydasnowman · 2016-09-07T17:31:04+00:00

It's extremely simple really.

RP passive traits: confidence, charisma, ngaf. RP active traits: lifting, passing shit tests.

Contrast this to the average 80% BP male: low self-esteem, boring, needy, dadbod, butthurt or explaining when answering shit tests (both fail).

DrPillPopperMD · 2016-09-07T16:10:48+00:00

Rereading helps a lot. Mostly it just takes time and practice. IMHO you should read WISNIFG--I ignored it for a long time, but it's probably been the most profoundly influential book I've read in a long time.

Mostly remember this: unless you're in a crisis all you really need to do is be better today than you were yesterday / last week / last month / last year.

Westernhagen · 2016-09-07T16:20:58+00:00

What I did was create summary notes on all of them, and I periodically reread them. At this point I'm still working on the very low-level stuff so it's mainly a matter of thinking about, and trying to put into effect, the introductory chapters of most of the books.

In particular, it is more a matter of "stop doing unattractive things" rather than "do attractive things" at this point. I am a classic Nice Guy: conflict avoidant, approval-seeking, passive aggressive. Trying to stop doing all that, and noticing when I do.

BluepillProfessor · 2016-09-07T18:13:22+00:00

The practical aspect is more a mind set than memorizing a bunch of different scripts. The evo-psych and explanations are interesting but once you have the mind set they are not even on the test. I really think MRP/TRP is much, much easier if you are mentally challenged than if you are an academic policy wonk type.

On the more general question of studying/learning. I think you read and highlight, then go back over the highlights, and finally take notes of the overall themes and points from your highlights.

Others prefer to read first, then read it again and highlight, then take notes on the highlights.

Rereading with your notes and highlights cements it. I have read the Mindful Attraction Plan 4 times and MMSL at least 5.

[deleted] · 2016-09-09T14:44:46+00:00

When I was first taught lead climbing (taking the rope up with you and clipping in along the way) they taught that depending on what hand you use to clip that time, and what side of your body the clip was on, you'd use 1 of 4 methods to clip the rope.

For about a month afterwards all I could think of while clipping was "what do I use again for this combination?" After a few months I looked back and laughed because I don't even need to think about it anymore...the motion comes naturally due to practice.

sexyshoulderdevil · 2016-09-07T16:14:17+00:00

I went the full blown Prison Break route. Also as I get an erection, "AWALT" slowly comes into view...just as a reminder. You know...because AWALT.

bigtuna45 · 2016-09-07T16:26:24+00:00

You can't You should be continuously reading these books. Skim it during subsequent reads.

Also, you don't need to remember every single thing to be effective. Remember, 20% of the info will give you 80% of the results.

pildorado · 2016-09-07T16:38:18+00:00

Slow and steady wins the race. STFU, Fitness and Reading are your best friends right now. The Holy Trinity if you will. Read and re-read until the concepts come naturally. Keep it simple. There are no scripts or rules to remember. 90% of the required reading and sidebar are just ways to unlearn societal conditioning and accept your masculinity without shame. It's really not that complicated. Post to OYS for accountability.

jinglejammer · 2016-09-07T17:41:03+00:00

I've been meaning to post a similar question, but specifically related to keeping up with Reddit. I typically come in once or twice a day to read the top threads and their related comments. However, when I come in the next day, I don't know where I left off or which comments are new. One way to manage this is to upvote/downvote every single thing I read but sometimes I'm indifferent. Any tips and tricks? I'm usually accessing via the mobile app on my Android.

For books, I definitely have it down. I definitely agree with taking longer to read them though in order to fully digest.

rocknrollchuck · 2016-09-07T23:54:48+00:00

The thing that has worked for me is taking notes as I read - I copy from the digital book into Evernote. I have a separate note set up for each book I have read. And top 5% of stuff I read, stuff that I KNOW I need serious work on, I copy into a separate note called "Daily Read" and read them every day.

Just remember, it's not "As soon as I finish all the reading, I will have it mastered." Go slow. When you feel like your focus is drifting and you aren't absorbing anything else right then, stop reading and go do something. Try to pick one thing at a time to really learn and get right. It's a marathon, not a sprint.

redearththeory · 2016-09-08T02:54:09+00:00

Focus on what you need to do today. Then do the same thing tomorrow.

The_Litz · 2016-09-08T07:41:46+00:00

Seeing you love squats so much lets put some squats in your squats.

When you are standing in the squat rack you own that space. It is yours. Nobody else comes in there for that time. Build that space into something bigger and into other spheres of your life.

Step by step. You own your half of the bed, later you own the whole bed, the bedroom, the house.

Reread stuff slowely. I am on my 3rd pass on NMMNG after one year, and still find and apply stuff.

2ndal · 2016-09-07T18:01:57+00:00

I've run into this as well. It's natural to want to cram everything into your head ASAP and dive in, so it helped me to timebox myself into phases of more focused, refined work. I talk a bit about this in my OYS thread, but basically I am in "Phase 1" (of a billion phase process) which I arbiltrarilly said would last two months. In these two months, my main areas of focus are limited, even though I am consuming information on a ton of things outside of that focus. My focus for this phase is: lift, embrace my sexuality, pass shit tests, stop being boring, understand basic seduction techniques. After Phase 1, I will assess where I am at with these and refine for Phase 2 with whatever feels most important.

[deleted] · 2016-09-07T19:22:16+00:00

Like anything else: train until it becomes second nature.

DrPillPopperMD · 2016-09-07T20:25:22+00:00

Thanks for the responses - the basic gist of it is to go slow and improve incrementally - RP is a lifestyle change, not a multiple choice exam, I appreciate the comments

DrPillPopperMD · 2016-09-07T21:15:38+00:00

If you were training for the Olympics, how far would you be in 3 weeks? Would you complain to the coach that there was too much to learn?

To answer your question, the strategy to be successful is:

Never forget that you are improving yourself and that it takes time to get started.
If you do it right, it never ends, because this is a journey that only ends when you die.

onmyownpath · 2016-09-07T21:59:09+00:00

Read --> Apply Read --> Apply Read --> Apply Read --> Apply

There really is no other way. Just try to apply anything you remember in any situation where it is applicable. Read the same thing multiple times to get the most from it.

If you can read the same 5 books 4 times in a year you will get a LOT more than if you read 20 books once.

Kosmoknots · 2016-09-07T22:18:20+00:00

Out of curiosity, how is 5 love languages and who recommends reading it? And Mating in captivity?

screechhater · 2016-09-08T01:08:21+00:00

Lift, STFU and read That simple

IF you have not read NMMNG than you need to read it.

Notice we did not say anything about being a dick

But I will say LIFT. It has a way of course correcting all the info

Title	How Do You Guys Keep It Straight With All The Information
Author	DrPillPopperMD
Upvotes	9
Comments	35
Date	07 September 2016 03:48 PM UTC (4 years ago)
Subreddit	askMRP
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