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How Do You Guys Keep It Straight With All The Information

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September 7, 2016

I'm curious what people do to keep everything in their heads?!

I unplugged about 3 weeks ago and have been reading like crazy and lifting - doing the strong lifts 5x5 (love squats!)

I've read 16 COP, NMMNG, MMSLP, Rationale Male, Mating in Captivity, 5 Love Languages and the top posts on MRP, half of SGM, listened to BluePillProf YouTube videos and a bunch of other random articles and blogs that people have linked to.

It's funny bc when I had my first victim puke, people said ull just read and lift and apparently it's very true, there's so much info.

So here's the problem, I feel like it's information overload, I went back to skim MMSLP and I had forgotten so much of it, so my question is what do you guys do to absorb the info?!

My plan is to Reread a few of the books, and take some crib notes that I'll keep at work (don't need the wife finding this) - I Reread the 16 COP daily and it helps to reaffirm things so I'm hoping that reading my own notes will help.

Right now, I'm upping my SMV, lifting like crazy, doing my own thing some days and STFU when she gets bitchy - slow and steady, holding frame, being the oak - breaking beta bitch ass habits are hard when ur conditioned but I already see myself as more attractive than her now, when I go work out and she's laying on the couch, it makes me smirk - ya, I'm def on the way to being the 8 to her 6 :-)

So perhaps not a quality post here but I imagine some new guys may benefit from the strategies the vets have used to be successful.

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Title How Do You Guys Keep It Straight With All The Information
Author DrPillPopperMD
Upvotes 9
Comments 35
Date 07 September 2016 03:48 PM UTC (4 years ago)
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[–]cholomiteMod / BP Downvote Magnet8 points9 points  (2 children) | Copy

I think a lot of new guys get overwhelmed because they come here and are doing all this stuff with the main goal of getting their wife to respect them and fuck them better. So they read, and try it out on their wife, and analyze how she reacted and think about what to do next to get her to act the way they want. If your woman is your main focus for all of this stuff, you'll always be reading and rereading because you never stop giving a fuck and are always in her frame. The reading material is just helpful tools to become the kind of man women find attractive, not to get your wife to be attracted to you. It's hard to explain but basically, until you completely let go of wanting to become better so your wife will respect you, or wanting this and that from your relationship, you'll never really get the results you want.

Read what you want but don't make applying it to your relationship a priority. Instead just use it as a tool to find inner peace and become the man you want, completely regardless of the woman in your life.

The only thing I've ever reread was SGM because being good at sex and making her cum are way more effective at getting her in your frame than passing shit tests and learning how to say "no".

[–]DrPillPopperMD[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

This is excellent advise - I'm going to hold on to this. I won't lie and say that I'm doing it all for me right now, it is to have her respect me more and get nasty in bed - but slowly....slowly - I am really starting to take a IDGAF attitude about her shit test and being rejected.

I go to lift because it's awesome, she gives me shit and I bounce anyways and don't think about it at all, just enjoy the gym.

I'm working on attractive behaviors and it feels so good to be positive and happy again - I was in her frame for so long - but now I'm building my own.

I AM starting to internalize doing it for me, I feel more attractive and hit on girls, it feels awesome (not that I would cheat) but I feel like myself from 2 years ago, before I met my wife - getting that alpha back.

[–]dieseltech19820 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Yes! This is the hardest for me. Trying to let go of her (and everyone else's) validation. Just trying to keep pushing every minute.

[–]bornredd3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy

Take your time and digest slowly.

I do one new change at a time per aspect of my life. Diet change? Wait til that sticks (for a week or so), then fix the next bit. Read one book and really digest it. Then do the next. Don't slam them down like you're a 400 lb hambeast at Golden Corral. Taste them, savor them, come back later and taste them again.

It's been nearly 2 years now for me, and the changes are staggering. But I don't look or feel all that different week over week. But then I check my writings and photos from 6 months ago, and I'm making great progress. I check from 2 years ago, and I'm a completely different man.

Incremental changes, friend. That's what the iron teaches you. You raise your weight a little at a time and you get stronger. You change your diet a little at a time and you get healthier. You fix your attitude a little at a time and you get better.

[–]jeezydasnowman3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy

It's extremely simple really.

RP passive traits: confidence, charisma, ngaf. RP active traits: lifting, passing shit tests.

Contrast this to the average 80% BP male: low self-esteem, boring, needy, dadbod, butthurt or explaining when answering shit tests (both fail).

[–][deleted] 2 points3 points  (2 children) | Copy

Rereading helps a lot. Mostly it just takes time and practice. IMHO you should read WISNIFG--I ignored it for a long time, but it's probably been the most profoundly influential book I've read in a long time.

Mostly remember this: unless you're in a crisis all you really need to do is be better today than you were yesterday / last week / last month / last year.

[–]DrPillPopperMD[S] 0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

This is next on it list, I'm going to start (and maybe finish) it this week!

[–]sh0ckley0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

I'm re-reading WISNIFG now. Re-read NMMNG a while back. I've found it all starts to sink in with repetition. It's a process.

[–]WesternhagenWinner2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

What I did was create summary notes on all of them, and I periodically reread them. At this point I'm still working on the very low-level stuff so it's mainly a matter of thinking about, and trying to put into effect, the introductory chapters of most of the books.

In particular, it is more a matter of "stop doing unattractive things" rather than "do attractive things" at this point. I am a classic Nice Guy: conflict avoidant, approval-seeking, passive aggressive. Trying to stop doing all that, and noticing when I do.

[–]BluepillProfessorMod / Red Beret2 points3 points  (1 child) | Copy

The practical aspect is more a mind set than memorizing a bunch of different scripts. The evo-psych and explanations are interesting but once you have the mind set they are not even on the test. I really think MRP/TRP is much, much easier if you are mentally challenged than if you are an academic policy wonk type.

On the more general question of studying/learning. I think you read and highlight, then go back over the highlights, and finally take notes of the overall themes and points from your highlights.

Others prefer to read first, then read it again and highlight, then take notes on the highlights.

Rereading with your notes and highlights cements it. I have read the Mindful Attraction Plan 4 times and MMSL at least 5.

[–][deleted] 2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

When I was first taught lead climbing (taking the rope up with you and clipping in along the way) they taught that depending on what hand you use to clip that time, and what side of your body the clip was on, you'd use 1 of 4 methods to clip the rope.

For about a month afterwards all I could think of while clipping was "what do I use again for this combination?" After a few months I looked back and laughed because I don't even need to think about it anymore...the motion comes naturally due to practice.

[–]sexyshoulderdevil75% Liquid Sarcasm1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy

I went the full blown Prison Break route. Also as I get an erection, "AWALT" slowly comes into view...just as a reminder. You know...because AWALT.

[–]DrPillPopperMD[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Hahha, damn that would be one way to do it - maybe more of a Memento thing?!

[–]bigtuna451 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

You can't You should be continuously reading these books. Skim it during subsequent reads.

Also, you don't need to remember every single thing to be effective. Remember, 20% of the info will give you 80% of the results.

[–]pildorado1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Slow and steady wins the race. STFU, Fitness and Reading are your best friends right now. The Holy Trinity if you will. Read and re-read until the concepts come naturally. Keep it simple. There are no scripts or rules to remember. 90% of the required reading and sidebar are just ways to unlearn societal conditioning and accept your masculinity without shame. It's really not that complicated. Post to OYS for accountability.

[–]jinglejammer1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

I've been meaning to post a similar question, but specifically related to keeping up with Reddit. I typically come in once or twice a day to read the top threads and their related comments. However, when I come in the next day, I don't know where I left off or which comments are new. One way to manage this is to upvote/downvote every single thing I read but sometimes I'm indifferent. Any tips and tricks? I'm usually accessing via the mobile app on my Android.

For books, I definitely have it down. I definitely agree with taking longer to read them though in order to fully digest.

[–]rocknrollchuck1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy

The thing that has worked for me is taking notes as I read - I copy from the digital book into Evernote. I have a separate note set up for each book I have read. And top 5% of stuff I read, stuff that I KNOW I need serious work on, I copy into a separate note called "Daily Read" and read them every day.

Just remember, it's not "As soon as I finish all the reading, I will have it mastered." Go slow. When you feel like your focus is drifting and you aren't absorbing anything else right then, stop reading and go do something. Try to pick one thing at a time to really learn and get right. It's a marathon, not a sprint.

[–]DrPillPopperMD[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

This is great - thank you, I'll get Evernote, I didn't want to write it out on paper but this will make it easy for sure - and I love the idea of the daily read!

[–]redearththeory1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Focus on what you need to do today. Then do the same thing tomorrow.

[–]The_LitzRed Beret1 point2 points  (2 children) | Copy

Seeing you love squats so much lets put some squats in your squats.

When you are standing in the squat rack you own that space. It is yours. Nobody else comes in there for that time. Build that space into something bigger and into other spheres of your life.

Step by step. You own your half of the bed, later you own the whole bed, the bedroom, the house.

Reread stuff slowely. I am on my 3rd pass on NMMNG after one year, and still find and apply stuff.

[–]PersaeusRed Beret2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Your killing it man

[–]DrPillPopperMD[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Squat in your squats, love it!!!

[–]2ndalRed Beret0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

I've run into this as well. It's natural to want to cram everything into your head ASAP and dive in, so it helped me to timebox myself into phases of more focused, refined work. I talk a bit about this in my OYS thread, but basically I am in "Phase 1" (of a billion phase process) which I arbiltrarilly said would last two months. In these two months, my main areas of focus are limited, even though I am consuming information on a ton of things outside of that focus. My focus for this phase is: lift, embrace my sexuality, pass shit tests, stop being boring, understand basic seduction techniques. After Phase 1, I will assess where I am at with these and refine for Phase 2 with whatever feels most important.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Like anything else: train until it becomes second nature.

[–]DrPillPopperMD[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Thanks for the responses - the basic gist of it is to go slow and improve incrementally - RP is a lifestyle change, not a multiple choice exam, I appreciate the comments

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

If you were training for the Olympics, how far would you be in 3 weeks? Would you complain to the coach that there was too much to learn?

To answer your question, the strategy to be successful is:

  • Never forget that you are improving yourself and that it takes time to get started.

  • If you do it right, it never ends, because this is a journey that only ends when you die.

[–]DrPillPopperMD[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Thank you for the response, this certainly wasn't a complaint - I was just asking for any tips that would help.

I love to get the perspective of those with experience in anything that I do, no point making the same mistakes others have, easier to learn from their experience to not make those mistakes...or in some cases make ur learning (training) process more efficient.

I'm getting that it never ends for sure - thanks!

[–]onmyownpath0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Read --> Apply Read --> Apply Read --> Apply Read --> Apply

There really is no other way. Just try to apply anything you remember in any situation where it is applicable. Read the same thing multiple times to get the most from it.

If you can read the same 5 books 4 times in a year you will get a LOT more than if you read 20 books once.

[–]Kosmoknots0 points1 point  (5 children) | Copy

Out of curiosity, how is 5 love languages and who recommends reading it? And Mating in captivity?

[–]WesternhagenWinner2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

5LL is dangerous for a Nice Guy. Too easy to turn "love languages" stuff into a covert contract ("if I keep her love tank full, then she'll have sex!" -- except she won't). And if she isn't attracted to you then none of the 5LL things will get any traction, they'll just seem supplicating and creepy.

I would advise putting 5LL aside until you are further down the Red Pill path.

[–]The_LitzRed Beret1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

It is good for beta comfort, nothing else. Very dangerous in the wrong hands. I read it and applied it after failing comfort test after comfort test.

Use it at your own peril.

[–]DrPillPopperMD[S] 1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy

I read five love languages a little while ago, before unplugging. I will say it is a good book, and will help you know how to recognize and speak to ur woman's love language.

However, as the others pointed out, it can be a dangerous beta tool. If you're confident in ur alpha behaviors and need to sprinkle a little beta on it - it'll help to know how to reward positive behavior for sure.

I.E. - if you're woman doesn't care about receiving gifts but does care about acts of service, buying her something expensive to reward good behavior wouldn't mean nearly as much as making her a cup of coffee and serving it to her as she gets ready for work.

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

From a valuable man skittles is a great gift. Physical touch is phenomenal, putting down the toilet seat is the kindest sweetest act of service she can imagine! From. A. Valuable. Man.

[–]screechhaterRed Beret0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

Lift, STFU and read That simple

IF you have not read NMMNG than you need to read it.

Notice we did not say anything about being a dick

But I will say LIFT. It has a way of course correcting all the info

[–]DrPillPopperMD[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Read NMMNG, but will go in for a Reread - I do a lot around the house but there are no covert contracts, I do them because I like to keep the house clean to my standards and I cook because I like good food and can make nutritious meals that way.

I thought there was something wrong bc I do so much but I don't do it to be rewarded, I do it bc it's my responsibility to myself.

My biggest takeaway from NMMNG was to be my own person, do my own activities and hang out with my guy friends (all of which disappeared in the last year - but I'm bringing them back.

Ninja warrior training starts Sunday, awesome!!!

You can kill a man, but you can't kill an idea.

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