What actually makes a woman good at sex?

Atlas_B_Shruggin · 2019-02-22T00:18:13+00:00

Enthusiasm

321PK · 2019-02-22T00:21:30+00:00

I heard once that it’s 10% technique and 90% enthusiasm

Kittennoodle · 2019-02-22T01:38:11+00:00

Surprise blowjobs while he's sleeping.

beachredwhine · 2019-02-22T01:00:29+00:00

blowjobs and riding

That's about it. Maybe verbalizing is something I'd throw in there as well, but it's hard to do it right

petrichordium · 2019-02-22T00:29:05+00:00

1) Kegel control, not just for tightness but for minute adjustments to angle. A woman bad at sex just lays there and spreads. A better woman tells you “right there right there don’t stop.” A GREAT girl can make many of those final adjustments herself as long as you’re in the right general area. I’d file this to “knowing her body well.”

2) a good balance between giving and taking pleasure. Nobody likes a pillow princess. Well, most ppl don’t. Okay fine i don’t.

3) A good imagination? Women who have distinct fantasies and drive toward experiences (even if they are reactive in instigation) are just more fun.

4) experience. Doesn’t matter with one guy or 100. The more time she spends playing that instrument, the better she is. Knowledge of male anatomy and tricks you can play with it is good.

5) low or moderate disgust. Women who are super finnicky and easily grossed out aren’t that fun in bed. Doesn’t need to get as downright filthy as male sexuality often goes, but prissy prisses may look perfect but are often dull sexually.

Probably some other stuff I’m forgetting. Or that aren’t as universal. (Honestly all this could be handled with Atlas’s “enthusiasm” answer ...except maybe the kegels. That’s underrated.)

Cho_Assmilk · 2019-02-22T00:29:07+00:00

Being hot. My current sex partner can have multiple orgasms despite me being a complete pillow princess.

Men, how to be good at sex: Lots of nonsexual touching leading up to the act. Less porn shit like changing positions 50 times or whatever. Also stop going in and out rapidly. It feels better when you're going deeper and actually stay inside of the vagina. When you do the extreme thrusting thing, especially if she's really wet, your dick is gonna slip out or in certain positions it can cause really gross sounds due to the air moving and shit.

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IroningBoard9191 · 2019-02-22T00:50:16+00:00

I would imagine being confident and comfortable in your skin. Being able to communicate. Being able to make the experience highly sensual. Showing enthusiasm and eagerness.

Why would a guy want to have sex with a girl that is too timid to do anything but lie there (like me :/ lol)?

I think if you really believe all a girl has to do to be good at sex is just "lie there", you've probably never had good sex. I would think.

Female_urinary_maze · 2019-02-22T07:29:08+00:00

Communication and self knowledge! That goes for both people. How are you supposed to have good sex if you don't know what makes sex good for eachother?

[deleted] · 2019-02-22T19:39:21+00:00

When she wraps your butt with her legs

BlindingTwilight · 2019-02-22T00:14:53+00:00

Woman: deep blowjobs, anal, swallowing Men: knowing how dominant to be (every girl loves dominance, it is just a matter of finding the sweet spot)

[deleted] · 2019-02-22T00:16:26+00:00

Closer match between quantity expected and provided would be the 1st thing that comes to mind. Quantity is a quality in and out of itself

Taipanshimshon · 2019-02-22T03:41:15+00:00

It’s mostly enthusiasm and fuck me eyes

decoy88 · 2019-02-22T12:54:21+00:00

Pretty much the Same things it is for men

Humility
Enthusiasm
Low disgust
Communication
Creativity
Core Strength
Stamina/High energy

Now specifically for women. Excellent riding is hard to come by, mainly as it requires good fitness, which most people don't have. but also that technique of movement and adaptation to each dick is highly skilful

Riding isn't the only thing. Some women know how to 'throw irt back' during doggystyle which would give her even more points. There's also a knowledge of pleasurable positions that can only come with experience and experimentation. I've been shown some new positions that improved my entire sex years after just because one girl knew what she was doing.

Dirty talk is also another one that makes this list, not everyone can do it right, knowing just the right thing to say at the right time to enhance the experience.

There's lots more. but yeah, from the OP you may have only had good sex, not great or fantastic sex.

washington_breadstix · 2019-02-24T11:22:51+00:00

I think the phrasing "good/bad at sex" is misleading. It usually comes down to a factor other than whether the girl is physically good at sucking or riding a dick. And developing those physical skills doesn't necessarily require promiscuity. A woman can get better at riding dick by riding the same dick a bunch of times monogamously.

I think being "good at sex" is most often just being less reserved in bed. In other words, showing enthusiasm and being open to kinky sex acts. And people are naturally bound to be that way around partners they're more attracted to.

Spiritofthemountain · 2019-03-09T02:54:31+00:00

She's a virgin. Also gives advice on how I can improve.

beachredwhine · 2019-02-22T00:17:12+00:00

Every time I see some guy say something like, "all these modern women are just terrible at sex" all I can think is no, buddy. You are terrible at sex. I think a lot of millennial guys have spent far too much time watching porn and they expect a girl to take charge and bang him. Almost like it's something he's going to watch her do to him, rather than something he's going to do to her and be active in.

The only real differences between women I've had is some women have better, tighter bodies. Different size tits. The small light girls are easier to throw around. Different levels of gag reflex. Some girls do keegles.

[deleted] · 2019-02-22T00:21:24+00:00

Legit, all they need to do is say yes.

Yes to sex, yes to kinky sex, yes to doing it rough, yes to candlewax and silk scarves and special lingerie, yes to roleplay, yes to toys, yes to a risque meet up in a hotel under assumed names and drinks and flirtation and sex all through the fucking night. And then room service. And round 2 in the morning.

If a woman wants to be great at sex then she can start saying yes to anal and throatfucking and whipping and FFM threesomes. But just being good at saying yes is enough for most men.

rus9384 · 2019-02-22T07:39:36+00:00

I would say it is also about passion. It's nice to have sex with a woman who really WANTS sex. And promiscuity signalizes that.

hammerhaunts · 2019-02-22T00:27:51+00:00

Nothing

beachredwhine · 2019-02-22T02:06:00+00:00

Oh I didn't answer what makes a man good at sex. Any man can become a sex God with this bad boy;

The king of cock rings. It's a bit expensive but you want your girl to have a bunch of orgasms from some sweet missionary? Even if you were cursed with a tiny dick? The Svakom ultimate right here

Title	What actually makes a woman good at sex?
Author	IroningBoard9191
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Comments	151
Date	February 21, 2019 9:49 PM UTC (7 years ago)
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