Ladies, if you were a man, what would be some of your deal-breakers if you were choosing a woman to date?

agloelita · 2019-01-18T00:09:40+00:00

Social media. If she has to constantly post on it then NO fucking way.

planejane · 2019-01-17T23:13:01+00:00

Inability to live within her financial means.
Too social. I like a nice quiet night at home more often than not.
Fat. Fluff is ok but not fat-fat.
Sexually prudish.
No cheaters.
Ability to take responsibility for her emotions and process them in an adult manner.
Too brassy or too timid.

That's the basics at least.

cxj · 2019-01-17T22:36:53+00:00

Hm. If it was hard to have any sort of intimate conversation with her that would suck. I mean I don't know if I would value that as a man as I do as a woman, but I can't imagine men like not being able to talk to their partner in any meaningful way

yasee · 2019-01-17T22:03:44+00:00

same as they are now: serious crimes, all the isms you'd expect a hippie sjw to object to & chewing gum

Littleknownfacts · 2019-01-17T21:27:43+00:00

🎶If you want to live a happy life, make an ugly woman your wife🎵

a_vanillae · 2019-01-17T22:56:09+00:00

Smoking. Poor decision making. Disinterest in maintaining good health. Not being a decent human being.

CatchPhraze · 2019-01-17T22:06:42+00:00

Can we respond as bi woman?

I'd want and do want an attractive, humorous, adventurus and patience woman. One with at least some of the shared hobbies and similar life goals.

Deal breakers would be ugly, overwhelmingly serious, too timid, and neurotic.

The biggest deal breakers would be the types into over comitment, as in let's get married right away or the ones into open realshionships.

[deleted] · 2019-01-17T23:21:01+00:00

Same as my dealbreakers now as a bi woman who dates women:

- not kind to me or others

- doesn't particularly like me or I don't particularly like her

- lives prohibitively far away

- uninterested in bettering herself and the world

GradualDecomp · 2019-01-18T00:36:13+00:00

Probably pretty similar to the deal breakers I have now. No addicts, no losers, no cheaters, no one with a serious mental illness, no meanies, no one who doesn't take care of their body.

KikiYuyu · 2019-01-17T22:09:10+00:00

Even as a woman now, I can't stand women who are obsessed with their hair and makeup. It just gets right up under my skin like crazy, like who cares? Spending too much money on clothes and shit too. I like down to earth people.

kandyapplez · 2019-01-17T21:37:56+00:00

realistically speaking i would only date hot ingenues at the cusp of the zeitgeist and just take whatever shit they give me. so my dealbrekers would be being fat, not dressing cool and having a poor social media presence lol

Hungry_AF · 2019-01-17T21:58:56+00:00

Fat
Unhygienic
Religious
Unattractive (to me, not just in general)
Tradcon/right-wing/anti-feminist
Unintelligent
Promiscuous
Refuses to work/wants to be a housewife
Has a low-paying job
Wants kids
Overly emotional
Has only basic hobbies/interests like Netflix, hiking, dogs, The Office, etc.
Has no hobbies or interests
Clingy
Too goofy/jokes around too much
Loud and annoying/overly extroverted
Cares way too much about her apperance
Similar to the last one, too "fake" or "made up". You know, plastic surgery, fake tan, fake hair, face full of make up, etc.
Overly feminine
Too optimistic
Sexually submissive (although, I could probably get by with a switch.)

Actually, these are pretty much all my dealbreakers now. I doubt they would change significantly if I was a man.

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AngelFire_3_14156 · 2019-01-17T21:30:39+00:00

Deal breakers regardless of how attractive he is:

If he had cheated on a previous partner.
Lack of maturity (I have found a lot of men like this, regardless of age).
Either controlling or not assertive (one extreme or the other).

chubby_leenock_hugs · 2019-01-17T22:42:11+00:00

My dealbreakers aren't sexual so my suddenly having a penis wouldn't really change my dealbrakers from my current one; my dealbreakers would be sexual of course if they demanded sexual exclusivity so that's one but basically: telling me what I can and cannot do in my own time including whom I can and cannot have sex with; telling me what I can and cannot do in shared time when it doesn't concern you like insisting that I do different things with my food and the lot.

coratoad · 2019-01-18T00:28:50+00:00

I would have the same deal breakers as I have for men except I would be more accepting of her having casual sex and less accepting of her not being in STEM.

[deleted] · 2019-01-18T02:43:55+00:00

I wouldn't want a low maintanence woman. I wouldn't want a girl that didn't care about appearances or was just a plain jane. I would want to date a girl that did a lot of self care, always had nice nails, etc. So I couldn't be with a girl that thinks it's okay to wear pajamas in public or whatever. Asocial/introverted tendencies would put me off too. If she said she just "couldn't get along with these other bitches", NEXT.

I couldn't be with a girl who was irresponsible either. Financially or otherwise.

esiemualB · 2019-01-18T06:54:15+00:00

The same as they are now. Jealousy, cheating, violent tendencies etc.

slavicgypsygirl · 2019-01-18T20:48:50+00:00

My only deal breaker would be possessiveness like it is for men bc I only like dating

Uncommon_Sensed_1234 · 2019-01-17T22:06:59+00:00

Dating: Same as the one below for marrying.

Marrying: High N count, participation in BDSM, fat, bad language, slack morals, vanity, always dressing up and wearing excessive makeup, and not being a real Christian or Muslim. These are my deal-breakers.

[deleted] · 2019-01-18T01:08:55+00:00

promiscuous
high n count
has to be aggressive to make her points in an argument
can't admit when she's wrong/ never backs down
is the boss of everyone around her
doesn't want kids or doesn't want a big family
wants a very demanding career
has a lot of male friends and no female ones

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