https://www.nytimes.com/2018/03/12/style/submissive-sex-me-too.html

So the NYT did a piece a few days ago where the author talks about her dreamy experience with masculinity (dominance).

And then there are the memories of being brusquely, and without permission, pushed up against a wall — and loving it. In fact, those were the steamiest moments I could recall. I wondered if I would ever experience such an unscripted embrace again — and then immediately worried: Did my secret desires make me a traitor to #MeToo and what it stands for?

No, according to Michaela Boehm, a sex and intimacy therapist and psychologist; they make me pretty normal.

Her 25 years as a counselor have taught her what many women and men privately know, but are now too afraid to admit — the same truth that the success of “Fifty Shades of Grey” tells: Many women like to be dominated in bed. “Not in their lifestyle, not in their career, but in the bedroom, many women would like to surrender,” Dr. Boehm said. This may explain why, on Amazon’s list of best-selling erotica — a medium that, unlike pornography, is mostly produced and enjoyed by women — themes of male dominance tend to, well, dominate.

Data shows that the vast majority of women are viscerally attracted to masculinity in the form of dominance. I think we can all agree on this. Moving on...

Mr. Mobley said that post-#MeToo he and many of his male friends have sworn off making the first move. “Now, I just sit back and wait for the girl to do it,” he said. “I know there’s been a lot of sexual situations that have not come to fruition because of it, and I’ve even had girls be like, ‘Why didn’t you kiss me?’ But I just really don’t want to overstep my boundaries.”

So this guy still seems to get some kisses, but only when the woman initiates. So this leads me to believe that you can be submissive and still receive kisses at least, but does this extend to visceral lust seen most common in female sex fantasies?

Q4All: How submissive/feminine can a man act while still sparking visceral lust in women?