Much of the reason women complain about men being bad/selfish in bed is because they pursue men significantly more attractive than themselves.

You see it on askwomen, rsex, Twox of women complaining that men don’t care for their orgasm and this often is with fwbs guys they are just hooking up with. They say all or close to all the guys they have met are like this.

The main reason for this is because they pursue men out of their league. The men aren’t “bad in bed” they just don’t care for some hook ups orgasm, because they know their looks etc are more than enough to keep them coming. These men would have no problem going down on their girlfriends or with women they perceive to be similarly attractive.