Q4men: Have any men here ever screwed over their SO's?

BPremium · 2017-06-07T14:19:32+00:00

Ive screwed over 0, in my opinion. My last ex would disagree, but to her, "screwed over" means anything she doesnt like happened. Like seething with rage if she busted at the casino, saying its white peoples fault she didnt "hit". Pointing out that shes at an Indian casino, and shes playing video slots (the worst odds statistically speaking) made no difference.

Love8Death · 2017-06-07T17:15:35+00:00

At age 18 and just graduated high school, I ghosted a 15 year old I was dating and had just taken to prom. Blew her off. Just disappeared. Back then, if you were a guy and you ghosted a girl even after one date, you got crucified. And I was.

Before I got married I was in a 4 year relationship with a girl I'd met in college. It was a shitty relationship at the end. Begging for sex, accusing me of being an uncaring asshole, fighting all the time -- all while long distance. I don't know if she "cheated" on me, but I wouldn't be surprised if she did.

I ended that relationship over the phone. Just called her up one day from the place I'd been working for a few months, my first full time job, and said "I don't want to see you anymore. I think we should end this." I don't remember anything else that was said.

Ending a 4 year relationship in a 5 minute phone call was a pretty shitty thing to do. I admit that. But she had done a lot of shitty things to me too, so I had very little compunction about it.

a couple weeks later she called me at home one night weeping and sobbing. "I'm having a really hard time with this," she said. You could have knocked me over with a feather. Here's a 25 year old woman who acted like she absolutely hated me the last 2 years of this fucked up relationship. And she's having a hard time with no longer dating a guy she hates and doesn't want to fuck? Anyway I don't remember anything else about that conversation other than her histrionics.

She sent me a long snail mail handwritten letter (this was before widely available computers and email), a few months later. She told me she'd met someone new who she cared about and wishing me well and saying good bye. I did a stupid thing and wrote her back, telling her I had met someone else too and that I hoped she got what she wanted.

I reconnected with her a few years ago on Facebook. She's ballooned up but still looks like herself. She married an engineer 5 years older than her, a good beta bux. She has 3 kids. Still married to the guy AFAIK.

I guess it all worked out.

GeekyFeministDork · 2017-06-07T14:49:38+00:00

No, but I totally would. If my wife dies first I'll cheat on every girl I can just to make my faithfulness to her mean that much more.

Love8Death · 2017-06-07T17:25:21+00:00

I've led women on to think i loved them an was considering an ltr with them which was a complete lie. If you could even call that screwing them over.

I did that to pretty much all my previous gf's.

Love8Death · 2017-06-07T17:54:36+00:00

Only post breakup and only once and only when she was really really asking for it theres my r/prorevenge post about it.

Archwinger · 2017-06-07T17:22:28+00:00

Yes. On multiple occasions, with multiple past girlfriends, as well as with my current wife, I lost myself. I began to sacrifice things I wanted and the things that made me who I am to combine my life with theirs. To do more things for the woman I was with at the time. To spend more time with her. To make my life more focused on her.

Rather than communicating my love and my devotion, as I intended, the women in my life found this behavior to be needy, clingy, and controlling. I cheated these women out of the relationship they thought they were getting. I wasn't the man I used to be, and multiple girlfriends ended relationships with me after I became this way. My wife, unfortunately, was already married to me, and while she became very unhappy, didn't reach the point where she was ready to divorce. I have since reclaimed my life, and she is much happier, despite her verbal protests that I've changed and she misses the old me (who she treated like shit and never fucked).

cxj · 2017-06-07T15:49:41+00:00

I cheated on my first 3 girlfriends. I did not cheat on the last 2 tho. Only one found out.

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funny_lyfe · 2017-06-07T15:42:29+00:00

I haven't. When I am done with a woman I break up with her.

IIHotelYorba · 2017-06-07T16:09:04+00:00

I've had girls say I'm a horrible, terrible brute. Usually for things I didn't do that they thought I should, rather than things I did to them. As in, ways they demanded I change for them.

Juko007 · 2017-06-07T16:27:50+00:00

Cheated on my first girlfriend, mostly because she cheated on me twice before and my ego was hurt.

Cheated on my last girlfriend while she was already ghosting me for weeks but refused to break up with me.

letmepostnowplz · 2017-06-07T18:14:09+00:00

yea ive screwed over a good bit because i wanted to do better (but didnt end up doing better, just different)

[deleted] · 2017-06-07T19:04:14+00:00

No.

We just act like pricks, the great gals stand up for themselves, and we lash out, because she was a bitch anyways

Anarchkitty · 2017-06-07T21:05:27+00:00

When I broke up with my last serious GF, I was supporting her completely and had been for several years while she was unemployed and "looking for a job", and she didn't have other means of self-support and, in her words, I "took the best years of her life". She managed to get a job a week later and last I heard she's doing okay, but she still resents me for ending the relationship.

Personally I think I did everything I could possibly do other than continuing to date her despite being unhappy, but she would tell you I screwed her over.

Kralee · 2017-06-07T23:44:36+00:00

I have two that come to mind. You can be the judge whether you consider this screwing someone over. I stand by the decisions I made but I still felt remorse in the moment.

In college, seeing a girl in a town about 1 hour drive away. We meet a few weekends some at her place some at my place, relationship was maybe 2 months. Sex is good, she's really into me. I had no intent to date her and had even accepted a job in a city 4 hours away, that would start after my program break and I knew all this before meeting her. When the program break approached I told her I had just suddenly got hired at a great job and would never see her again. We agreed to spend 1 last sex filled weekend together; never saw her again or responded to her texts after.
Met a girl online and went on 3 dates with her. after 2nd and 3rd dates we had sex and talked personally. Genuinely liked her.
2 days after 3rd date she calls me at 2am crying that her friend had died in car accident and she wants me to come over and console her.

I said I am not a councilor, nor am I even that close to you right now. You need to surround yourself with friends and family who knew your friend, not the guy you've been out 3 times with. I went on to say we will not see each other again as this is a ridiculous amount of emotional stress to shove onto a budding relationship and I don't want to deal with this.
To her credit she never tried to contact me again.

[deleted] · 2017-06-08T08:33:53+00:00

Yes, every one.

Centurion53 · 2017-06-10T14:15:59+00:00

Ive screwed over quite a large number of my SO's its usually the norm with me.

kick6 · 2017-06-07T16:18:20+00:00

This question is unanswerable as "screwed over" could mean anything from simply ending a relationship she didn't want to end to maxing out her credit cards."Ask a more defined question.

prodigy2throw · 2017-06-07T16:41:13+00:00

Probably haven't had enough opportunities to screw over women yet which is why I haven't. I just can't bring myself to do the kinds of things women do.

I don't know how some of these women sleep at night.

despisedlove2 · 2017-06-07T14:08:59+00:00

No.

It is against the male code.

Title	Q4men: Have any men here ever screwed over their SO's?
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Date	June 7, 2017 1:43 PM UTC (9 years ago)
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