Any women here who have screwed over their SO? If so what made you decide to turn on them?

hyperrreal · 2017-06-06T16:11:49+00:00

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MarriedLifter · 2017-06-06T15:42:35+00:00

Hmm, well I know from my ex's perspective (at least at the time) I screwed him over by leaving him in his time of need.

The thing is it had been his "time of need" for two years and I left because I realized most of his pain was self-inflicted and never going to get better and it wasn't my responsibility or within my control. I was tired of being the only thing holding his life together, and my own life and relationships with other people I cared about were suffering. Finally he decided to put hands on me and that was the moment I decided I was done saving him.

Also shortly after I broke up with him I found out he'd been cheating on me for like four months, so, you know.

madscientistlove · 2017-06-06T15:42:17+00:00

Sure, I'll bite. He fucked my best friend, so I fucked his roommate.

Queen_Vee777 · 2017-06-06T16:20:28+00:00

I left my boyfriend for another guy. He had no idea it was coming and still didn't know even after we broke up. I went to university in Colorado and my ex decided to follow me there, though he couldn't get into the university I did - so we were about an hour apart). He was incredibly controlling and wouldn't let me have any friends. He'd break my stuff and scare me. We'd get in huge, bordering on violent fights.

My current BF saw me in a physics class and said he thought I was really attractive (large lecture where we didn't sit together). Basically a year later we met, started hanging out. My roommate was friends with him and he knew how crazy my ex was. the last night I was my ex, I left in the middle of the night while he was sleeping. We had been together for 4 years.

It screwed him over in the sense that he moved to a different state to attend college for me. But he had some serious issues. He was awful for me and irreprably damaged my relationships with good friends. Still, I felt very bad for a long time, but it was best for me.

Littleknownfacts · 2017-06-06T15:23:48+00:00

Everyone is the hero of their own story. No one willingly and knowingly does horrible things to people if they feel they have other options.

shoup88 · 2017-06-06T15:43:52+00:00

I don't think I "screwed him over", but he certainly played second fiddle to my drinking problem for many years. I would go out all night and then snap at him about something else to avoid taking responsibility for our issues. I did it because at my heart in a selfish person, and drinking was like my favourite thing to do.

Lyanina · 2017-06-06T15:37:33+00:00

I've been far from a perfect (or even good) girlfriend at times, but I'm not sure I've "screwed" anyone over... Define "screwed over" and I might have a story or two about an ex, I guess.

RockinSocksII · 2017-06-06T15:27:05+00:00

Where the automod at?

Can't screw over someone who doesn't exist, luckily.

philomexa · 2017-06-06T15:34:21+00:00

lol fine I'll go first. I screwed over the ex prior to my husband because I felt like he abandoned me to go play army. Additionally, I had simmering resentment from the poor treatment I received from his family and his inability to stand up for me. Finally, I was 19 and stupid.

IamTheWalkingMenu · 2017-06-07T01:02:04+00:00

My ex-fiancé says I screwed him over for "dying his plans." I'm sure he's telling people that. I'm not too worried about tho. He will find someone to take my place pretty soon. He's a great guy. Mostly. I hope he doesn't come back here tho.

i_have_a_semicolon · 2017-06-06T18:30:02+00:00

I did fuck a guy over once. I did it because I didn't love him and didn't care if my actions hurt him, in the moment. It sucked for me because I regretted hurting him. I regretted being a shitty person and vowed not to do that to anyone else. Even if you don't love someone, they don't deserve to be fucked over so what I did was selfish, wrong, inexcusable. The only redeeming thing is that I was young , and mentally in a much different place than I am today. So I'm not afraid of becoming a repeat offender. I just know what I did was wrong, I apologized. We're good friends now, somehow he moved passed what I did to him because eventually we did reconcile and he wanted another chance. The second chance we never made it exclusive or official and just stayed FWB until I left for college. I guess he aknowledged and understood at that point a long term relationship between us would not be possible (I couldn't love him) so he was ok with a sexual arrangement for the time period. So I guess it's ok because even though I hurt him and made him feel like shit, eventually he moved passed it. Good for him.

[deleted] · 2017-06-06T19:04:33+00:00

I got asked out (by an attractive guy) while in my first relationship (with a very unattractive guy), and I said yes without really thinking about it. I realized I needed a sexual spark in my relationship, so I immediately called up that boyfriend and broke up with him. But, the attractive guy ended up being my first pump and dump, so in the end karma got me back.

goatismycopilot · 2017-06-06T17:11:00+00:00

Defined "screwed over" though. I have broken up with a few people who weren't happy about it, I am sure that is the story they told themselves.

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darla10 · 2017-06-07T00:51:51+00:00

He refused to get a job. For years. So I left him.

Any women here who have screwed over their SO? If so what made you decide to turn on them?

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