I've learned this the hard way quite recently, so learn from my mistake. There are definitely some purple-pill methods that can work to get a girl, but keeping her attraction long term is a different story entirely. I started out with Coach Corey Wayne's advice, and I definitely found more confidence and success with women, but his advice was also turning away the women I was initially attracting and I had no clue where I was going wrong. I've been familiar with TRP for years and understood many of their key concepts, but never practiced them.

I wound up in a fairly decent LTR, but due to my lack of exercise and bad eating habits I temporarily lost my libido and turned her down for sex once. That one shut down and the reasoning behind it caused her to lose all value for me within minutes and she broke things off over text. Without realizing, I also let myself become far too soft and fond of her so there was no more challenge with me. Clearly I'm better off with her, but that was a learning experience. I finally learned how to cook healthy homemade meals, started working out at home daily, and I was down 10lbs in a week and had my mojo back in full swing. I was also back to listening to CCW's videos to get my confidence back up, but I didn't realize what the "purple pill" was at the time, nor did I click in he was focused around it. His tactic of having her make definite plans with you worked to get me her, but it didn't let me keep her. I needed more. I found good and far more content from AMS (Alpha Male Strategies), Swole Alpha (underrated gem), and a mix-up of Elliott Hulse's content.

Despite this, I let myself slip again. A few weeks ago I met this astounding woman who was only a few years younger than me (I'm 27), and I've never found such a close connection in my many years of dating. We are both moderately successful in our own lives, have our own places, social circles, etc. We are both attractive and ambitious people. No children either, which is a total rarity in a city brimming with single mothers. While we didn't date for long, things kept getting better by the day. I never said anything mushy or feely like "I miss you" first, and maintained as much of an alpha frame as I could to gain her attraction. It worked, but the more we started talking, the fonder and more tender my heart became. She's easily the most beautiful woman I have dated and was easily a 10 in my book, and in a city where the other 98% of women are 5 or less, I was smitten. She didn't sleep around either and was relatively introverted, but we had almost all the same tastes in movies, relationship values, and our sexual tastes were practically identical. She was completely enthralled with me and would message me constantly, tell me she missed me, and would ask herself how she "got so lucky to find a man so perfect". She wanted to hear my voice before we went to bed and do cute special things together. The purple-pilled man's dream. However I tread lightly and didn't want to push her boundaries to lose her, so despite my desires we never even had sex where I'm normally getting laid on the first date. I figured this meal would be best slow-cooked to perfection. I respected her boundaries and went at her pace, but also didn't let myself be walked over and like the man, I made the decisions. Every time she put the ball in my court. Last night we had this cute little movie date over the phone because I got off work late, and she told me to pick a scary movie (despite her getting easily spooked) and kept telling me she wanted me to come cuddle her. When the credits hit she started to become super hot and bothered hearing my voice and seeing my Snapchats. Like, super horny. So I took this as a permission to move forward since she was the one who started it, because if I rejected her that would have wound up even worse. She sent me pictures, videos, I sent some back, and she begged for me. I've never been one for phone sex, but hot damn was it passionate. It just felt so right. Everything about this woman did, and I had a hard time believing I lucked out this much. That was my downfall. I became too comfortable and stopped consuming my redpill content to keep me vigilant. 5 minutes after, she sent me this txt saying she "feels really bad and awkward about what we did", how she's "not like that", and she then said, "We have to stop pursuing this." She lost all attraction for me in that moment and no matter what I said to her she didn't budge. She has this weird notion that people have to be "perfect" and have "everything sorted out" before they date anyone, and while that's true to an extent, nobody will have everything figured out all the time. It's about growing beside a strong partner and not relying on them, but making the journey together, but she didn't respond to any of it. She went out of her way to say hurtful things like how she would "go date other men" immediately after telling me she "wasn't ready for a relationship" and that she "needed space". She went from being this total angel to being one of the cruelest beings I've met in all my years of dating. This isn't an understatement either.

She pulled a complete 180, and looking back I'm still kind of baffled. I didn't let her feminize and walk over me, pursued my own purpose, and made her do most of the work and was careful not to validate her too much. I don't think I made many mistakes during the relationship, but after I did. I was reasonably upset by this, and she saw my reaction. She knew how much I was hurt by her ending everything over something she initiated. I didn't go full goober mode and beg, but I still showed her emotion I never should have validated her with. She knew how much I cared.

I forgot no matter how amazing the woman seems, and no matter how happy I was with her, she was still exactly what she is. A woman. A formulaic woman who's behaviors could be seen from a mile away. So I snapped my finger and told myself I would stop caring about her. I became completely emotionally unattached. She was straight up trying to push me into the friend zone (which I don't believe exists) and said "Be my friend platonically or I'm not going to talk to you again". I told her I was no longer emotionally invested in her and that I don't make friends with romantic interests, let alone women. That it's a net loss of time in my book. Despite doing what she did, she immediately said "I'm not sure why but that makes me sad". She can't even understand her own female emotions. I was no longer giving her the validation of caring about her while she was walking me to the curb. She kept trying to push why and I told her "Because that's how I do things. I will never disrespect myself enough to be put in that box. You know why I'm interested. I have more than enough friends and goals to keep me busy. If you want to be in my life at all after this, you know exactly what I want out of it. Take it or leave it. I'll be busy with my thing, but if you're ever ready and I'm still single, shoot me a message. I won't be your friend, but I'll just be present." She then started to backpedal and say she wanted me to be sweet to her but didn't want to hurt me anymore. The further I set in the fact to her that I no longer cared or was invested in her, the more she started to come around.

I should have never forgot the Redpill simply because I was happy and content in my relationship, and neither should you. No matter how perfect and amazing you think she is, she's still a woman, and will leave you burned if you're not vigilant.