Men: would you rather meet the perfect girl you fall in love with at the age of 21 or meet her at 26, but spend 21-26 with flings?

ProtoPill · 2015-08-21T13:38:01+00:00

The younger the better. I met my wife at 16. Instead of wasting time on lost causes like most of my peers, I was able to channel her feminine energy to multiply my effectiveness during college, law school, and my career. By the time many of my friends and acquaintances were just beginning the new phase of their "adolescent 20s", I had bought my first house, got a job working for a big law firm, and started a family. I had status, money, and a loyal woman, who wisely bet on my potential and now reaps those benefits.

If I had to do it over again, I would make this choice time and again.

DaThrowaway808 · 2015-08-21T09:38:11+00:00

Perfect woman at 21

exit_sandman · 2015-08-21T08:34:27+00:00

Back when I was 21, I would totally have been on board with finding my soulmate and sticking to her. In hindsight, it's hard to say how much of this was my personal disposition (I am by nature not particularly extroverted, hence dating around would never have come easy to me) and socialization (the whole soulmate-myth being pushed on as well as the stupid idea that breakups are always the guy's fault; and I didn't want to be the guy who constantly failed at relationships).

In hindsight however, it would have served me (and in my opinion men in general) far better to adopt a "date around and have flings"-mindset.

Madness20 · 2015-08-21T11:27:36+00:00

Oh god, 21 for sure, it'd spare me so much effort, pain and suffering for dealing with 5 more years alone, and i would had have time to focus on things like a career and politics instead of having to be more focused on self-improvement.

OfSpock · 2015-08-21T13:36:02+00:00

I think most guys would wife up 75-80% of available women out there if those women treated the guy good. Men really aren't that hard to please. We're not going to all of a sudden become "unhappy" a want a divorce. The average man is loyal to a fault.

pakleader · 2015-08-21T07:12:10+00:00

Strange! Caw....wait.

As long as you're not dating useless holes you'll learn a lot from dating and sleeping around.

Practically speaking most people won't be able to plan this sort of thing. Also their perfect match might not exist, or they're too stuck-up to realize they'd be happy with almost anyone.

[deleted] · 2015-08-21T10:16:10+00:00

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=CVBMnmzhZh4

[deleted] · 2015-08-21T12:18:34+00:00

what do you mean 'perfect woman'. There is no such thing. Jesus I'm not sure if you're a dude or a chick but please don't use such stupid terminology. If you're a dude, I imagine you picture the perfect chick to be a super sexy, caring, nurturing, virgin in which case it wouldn't matter whether you met her at 21 or at 26 as you're going to marry her and stay with her way past her sexy phase if she continues to be caring and nurturing which she would as she is perfect.

GoldPisseR · 2015-08-21T12:21:16+00:00

No interest in flings.

Also, If she is your first and only the sex will be more intense and special by default.

hippopotamusrex1 · 2015-08-21T12:44:00+00:00

How would you define the perfect girl?

wtknight · 2015-08-21T12:44:53+00:00

I don't do flings, so I'd rather meet the perfect woman at age 21. Why would I want to wait five years for perfection?

ExpendableOne · 2015-08-21T13:35:18+00:00

I would have preferred to meet the perfect woman at 21, because that would still be 5 years spent on other women who weren't right for me either. Hypothetically speaking too, you could also argue that a "perfect women who is a perfect match in including sexual values" might also be open to bringing other girls into the bedroom, therefore getting the best of both worlds.

If you were to take all emotion from the equation then having flings all the way up to 26 would make more sense but then, why stop there? Why not just keep going having flings with women for longer if that's what you're into?

purple_lock · 2015-08-21T13:50:27+00:00

Get with her immediately. Of course, the perfect girl for me would be down with bringing other women into the bedroom ever so often, sooo... :P

[deleted] · 2015-08-21T13:57:12+00:00

Twenty one. Even though I enjoy flings, they get boring and do nothing for me, it's like masturbating. I'm the traditional LTR type.

SirNemesis · 2015-08-21T14:08:55+00:00

I'd rather meet the perfect woman I fall in love with at 21.

Martin2113 · 2015-08-21T14:11:40+00:00

26, Let's mix it up a bit out there.

vincentninja68 · 2015-08-21T15:36:01+00:00

Option 1 in a heart beat. Time makes relationships stronger, especially when you're with someone who values what you value.

Flings are overrated.

prodigy2throw · 2015-08-21T15:48:59+00:00

21 if not younger.

Although I'm under the belief that finding a perfectly compatible partner is next to impossible.

DevilishRogue · 2015-08-21T15:58:35+00:00

How about a third option where you have flings to 52 like George Clooney?

stats135 · 2015-08-21T16:19:42+00:00

At least with the way you worded it I would choose to fall in love at 21. Here's my logic: When you say "capable of attracting" woman for flings, it implies that to have flings, I have to do something to "attract" them. So if I choose option one of falling in love at age 21, I spend my 21-26 years fucking "the perfect woman" EFFORTLESSLY. Whereas if I choose option two, I have to go out and exert effort to attract woman. A simple cost-benefit analysis shows that option one is simply better.

wont_tell_i_refuse · 2015-08-21T17:23:23+00:00

Twenty six. If only because I met my virgin huge-titted waifu at 19 and fucked it up. Male brain doesn't stop developing until 26.

Wolfwoodd · 2015-08-21T18:42:01+00:00

This question bothers me. My perfect girl would be bisexual and non-monogamous, so I'd get flings either way. It also bothers me because if I had met my perfect girl at 21, then I would have screwed it up. I was pretty clueless about relationships at that age.

ManRAh · 2015-08-21T18:46:19+00:00

Unicorn @ 21

I've been a "Serial Monogamist" ever since I started dating. Almost every relationship 1-2yr long. I don't personally find having lots of flings very fulfilling, even though I consistently desire sex with multiple women.

[deleted] · 2015-08-21T19:00:11+00:00

I wouldn't know perfection if I didn't take the chance on imperfection. I choose to take risks and learn from my failures, regardless of obvious foresights.

There's also the novelty factor of experiencing new flavors.

Final answer: Perfection at 26.

AbortusLuciferum · 2015-08-21T19:52:20+00:00

I thought the questions would be so much more homogenous. To me it's very obviously having flings from 21 to 26 and then staying with the "perfect woman".

Maoist-Pussy · 2015-08-21T19:52:47+00:00

'Women are machines for suffering," Picasso told his mistress Françoise Gilot in 1943. Indeed, as they embarked on their nine-year affair, the 61-year-old artist warned the 21-year-old student: "For me there are only two kinds of women, goddesses and doormats".

Of the seven most important women in Picasso's life, two killed themselves and two went mad. Another died of natural causes only four years into their relationship. Yet while Picasso had affairs with dozens, perhaps hundreds of women, and was true to none of them – except possibly the last – each of these seven women shines out as a crucial catalyst in his development as an artist.

[deleted] · 2015-08-22T03:51:11+00:00

I'd take my unicorn at any age

blametheboogie · 2015-08-22T12:02:28+00:00

I wasn't very grown up at 21. I would have screwed everything up. 26 would have been better for me.

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scrantonic1ty · 2015-08-21T08:15:31+00:00

Meeting my perfect woman would surely imply that things would flow relatively naturally and it wouldn't be a very stressful relationship to maintain. Also the sex would be good anyway.

Flings and spinning plates etc. sounds too much like hard work.

I don't understand why any man would pick the latter. Women have an easier time of the latter, they don't have to maintain anything except their appearance, just show up, be entertained, and fuck.

[deleted] · 2015-08-21T08:00:53+00:00

The perfect women would be quite keen on you also fucking other women/flings/threesomes etc. So I would take the perfect woman because she would set you up for a platform where you get the cake and get to eat it too and there is unlimited cake.

hypno_disc · 2015-08-21T11:44:34+00:00

No such thing as the 'perfect' woman or true love, unicorns do not exist under any circumstances. This hypothetically 'perfect' female would be high SMV, so i'd rather plate her at 26 as oppossed to 21 as I'd have had additional time to up my market value, which obviously would allow me to spin her for a longer period of time.

Aerobus · 2015-08-21T16:50:50+00:00

Neither, because in neither of these scenarios is there a guarantee that in the first she won't divorce rape you if you marry her, and that in the second you won't be falsely accused of rape.

You can be godly attractive, meet the perfect woman, etc etc but one false accusation and your life is over. One divorce rape and your finances are ruined.

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