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Wedding ring shit test

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November 14, 2019

Obligatory stats: 41, 5'10, 150 lbs, been in the gym for real for 1 year. Bench 154 lbs, DL 286 lbs, OHP 88 lbs, Squat 242 lbs.

In the beginning of September, I noticed that I was not wearing my wedding ring. I always take it off at the gym to prevent damage to it, and had forgotten to put it back on. Not a big deal, but I didn’t really feel like wearing it then. Not really thought through on my part, and not consciously meant as a power play or signal to the wife.

Wife didn’t even notice, and two weeks later I went on a guy trip to Ibiza. When facetiming with the wife (and my little daughters) during my time there, she jokingly wanted to see my wedding ring. I said that I was not wearing it, and she pretended to be offended but didn’t make a big deal out of it. Not in the phone call, and not when I got back home. It didn’t even come up again at all.

Several more weeks pass, and we have had arguments and all, but no mention of not wearing the wedding ring.

Until yesterday.

While we are getting ready for bed, I get a big shit test about me not wearing my ring. Asking me the reason why I’m not wearing it. With my wet paper frame, I DEER-ed that it was in my sports bag and I was OK with that. She accused me of not having the nerve to tell her I lost the ring, I repeated that it was in my sports bag. She asked again why I was not wearing it, and I repeated that I was OK with it being in my sports bag.

She got really pissed and this led to me putting the ring back on. It really didn’t seem worth the trouble, we are married after all and the ring is a symbol for our promise to be faithful and monogamous. I realise I was completely in her frame though.

I’m a bit torn on this event. I clearly failed this shit test, but there also hadn’t gone much thought into not wearing the ring. This seems to me a lack of vision and thus frame on my part. Other than having a clear vision about (not) wearing the ring, any thoughts about how could I have handled this event better?

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Title Wedding ring shit test
Author BlakeMortimer
Upvotes 18
Comments 71
Date 14 November 2019 08:42 PM UTC (10 months ago)
Subreddit askMRP
Link https://theredarchive.com/post/295255
Original Link https://old.reddit.com/r/askMRP/comments/dwfikr/wedding_ring_shit_test/
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DEERframemonogamyshit test

[–]HeckleandChide43 points44 points  (2 children) | Copy

See the problem is that you opened your mouth and words came out.

Don’t do that.

[–]testy688 points9 points  (0 children) | Copy

It's amazing how many times this is the problem.

[–]z2a1-92 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy


[–]mrbadassmotherfucker23 points24 points  (6 children) | Copy

"Why arnt you wearing your ring?"

"I flogged it in ibiza to pay for that hooker"

Let her hamster run wild....

Put the ring back on the next day if it means that much to you.

[–]part_wolf21 points22 points  (5 children) | Copy

“My girlfriend doesn’t like when I wear it.”

[–]mrbadassmotherfucker17 points18 points  (4 children) | Copy

"I lost it in one of the girls vaginas I was fingering"

[–]red-sfpplusHard Core Red8 points9 points  (3 children) | Copy

She sucked it off and swallowed it.

[–]BlakeMortimer[S] 3 points4 points  (1 child) | Copy

All better answers than mine. Thanks for the inspiration.

[–]mrbadassmotherfucker6 points7 points  (0 children) | Copy

Just remember to have Amused Mastery. Her questions are trivial, they amuse you. Have fun with them and don't let her moods affect you

[–]WolfofAllStreetz1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

red crushing it lately

[–]SteelSharpensSteelMod / Red Beret19 points20 points  (4 children) | Copy


Way back when I started MRP and got my shit together, I kept forgetting to take my wedding band off when going to the gym, and having to shove it in my pocket when lifting. My wedding band is damn expensive, and I don't want to scuff it up.

The solution was one of those Silicone fitness bands.

So I put it on, and after a few days my wife makes a big stink that I'm not wearing 'MY' wedding band. "I don't want it to be scratched at the gym." "Blah blah blah you should wear your real wedding band." "I don't want it to be scratched at the gym" Etc.

I think a week later she said to me that I should put my real wedding band on, and I said to her "I don't want it to be scratched at the gym."

You get the idea. You don't wear your expensive ring to the gym because it's going to get scratched.

I haven't heard anything on that since, and my daily driver is the silicone band, still wearing it years later. Because 5am.

The point is, you do what you want to do. You might want to give less fucks. There's a book about that.

[–]mrbadassmotherfucker5 points6 points  (0 children) | Copy

One thing I haven't done yet (or had to do I guess) is broken record the fuck out of a situation. I figure it could be kinda fun... How many "nos" does she have in her...

[–]justpickanyusernameRed Beret2 points3 points  (2 children) | Copy

I made the mistake of looking up images of degloving a couple of years ago. It’s been a silicone ring for me ever since. Too many chances for injury with a gold ring on your finger. I don’t wear my gold one at all anymore even outside the gym.

[–]SteelSharpensSteelMod / Red Beret0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

That too. I did the same.

[–]mrbadassmotherfucker0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

I had to look didn't I... Jeez.

[–]Smuggler-Tuek8 points9 points  (0 children) | Copy

Do you want to wear the damn thing or not? Is it important to you or not? These aren’t questions we, nor your wife, answer. Decide what is right to you that’s what you do. You don’t have to justify your actions beyond that.

[–]JudgeDoom6910 points11 points  (1 child) | Copy

"I'll be bad to get some of mommy's attention". "Oh, it finally worked, she mentioned my ring".

This whole childish game of yours reeks of insecurity and covert contracts.

Get your head out of her ass and get back to the gym to improve your weak-ass lifts.

[–]BlakeMortimer[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy

There might be more truth to this than I’m willing to admit.

[–]SorcererKingMod / Red Beret3 points4 points  (1 child) | Copy

You should get it made into a nose ring, like a donkey. That way she can lead you around without talking.

[–]fannyfire0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Lmao, not sure how I missed this.

[–]simbarlionRed Beret10 points11 points  (0 children) | Copy

Don't know your background but some of these little hills ain't worth dying on.

You said yourself you think you should wear it.

Wear it.

[–]screechhaterRed Beret1 point2 points  (2 children) | Copy

150 fucking pounds.

Fuuuck me

[–]SBIIIRed Fucking Commando8 points9 points  (1 child) | Copy

150 lbs with the ring on, even less without it.

[–]gameoflibidos2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

He has to take the 5lb off the left side of the bench when he's wearing it.

[–]innominating2 points3 points  (1 child) | Copy

“Every time I wear it I get hit on. You know how women are about men that are taken...”

[–]BlakeMortimer[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy


[–]The_LitzRed Beret3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy

You were conscious of the fact that you were not wearing it all along. Waiting for her to notice.

Rather look at why you felt you were being rebellious/naughty by not wearing it.

In my opinion, rings suck. I only wear it for ceremonies when I specifically want to dress up. I didn't wear mine even in my bluepill days. If I could pass shit test then there is no reason you shouldn't now, knowing what you already know.

Society shouldn't determine whether or not you should wear a ring, or not. It is your choice.

[–]red-sfpplusHard Core Red10 points11 points  (5 children) | Copy

Several more weeks pass, and we have had arguments and all,

I have not had an argument with a woman in over three years.

Outside of court, that is.

You are having multiple over weeks, and you are worried about a ring?

Better yet, you go to Ibiza (known for sluts and crazy night life) on a guys trip and she doesn't really care?

How much fucking did she do while you were on your trip?

Probably more than you did.


You both suck.

Edit: I could cut myself in half and still weigh more than you. Fuck you are so small faggot.

[–]johneyapocalypseThe one that says "Bad Motherfucker"16 points17 points  (3 children) | Copy

Perhaps he can read your anal sex primertm and stick his ring up his ass.

[–]red-sfpplusHard Core Red4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy

Perhaps he can read your anal sex primertm and stick his ring up his her ass.

[–]HornsOfApathyMod / Red Beret1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy

Would have preferred that to /u/redranger207 's wife taking these horns of apathy and shoving them up my ass.

I hear we're cool now though.

[–]BarracudaRP0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Ha, I remember this. I was wondering if she had your head on a platter yet.

[–]gameoflibidos1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

I'm proud to say I'm going on a little over a year with no arguments. Even when drinking. I just simply don't participate. She argues with the air sometimes but that's all it is, arguing with air and then returning to normal.

[–]SBIIIRed Fucking Commando4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy

Not really thought through on my part, and not consciously meant as a power play or signal to the wife.

The only person you're kidding here is yourself.

We know it and your wife knows and we know this because you DEERed about it to both of us.

Personally, I find that very unattractive and I'm little upset, if I'm being totally honest.

[–]SuperCrazy072 points3 points  (1 child) | Copy

I can’t believe you’ve put this much thought/worry into your ring.

I wore mine for about a year and stopped wearing it because it was uncomfortable.

It’s been so long I don’t actually remember, but I’m sure at some point wifey brought it up and I told her I don’t like it because it’s uncomfortable.

We haven’t talked about it since.

[–]redwall922 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

I made a thought out decision to stop wearing my ring about two years ago. There are words on the inside of my ring ... one is the word "forever".

Given certain behaviors ... and mistakes have been made on all sides ... I don't believe it's forever anymore. So a ring that says it is a lie IMO.

My wife asked me about it about two weeks after I stopped wearing it, and I told her the words on the inside of my ring were a lie, so I don't wear it. I've been asked the same thing maybe two more times since. Broken record. I have my reason. That's my reason. Nothing to add.

[–]RedPillGlasses2 points3 points  (2 children) | Copy

What the fuck did you weigh BEFORE you started working out?!?

[–]BlakeMortimer[S] 0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

139 lbs of skinny fat sir.

[–]HornsOfApathyMod / Red Beret0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Wait. 139lbs and skinny FAT ?

I'm not a huge dude (165lb) but fucking christ go eat a steak.

[–]UEMcGillI am become McGill, Destroyer of Blue Pill4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy

Don't engage. Your whole problem I've read through out this is her problem is yours. "oh I wasn't wearing a ring and I got worried..."

Really? Why is the emotional hose still attached?

Your wife was trying to get you to own her feelings. And you did.

"where is your ring?"

"In my gym bag"

That's it. Anything past that is trying to make her feel better.

Make her own it not you.

"where's your ring?"

"in my bag"

"I don't believe you"


"prove it to me"

"nope. Either you believe me or you don't. But this isn't my problem"

The whole time she had you dancing for something that was her problem. See that now?

[–]Tea-my-hero1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Asking the question about where your ring is wasn't a shit test. That was just a question. Not everything that comes out of a girls mouth is a shit test. Accusing you of lying and have to have really lost it became the shit test because you DEERed with your first reply.

[–]InChargeManRed Beret1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

What do you want to do?

[–]WolfofAllStreetz1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

No clue how anyone can lift wearing a ring. Havent worn mine at all for 3 years now.

[–]SoggyTrainCucked by machines2 points3 points  (4 children) | Copy

You can bench press your bodyweight? Isn't that called a pushup?

[–]DoctorMoneyStacks3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy

It would be a dip.

[–]fannyfire0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

If you don't want to wear the ring don't wear it. The plan doesn't change either way, right?

[–]JameisBong0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Her :Why aren't you wearing your wedding ring?!

You: I took a pill in Ibiza...

[–]whammyfeet0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

You should be wearing the ring.

[–]RedPillGlasses0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

If you’re going to choose to be married, she’s going to want you to wear a ring.

Yes, the fight isn’t worth the trouble.

You can kill a man, but you can't kill an idea.

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