Traveling GF.

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November 28, 2019

What's up guys. I feel like I will get slandered for this but I want to hear some real advice cause I feel this is the only place I can ask and get real advice that will get my teeth kicked in and stop acting like a beta.

My girlfriend of 4 months went to the US for a week on Monday. She comes back next Monday.

Good girl (I know, no unicorns, AWALT), has had only one relationship before me and had sex only with the guy she was in a relationship with (first time). She pushed for our relationship and she said she loves me first.

Anyways, I feel like I'm 10X better than the guy she was with but I constantly think that she might cheat while she's in the US because we have a 6 hour difference because of the time zones and most of the time I don't know where she is and what she's doing because she's awake when I'm asleep. I don't show her this but I implied it a couple of times this week.

I've become too anxious of this because I don't wanna get stabbed in the back but at the same time I know it's not a good mindset to have but I don't know how to get rid of it.

Any advice? Any help?

Thanks in advance.

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Title Traveling GF.
Author AttractiveMofo
Upvotes 8
Comments 48
Date 28 November 2019 01:57 PM UTC (1 year ago)
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[–]SBIIIRed Fucking Commando132 points133 points  (23 children) | Copy

Seven months ago you posted a question about the possibility of your former GF cheating on you.

I responded to you with this:

You're 22. Over the next 10-15 years or so, you should focus primarily on yourself, your mission, your goals. Build your third business, build your fourth, build your empire.

By the time you are in your early 30's, you will (or should) have a lot of money banked, you'll be working on your mission and you will know exactly what you want to do for the rest of your life, what you want to get from life and more importantly, how to get it.

There are very few 30 year old men who can say that. It will put you in the top 5% of men and will put you in a position where you can choose - with great knowledge and experience - a suitable woman / women to LTR / plate / FB / marry and have kids with if that's what you want.

At that stage, you will have the pick of pretty much any woman you want. You may even choose the woman you are with now. But that's not important - what is important is that you will have the choice and the freedom to do whatever the fuck you want to do.

That gives you 10-15 years to develop as a man, to experience life, to grow and - if you choose - to bang as much pussy as you like. It's a golden opportunity that you would be foolish not to take.

You've dipped your toe in and out of Red Pill for over a year now - if you take the time to read MRP sidebar - you will see how much this knowledge can benefit a man. If you read the post history of many of the posters here (including myself), you will see how much a lack of this knowledge - ie., not knowing about and / or understanding RP - can fuck your life up. You will also see how the discovery and application of MRP knowledge can turn a man's life around and make him a force to be reckoned with.. and get him laid like a tile on the regular. Again, it's a golden opportunity that you would be foolish not to take.

Or, you could waste your time wondering if our girl has cheated on you in the past when what you really should be doing is becoming the kind of man that no woman would cheat on but most women would like to cheat on with.

All the tools are there for you to discover, unwrap and use.

Sidebar, my friend, sidebar >>>>>

Seven months later and you're back, asking the same questions only about a different chick.

You didn't listen to me then, you're not going to listen to me now.

You're never going to become one of those men in the top 5% who gets to do whatever the fuck they want and live a fuck-off awesome life.

You are never going to be a man who picks and chooses who he wants to be with.

You are going to waste your 20's chasing pussy that doesn't want to settle down. Meanwhile, that pussy is getting rallied on the cock carousel while you sit at home wondering what they are up to. Instead of doing something, you know .... meaningful.

When you hit 30, you'll meet some chick who has had enough cock and wants to settle.

You'll marry this chick then get her pregnant.

By the time kid No.2 comes along, you'll be on a drip feed of sex.

Your mind will be consumed by your lack of sex and intimacy and your relatiionship will be defined by a massive lack of respect.

By the time you hit 40, one - or both - of you will have had enough and will cheat.

The relationship will either die an extremely slow and painful death - or if you are lucky, will end with a quick, but very expensive divorce.

Then, due to lack of any guidance and mentoring from you , your kids will grow up and repeat the same mistakes that you did and will resent you for it.

Then you will die, disregarded by your own children, loathed by your ex-wive and broke.


Because you never fucking listened.

[–]2ndalRed Beret31 points32 points  (1 child) | Copy

Unfortunately too many of us were too young and nieve to take this advice when it was given to us, if it was given to us at all. Only later in life when we've made the mistakes do we look back and understand. I suspect OP will be no different.

[–]Awakeningof179 points10 points  (0 children) | Copy

True, when I look back at my 22 year old self I would not have been very receptive to this type of advice. The only way, like you say, is to make all the mistakes and only then are we ready to learn and accept the truth.

[–]ImNotSlash13 points14 points  (7 children) | Copy

Seven months ago you posted...

I responded to you with this...

How the fuck did you remember this?

[–]SBIIIRed Fucking Commando31 points32 points  (0 children) | Copy

I remember everything.

As long as it's written down somewhere (like in his post history).

[–]OptimusRP8 points9 points  (4 children) | Copy

He looked at OPs profile and post history.

[–]mrbadassmotherfucker4 points5 points  (3 children) | Copy

What kind of black magic is this!

[–]HornsOfApathyMod / Red Beret4 points5 points  (2 children) | Copy

Clearly you haven't seen SB3 pull off this magic like... every fucking time

[–]mrbadassmotherfucker2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

He's done it to me. I've witnessed it first hand!

[–]resolutions3162 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

This is one of the reasons he’s my favorite poster on this sub.

[–]marv86kw1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

The style of writing is uniquely faggatory.

[–]tightsleeves8 points9 points  (2 children) | Copy

Not only is this amazing, but a little too similar to my timeline... damnit. This dude has the knowledge to turn his life around and he is wasting it away

[–]Awakeningof177 points8 points  (1 child) | Copy

Similar timeline here too. I can only imagine how different things would've been had SBIII given me the same advice as OP when I was 22. OP, I suggest you read that original advice then re-read over and over again. If you can't sleep at night while your GF is being railed by American Chad, then read the sidebar material to help distract your mind from the thoughts of Captain America going ball deep.

[–]BobbyPeruRed Beret10 points11 points  (0 children) | Copy

/u/SBIII strikes again!

I lived that scenario given in full, my first marriage... to the T.

My 2nd marriage was heading down the same path since I learned very little from the 1st... until I found MRP. So, here I am ... 1st marriage 14 years (married at 23)... current marriage 11 years. My current marriage was heading down the same path, and I couldn’t see why until I found MRP almost 4 years ago.

My point? OP should listen because it’s spot on - I know because I lived it, and now things couldn’t be better because I am no longer a brainwashed pussy, intricately plugged into the matrix.

In order to reap the benefits, OP must do the work. His struggle really resonates with me because I used to obsess when my wife went out of town.

The only thing I will add is OP has a severe case of ONEitis. ONEitis is diseased thinking, and it has nothing to do with the woman or women involved. You can be in an LTR and not have ONEitis because ONEitis is a frame of mind... her frame. Whoever the current woman is. Do the work and become a high value man as suggested, and you will develop frame and ONEitis will disappear.

But, based on OP’s post history, it’s unlikely his ONEitis will be resolved any time soon.

[–][deleted] 5 points6 points  (0 children) | Copy

Damn. /thread.

[–]floatingsidewalk[🍰] 3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy

Too right.

[–]callme_rdubs2 points3 points  (2 children) | Copy


[–]SBIIIRed Fucking Commando4 points5 points  (1 child) | Copy

You sound like my wife. She always starts conversations with things like, "you haven't listened to a word I said, have you?"

[–]AlohaMaui8081 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

This made me lol. I don't think anyone else caught the real meaning behind your joke

[–]thetempest8881 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Damn. I needed this today. Thank you.

[–]ice_walkerHead Negotiator1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

This is precisely what I want to communicate to all my 3 sons. Not sure how to formulate it though.

[–]macheagle0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Couldn't have said this any better myself. Bravo.

[–]mrpthrowa18 points19 points  (0 children) | Copy

You have the frame of an optionless low value man.

[–]RedPillGlasses14 points15 points  (0 children) | Copy

Read the sidebar faggot.

The fact that you haven’t used the word “oneitis” at least one time in this retarded post tells me you haven’t even started.

It’s from the Rational Male, start with that.

Your bitch isn’t special, and yeah, she’s probably cheating on you with a guy who isn’t afraid of losing her.

[–]floatingsidewalk[🍰] 7 points8 points  (0 children) | Copy

Rent the movie French kiss, watch it numerous times. Here, I'll spoil it for you: Engaged partner travels, meets hotter girl. Tells partner. Abandoned partner chases, meets new partner. Drama ensues. Ironically, both end up in better spot.

Idea: Use HER time away as an opportunity to do things YOU wouldnt normally have time to do. Unless of course, you lack ideas or resources. If that's the case, you need to work on those things.

She needs to be the one missing you, not the other way around. You need to work on becoming that person. Fantasizing or worrying about her activities while away is not constructive.

P. S. - Please don't buy a plane ticket and chase her. It probably won't work.

P. P. S. - You could watch the movie with one of her friends.

[–]Onein1024th7 points8 points  (0 children) | Copy

Keep living your life.

If she cheats, dump her.

If she's true, keep her as long as you want her.

Stop over thinking and fretting. What are you really worried about here? Worried she'll cheat, or worried you'll be sad and alone and pathetic after you dump her for cheating? You're obsessed with her

Focus on you

[–]Rogue684865 points6 points  (0 children) | Copy

If your relationship can't handle her being out of your sight for a week, it's not worth having

If it's that bad, your insecurity made it that bad

You'll never be able to date a quality woman if you're this insecure

Get it together

[–]rn78893 points4 points  (2 children) | Copy

Man, you lost me with the first run-on sentence. Part of the beauty of this forum is the demand for effective and direct communication. Punctuation is part of that. Nobody can take you seriously when you can’t type like an adult.

[–]AttractiveMofoNever Listens[S] 2 points3 points  (1 child) | Copy

I get that man and I agree. English isn't my native language so I don't know all the punctuation rules.

[–]rn78890 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

My fault. In that case, I appreciate you speaking our language to the best of your ability. We get a lot of posts in here from dudes who couldn’t write their way out of the last spot in a gang bang.

[–]brinkleybuzz4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy

If you're that concerned about your girl cheating, you don't need to be in a relationship. It's obvious you're the powerless one. She obviously has more options and, as a result, more leverage.

If the situation were reversed and she was concerned about going away because of the other options available to you, she'd probably be too worried about what you may do to cheat and would be frequently calling and texting you to check in.

Trust your instincts. If you're worried your girl cheat, then she ultimately will because there's nothing a woman respects less than an insecure man. Get yourself together before you get into another relationship.

[–]seedster54 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy

I want you to hit yourself in the nuts as hard as you can

[–]Tiway222 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

So what if she does? Dump her and on to the next one.

Dont spend energy worrying.

[–]InChargeManRed Beret7 points8 points  (1 child) | Copy

Maybe look into GPS trackers for next time. There may be enough time to hire a PI in the US still, it might be tough with Thanksgiving, but for the right price you could probably find somebody.

[–]z2a1-91 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy


[–]mrbadassmotherfucker3 points4 points  (5 children) | Copy

Have you done any reading of the sidebar materials? Cos it sounds like you are at the very beginning here without any RP knowledge. I might be wrong, but it sounds like that.

You have a serious case of oneitis and some very weak insecurities.

Instead of worrying about her and getting cheated on, you should be having a good time without her. She should be worrying about YOU cheating... Not the other way round.

The ironic thing is that your neediness is probably driving her to actually do what you're worrying about, whereas if you didn't give a fuck she probably wouldn't.

Get to reading. Get to lifting. Get to not giving a fuck because you're not tied down and the next bitch is right round the corner.

Imrpove yourself and enjoy the massive amount of pussy that's just waiting for you to fuck it.

Pull yourself off from the floor and start being a man!

[–]Onein1024th2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

"The ironic thing is that your neediness is probably driving her to actually do what you're worrying about, whereas if you didn't give a fuck she probably wouldn't."


[–]Onein1024th1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

"The ironic thing is that your neediness is probably driving her to actually do what you're worrying about, whereas if you didn't give a fuck she probably wouldn't."


[–]AttractiveMofoNever Listens[S] -1 points0 points  (2 children) | Copy

I have read the sidebar material, yes. And I do read and go to the gym. I also own my own business which is doing pretty good. I have things going on for me and I have other options. I have just built some kind of a connection with this girl and I don't wanna throw the last 4 months in the garbage, you know?

[–]mrbadassmotherfucker9 points10 points  (0 children) | Copy

If you've read the sidebar material, why are you so clueless?

You need to understand that this girl isn't any more special than the next one. You shouldn't be thinking about the last 4 months of connecting to this girl. Instead think about the next 4 vaginas your cock is going to penetrate. Maybe that will help you give less of a fuck about the one dry vagina you're trying to force your dick into.

[–]AlohaMaui8081 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

I call BS on you having read the sidebar. Summarize the books you've read. In your own words.

[–]learning00075 points6 points  (1 child) | Copy

Of course she'll cheat on you, foreign girls love guys in the US. Where's she staying

[–]z2a1-90 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy


[–]MeansToABenz1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

You’re a faggot.

[–]electric_dragon10 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

It's like looking through a fucked up mirror to the past, 2 decades ago... you can even talk to the past and give it advice. But the curse is, it won't listen. Tears...

[–]Cyprian_0 points1 point  (3 children) | Copy

What you wrote is not the truth.

You hope it is, and want it to be.

But it is not.

[–]AttractiveMofoNever Listens[S] -1 points0 points  (2 children) | Copy

What do you mean?

[–]Blueorb1231 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

He means that your view of women is completely idealistic to the point of being a fantasy.

Go read “The Rational Male” by Rollo Tomassi.

You can kill a man, but you can't kill an idea.

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