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How to act sexual?

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LabelOtherSide
January 8, 2020
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~155 lbs. 6’2” 24 y/o married for 2...almost 3 years. We have a 1 y/o son with another baby on the way... Christian, both of us raised in nuclear families. Both homeschooled. Lost our virginity to eachother. I work, she’s a SAHM. I have read WISNIFG, NMMNG, MMSLP, working on Mindful Attraction Plan. Going to gym. StrongLifts 5x5.

Actual question: how do we “act sexual” with eachother? We are both goofy during sex, but don’t mean to be. I have recently just started not saying anything because everything out of my mouth is just pure cringe. (STFU?) The other day we were doing foreplay and she is comparing the few out-of-place freckles on my body to “chocolate chips.” I’m struggling to keep an erection after that. It’s just so...goofy. Not sensual. We could both use help in this area. Is my ego getting in the way of us having a good time? Or should I actually try to fix this, and if so, how? Don’t know how to lead in this area since I don’t really know how to be “sensual” either.


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Title How to act sexual?
Author LabelOtherSide
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Date 08 January 2020 06:21 PM UTC (1 year ago)
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[–]johneyapocalypseThe one that says "Bad Motherfucker"25 points26 points  (11 children) | Copy

Red beard, eye-patch, peg leg, and a parrot on your shoulder.

[–]LabelOtherSide[S] 2 points3 points  (10 children) | Copy

Thanks brother! Seriously though... this is the persona I’m trying to avoid. Neither of us ever learned to flirt, much less have a repertoire of “mature, sexual, responses” in the bedroom.

[–]UEMcGillI am become McGill, Destroyer of Blue Pill6 points7 points  (0 children) | Copy

You're overthinking this. Did you read the part where Athol says, "70% of sex is just ok"

My wife and I act goofy all the time during sexy times. It's an incredibly vulnerable and intimate moment so why not do it the way that you like it to be?

Quit overthinking this. Next time you fuck her, grab her by the hair and ask her "You like that you fucking retard?"

[–]johneyapocalypseThe one that says "Bad Motherfucker"4 points5 points  (7 children) | Copy

What's with all this "us" bullshit are you fucking mormon?

Stop worrying about "us" and worry about "you" dumbass. Choose to be sexy and then be sexy.

For fuck sake do you need a goddamn illustrated guide for everything?

[–]LabelOtherSide[S] 5 points6 points  (6 children) | Copy

Thanks, man. I don’t understand, what’s wrong with needing an illustrated guide for learning how to better engage in sex? ;)

[–]umizumiz9 points10 points  (0 children) | Copy

Nothing, I don't guess. But there's a whole shitton of em. From Kama Sutra to 6 Asian Businessmen Punish Naughty Secretary - Anal Destruction 9.

[–]redwall925 points6 points  (3 children) | Copy

Young padawan ... If an illustrated guide is what you seek, then you seek the wrong thing. An illustrated guide may help you get to where you want to be, but by then you will have already realized you are already there.

Get a copy of the Kama Sutra. Try out different positions. Just lead.

Have both of you pick out 2-3 different "professions" you find sexy encounters might be risque or a turn-on. Maybe you'll have some overlaps and you end up doing a pegged-by-pirate-roberts night in your bedroom - or whatever. Just lead.

Maybe it's like traveling. I enjoy traveling because I get to see how different people enjoy life. I see something I think I may enjoy? I try it out. Maybe I enjoy it, too. Maybe I incorporate it into my life.

So sure ... look for an illustrated guide. Look to the group here for some pointers or outside ideas that you can try on and see if you like. But at some point you should be getting out of your own head and enjoying sex the way you want to enjoy sex.

edit: ... to tack on ... For god's sake don't try to get in your wife's head in order for you to enjoy sex.

[–]LabelOtherSide[S] 0 points1 point  (2 children) | Copy

Thank you for the advice. Will look into the Kama Sutra since I have heard so much about it. I am learning to lead in the bedroom. Only so much you can learn before you have to just “do it.”

[–]redwall924 points5 points  (1 child) | Copy

Fun illustrative suggestion - Get a sharpie and draw a cookie around a hidden freckle or two.

Not sure why freckles would make you struggle to keep an erection other than maybe you wish you didn't have freckles? But there I go trying to get into your mind. Who gives a crap about freckles? If you really give a crap about freckles, then go see a doc and have them removed. Or ... maybe realize you're just being vain by giving a crap about freckles. Up to you to decide.

[–]mrpmonk1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Get a sharpie and draw a cookie around a hidden freckle or two.

I love this A&A

[–]redditguy610 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Freckles? Look at this freckle on the head of my dick. Real close.

[–]Gooldbergg1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Youre supposed to be goofy and laugh and have fun during sex. Withdrawing is weird and way worse than the playfullness you have got going on. Try spicing things up by incorporating some dominance (hand on neck. manhandling her, hair pulling, etc)

[–]SBIIIRed Fucking Commando17 points18 points  (0 children) | Copy

The other day we were doing foreplay and she is comparing the few out-of-place freckles on my body to “chocolate chips.” I’m struggling to keep an erection after that.

She can't talk if you stick your cock down her throat.

At best, all she'll say is "occclat ships'.

[–]red-iron-man24 points25 points  (3 children) | Copy

Think of the most masculine and attractive man you can think of. This guy has wide shoulders, big arms and solid oak legs and calves. He's got a 6 pack and side delts like melons.

Now imagine this guy on top of your wife. He's got her legs spread back and he's nailing her like the fuck toy she is.

In that moment do you think she's stopping to point out a freckle on this guy's body? If she did, do you think he'd even notice? No, he'd probably pick her up and toss her around so he could bang her from behind and tell her to shut her pie hole.

This is the mindset you're missing. Also, in order to pull it off you have to lift dude. Good luck.

[–]IATAsshole5 points6 points  (1 child) | Copy

Yes OP, now get your freckly chocolate chip looking ass to work and stop being a faggot, faggot!

[–]red-iron-man0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

I bet OP's first child won't have any chocolate chips because they'll have some other guys DNA.

[–]hack3geRed Beret1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Now imagine this guy on top of your wife. He's got her legs spread back and he's nailing her like the fuck toy she is.

It’s likely she is already getting railed like this since OP is a faggot.

There’s a reason we say lift and get jacked - my wife used to do cute things like this and once I started looking like a man it changed to her ripping her clothes off, claw marks in my back and her needing to be fucked right now.

Frame helps but actually being jacked is a cheat code.

[–]HeckleandChide17 points18 points  (2 children) | Copy

You are a church boy so I’ll fill you in on something that churches avoid.

Step 1. Recognize that women are sexual beings. Women like sex. Women want sex.

Step 2. Recognize that women are not men without dicks. Women are driven by different desires surrounding sex than men.

Step 3. Recognize that women are reflective lovers IF the man is attractive. You want her to be more erotic? Lead her. You want her to be more kinky? Lead her.

A woman’s sexual desires and activities are shaped by the man she is with. Unattractive man? Snooze missionary 1x a month. Attractive man? Doggy on Sunday before church. Attractive man with game, frame, and OYS? Practically anything he wants.

GIANT CAVEAT. Hormones and sleep deprivation are real things. If momma has had a newborn on the tit and an 18 month old shitting on the carpet all day, normal rules do not apply.

DO NOT USE DREAD OR EXPECT NORMAL DREAD TO WORK ON PREGNANT WOMEN OR NEW MOMS.

Final words. Invest in yourself. Develop frame / game and put on 45lbs of muscle and get ready for some amazing times when the kids are 3-4 years old.

[–]LabelOtherSide[S] 4 points5 points  (1 child) | Copy

Thanks man. I appreciate your insight. You are right about churches not teaching the whole story when it comes to sex. Also as I have been reading on here and other red pill places, it has become apparent to me that the scale for sexual responsiveness is related to your attractiveness, like you said. Can’t sweep that truth under the rug.

And no, I haven’t been using dread since I had heard that it was a bad idea during pregnancy. Though I think just me going to the gym has been showing “passive” dread or whatever. She keeps saying “wait till I have this baby, I am gonna go join a gym too!” I am not initiating these conversations so there must be some level of dread there. Looking forward to being a hard-ass wood splitting machine like my father was... in about 3-4 years. ;) Thanks again for sharing.

[–]simbarlionRed Beret3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy

A macro perspective of what H&C is saying is that you are approaching sex from a society / church perspective, and you need to switch to a biology / instinct approach.

I don't care how churchy she is her mind goes nuts with horny when she hits the mills and boon books.

And you could check out some 'female friendly' porn (by yourself to start) which is full of romance and foreplay.

[–]captainbourbon506 points7 points  (2 children) | Copy

Finally something I feel competent to comment on on this sub. Older guy(50s), and I can fuck. I have had other women tell my wife that "your husband knows how to fuck." First you need to start with being verbal during sex.. joking around is fine and fun but when shit gets serious you need to be talking dirty. That does not come natural to most of us raised religious. Start with feedback.. "baby that feels so nice". Then add dirty words.. Baby that feels so good when you suck my cock. Then ramp it up, start giving her commands ...Suck my cock for me... then dirtier, Be my good little slut and suck that cock for me. She will either slap you or get so turned on she explodes. This can feel fake at first. Just like most things MRP. Next steps, taking control in the bed room. When she is blowing you grab her hair. Use it to control her head and fuck her mouth like a rag doll. Again she will either recoil or get incredibly turned on. When fucking her missionary, grab her wrists and pin them to the bed as you slide inside her. Look her directly in the eye and say something like... you like that cock in you dont you ? Again, goofy and fun is okay for small periods but you need to control the room verbally and physically at some point. IT goes way beyond this but this will get you started.

[–]LabelOtherSide[S] 2 points3 points  (1 child) | Copy

Thanks! Yes, from the little I have tried, it does feel fake, at least for right now. I actually tried the “hair grab” thing last night when she was blowing me. Worked great! I am working on verbal commands. Hard to say out loud since I’m not very confident doing it. She has actually said That she likes me holding her hands down. I will try to work on being more verbal. Doesn’t come natural but I know I need to do it. Should I... practice while driving to work or something?

[–]captainbourbon500 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Yes when alone or when wacking off alone. But most importantly practice with her. You will know when you strike a positive nerve that sets her off. You movements and vocalizations will change. She will gush with wetness.

[–]MrChad_ThundercockBig Red Machine12 points13 points  (3 children) | Copy

She’s filling in the awkwardness with the freckles nonsense because she’s trying to take the lead. Worse thing you can do is be quiet. Mmslp has an entire section on this. You didn’t do your homework.

Women have responsive desire. Need to fuck their minds first - via Gaming- then you can fuck her body.

Guide her. Tell her to turn over so you can see that sexy ass. Tell her you love being inside her tight little wet pussy. tell Her you’re going to fill up her tight cunt. Tell her she’s been a bad girl all day long and slap that ass. Tell her that you know she loves your cock deep inside her because she’s dripping wet. Tell her you want her to explode all over your cock.

Roar like a fucking lion when it’s time.

Also, like the others already pointed out, stop with the “us” and “we” bullshit.

[–]LabelOtherSide[S] 2 points3 points  (2 children) | Copy

Thanks. I’ve read MMSLP.... didn’t let it sink in. Can’t remember if it was there or if it was some other book where they talked about “believing that it’s ok to “lead” in the bedroom.” That’s where I’m at, most likely. I have said the things you suggest I say to her; felt good. Also felt forced, but of course I didn’t let that stop me from saying them. I just don’t whip them out often because I know I sound unconfident saying them. Something tells me I’ll be able to say these things with confidence (consistently) when I start seeing better gym gains. Again, gotta start going every day.

[–]MrChad_ThundercockBig Red Machine7 points8 points  (0 children) | Copy

Don’t wait for “gains” or anything outside of yourself.

Become the kind of person ..now ..who acts like that. Your thoughts literally create your reality.

To be the king, you need to act like the king. Become the fucking king.

[–]Nodeal_reddit0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Lead, but still have fun. Don’t do a full 180 and go into retard asshole mode.

[–]ImNotSlash6 points7 points  (2 children) | Copy

I mean, if my girl was blowing me and she stopped and made a comment about "chocolate chips", I think I wouldn't even notice because my girl's blowing me.... Did she stop to get a cookie?

[–]part_wolf0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

Thanks, now I want a blowjob and cookies.

[–]ImNotSlash0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

I mean, she's used those Listerine strips before and that wasn't bad. A cookie would be a turn I didn't see cumming.

[–]justpickanyusernameRed Beret5 points6 points  (2 children) | Copy

You need some muscles. I was once upon a time 6'0" @ 150lbs. I was a bean pole. You are two inches taller than me and about the same weight I was. She should be distracted by your muscles and not your freckles that look like chocolate chips.

It can be done. The day I started lifting I was 150.0 lbs even. Five years later I just now surpassed 200 lbs. I also haven't missed very many days in the gym in those five years and I have eaten well. Even still, I have made a ton of lifting and dieting mistakes along the way. Keep hitting the gym. It's a lot easier to be sexy when you are sexy. I'm still not where I want to be with my physique, but it is night and day with the looks I get being a well-dressed, fit, 6'0" 200lbs than a skinny 6'0" 150lbs holocaust survivor.

The rules are different for hot guys. They just are. You will also see your naturally more dominant side emerge when you can pick her up and toss her around.

[–]LabelOtherSide[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

“When you can pick her up and toss her around” Say no more!!!

[–]RedPillGlasses0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

holocaust survivor

Nice, upvote

[–]cholomiteMod / BP Downvote Magnet10 points11 points  (9 children) | Copy

Eh, in my opinion it's better to be loose and goofy than uptight and serious about sex. Consider yourself lucky you don't have some cold fish wife who tells you to shut up and finish already.

I get it though, you want the hot steamy sex like on tv. You're too weak now to really be able to dominate her like she wants, so hit the gym and start lifting. No woman will ever submit to a man that can't physically dominate her.

About her goofy comments and shit, just shut her up by making her gasp and lose her breath. A bite on the neck, a deep kiss, some soft teasing touch when she doesn't expect it. If she's talking to you, it means you're not taking her breath away and she isn't lost in the sensations of the moment. You want her to feel like a little doll in your big strong arms, anxious but excited about what you're going to do to her next.

Good sex isn't a 50/50 equal partnership, it's when a strong and attractive man conquers his woman and owns her body. Don't ignore her pleasure but don't get caught up in a tit for tat, equal exchange of services until you both get off.

Read sex god method if you want more info on how to increase her immersion in the moment.

[–]LabelOtherSide[S] 1 point2 points  (8 children) | Copy

Thanks, I’ll look into Sex God Method. Definitely need to keep hitting the gym.

[–]cholomiteMod / BP Downvote Magnet3 points4 points  (7 children) | Copy

You're a tall skinny bastard like me, so make sure you focus a lot of energy on eating enough, and eating the right foods. Your diet will be just as important to building strength as any time spent in the gym.

[–]LabelOtherSide[S] -1 points0 points  (6 children) | Copy

Any tips on eating enough/more? I eat home-cooked stuff like chicken, potatoes, rice, etc. Problem being that I don’t generally feel the need to go back for seconds, or thirds. I have tried/am trying the GOMAD regimen... gallon of milk a day.... program is apparently made for hard-gainers like me.

[–]red-sfpplusHard Core Red4 points5 points  (7 children) | Copy

Acting is for Hollywood.

You have to embody sex.

[–]LabelOtherSide[S] 0 points1 point  (6 children) | Copy

I like it... how though?

[–]red-sfpplusHard Core Red5 points6 points  (5 children) | Copy

Well, stop embodying faggotry first.

[–]hack3geRed Beret2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

I love when faggots ask how they stop LARPing something - makes me chuckle.

[–]LabelOtherSide[S] 0 points1 point  (2 children) | Copy

Good idea... how though? Lol

[–]RedPillGlasses2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

I know lots of guys say “be the man” right now.

But for me, it’s all about the gym.

Hit the gym hard, and start taking creatine. When you do a loading phase of creatine, you can put on 5-10 pounds of muscle (water in the muscles, but nobody knows that but you), and look as if you have been lifting for 6 months straight.

Within the next 30 days of gym and losing creatine, you WILL fucking her harder and she WILL be stopping 50% of this goofy sex bullshit.

The rest is up to mindset, reread MMSLP, because you didn’t internalize the first time.

[–]EasyDaysHardNights4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy

Drop the lol, for one.

[–]WolfofAllStreetz0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Another upvote.

[–]WesternhagenWinner4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy

Nobody has mentioned 6' 2" 155lbs yet. Yeah you're still young but good grief you need to bulk up. Add 30 or 40 pounds of muscle and she'll be too busy noticing your muscles to care about your freckles.

[–]WolfofAllStreetz2 points3 points  (1 child) | Copy

6’2 150, step one; eat

[–]AlohaMaui8080 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

u/LabelOtherSide

Everyone agrees on this.

Have you calculated your TDEE? Are you eating clean? Are you eating 1-1.5g protein pound body weight per day? (That's 150-225g per day of quality protein intake minimum, then fill the rest of your calories with good carbs and fats)

All this stuff is in the guides on MRP.

[–][deleted] 2 points3 points  (1 child) | Copy

Two questions 1. Is the sex frequent enough for you? 2. Other than a few moments where you laugh is the sex good? If it’s yes to both who fucking cares. Sex is supposed to be fun, my wife and I have had all kinds of funny shit happen while we were fucking. One of my favorite things is to start fucking her hard before she stops laughing and watch her expression and attitude change.

[–]LabelOtherSide[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Not frequent enough for me. I was taking her to the bedroom more frequently than ever before (improving week by week) when I first hit the gym. Pregnancy happened and slowed that down.

Other than a few moments where you laugh, is the sex good? -I don’t know, I’ve only ever been with “her!” Lol I would say it’s pleasurable, just not “exciting.” We are pretty goofy people so I’m trying to not make this an ego thing... we have silly times during sex. I just finally realized I would enjoy sex “better” if neither of us spoke during.

[–]rocknrollchuck1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy

If you've never done it before, then it takes practice. It's gonna feel weird at first, because it's not natural. Just like anything else that involves interacting with others.

​

Think about asking your boss for a raise: if you've never done it, then you will be stilted, awkward and it won't feel natural. But once you've approached your boss for a raise over the course of your career, it will feel more natural. So just go with it, and don't make a big deal out of it. But the worst thing you can do is be silent. Just describe what you see, what you like, tell her when she does stuff to you that you enjoy, if you want her to do it different then tell her - and show her how you like it. Part of great sex is teaching each other and realizing that neither of you knows exactly what you want yet. And that's okay. Make the bedroom a place where she can feel free to tell you anything she wants, and the same for you in return. And practice, practice, practice.

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After a while it will just feel natural. That's the same whether you're a Christian or not. And since you're a Christian let me ask, how's your walk with the Lord?

[–]LabelOtherSide[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

That’s what is so surprising. I (like a lot of Christians, I guess) though that sex would just “click” once you get married. Boy was I wrong. That’s why I’m glad I found this place.

Also, thanks for asking! My walk with the Lord is good. I don’t do anything to earn His love... I just trust that what Jesus did on the cross is enough, and that it counts for me. That’s what it means when it says “believe ON the name of Jesus Christ,” at least that’s how I view it. I serve the Lord in various ways, currently by teaching small group discussions with some other church members. But my understanding is that His love for me is unmerited, so these things that I do are just to honor Him, not to earn “points” with God. Thanks for asking man.

[–]tspitsatgp1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy

My guess is that you have a problem with intimacy. The goofiness that comes out is a way of dealing with the awkwardness that you feel in being intimate with your partner. You don’t know if you are “doing the right thing”, or if you are “saying the right thing”, so you make a joke to relieve the tension. It’s a self-conscious behaviour.

How do you feel about just kissing your wife? Just kissing her for an extended period of time without using it as an on-ramp to sex? Does it make you feel uncomfortable?

STFU isn’t the right approach here. You need to look inside yourself and find out what is holding you back, what’s making you uncomfortable.

I would start with just sometimes kissing without escalating to sex. Get comfortable just kissing and touching, and slowly change the tone. FYI > I said sometimes, the other times you just fuck.

If you just start getting all serious, STFU, and getting annoyed at her when she’s goofy it’s just going to be a Rambo shit-show.

You first need to lead yourself to a place where you are comfortable with intimacy and sex and then she will have a man to follow.

How do you get there? You read, reflect, talk with male friends, and mature. You are stuck in your head.

[–]LabelOtherSide[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Thanks. I probably am stuck in my head a little. I have no problems with intimacy, and I don’t diffuse awkward situations with humor. I could qualify that statement but I’m not going to. However I do have a problem with things seeming “goofy” in the bedroom. As others have pointed out, it’s probably a number of things, all of which I can improve on. I am actually going to hang out with a group of guys at a burger joint tonight, so looking forward to the “male friends” aspect. Thanks for the advice.

[–]SoggyTrainCucked by machines1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Here is an easy move for you. Next time she starts talking during sex just take one of your hands and cover her mouth, look her in the eyes and say "shh", hold your hand over her mouth and fuck her hard. I bet she will love it.

[–]ChokingDownRPRed Beret1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Push her head down onto your cock so she can't talk. Throw her on the bed on her belly and grab a handful of her hair while you pound her out. Set the tone, she will follow if you're a man she desires. Not much room for small talk or jokes when you're fucking her right.

[–]BobbyPeruRed Beret1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Start by turning everything sexual- conversations, grab her butt... etc

Then, during sex give her a spanking before or during... its kind of goofy and serious at the same time. It might arouse her.. and you.

Eventually...

Give her a good serious pounding.

[–]BostonBrakeJob1 point2 points  (4 children) | Copy

A boner is a pretty natural response. So is losing one. What do you think about your ego getting in the way now?

Getting jacked would help, as far as getting a natural [sexual] response from her, sure.

But it's also likely she doesn't know how to be sensual either. I'm not sure any amount of muscle will change that. You're definitely gonna have to take the lead on this one.

You could sit around and figure out how to robotically do so, or you could start exploring your desire by trying new things you think you might like.

You can also tell her what to do/say. Notice it's not "tell her what not to do/say." Don't be a faggot and sit around wondering if she "really means it" either. Just fucking enjoy it in the moment.

So....now what do you think?

[–]LabelOtherSide[S] 0 points1 point  (3 children) | Copy

Hey I appreciate this. This was the response I was originally expecting, honestly. You are right, she doesn’t “know” how to be sensual either. I will just have to step out of my comfort zone and lead. In other words, be willing to move sex in a direction that she might be uncomfortable with, or that might be “uncharted territory” for myself, as well.

I have worked hard not to bombard her with “what not to do” comments, because I don’t want sex to be a performance or a negative thing for her. So this just means the ball is once again in my court. I’ve got to “tell her” what to do, like you’ve suggested. Shoot... I should probably start by finding out what I like. :/ And work on explaining in simple terms. Like “on your knees, mouth open, show me that you want it...” etc. Side note, but... do girls naturally do these “receptive” or “showy” positions/actions once your SMV is high enough? I mean... do girls have a biological instinct to get into these positions or act this way? (Face down, ass up, etc) Or do they have to “actually be trained” via verbal commands or passively just by seeing other girls do it (online?)

[–]BostonBrakeJob1 point2 points  (2 children) | Copy

In other words, be willing to move sex in a direction that she might be uncomfortable with...

Yes. if you're going to explore new holes though, ease into that shit. There are plenty of posts on all that.

I don't know you, so I don't know if that needed to be said. Better safe than sorry...

"show me that you want it...”

Go for it, sure. Just keep in mind she might not know how. Don't get butthurt and be ready to do some coaching if that's the case. Your other examples are fine though.

do girls have a biological instinct to get into these positions or act this way? (Face down, ass up, etc) Or do they....

lol I don't know for sure, but I doubt it. As far as instinct to assume the position goes.

Biological drive is definitely at work when they "act that way" though. But if they haven't been exposed to it (experienced partners, porn, walking in on mom and dad, ect.) and/or have self-image issues then they have little to no reference on what a "HaWt DuDe" might like, or lack the confidence to "just do it."

And if no one's there to take the lead and show or tell her......well, you know.

Edit to answer your question more directly: Some may. Some may not. AWALT doesn't mean they're all the same.

[–]LabelOtherSide[S] 0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

I appreciate your insight. And yes, the warning on exploring “new holes” is appreciated as well. Before we got married she said she would never want to do that. A while back we actually tried a little bit but not much progress. Then just a few days ago we actually got a small butt plug and she wore it while I ate her out. I want to do some “anal training” like the post somewhere on here suggests, but it’s low on my priority list. Also, I think she gets “cold sweats” from anal stimulation so not sure what to do there... maybe it’ll go away, maybe not.

[–]AlohaMaui8080 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Focus on improving your intercourse before worrying about anal. Does she have orgasms when you make love? (Whether through oral or intercourse?)

What have you read from the MRP sidebar? I can tell you're just getting started because I honestly dont know how it's possible to be that skinny at your height.

I'd seriously start from Steele's guide and get to work reading posts and books in the order suggested. Your sexual issues are just symptoms of your overall lacks in the realm of being a High Value Man. It will save you a lot of headaches that right now don't exist (but will in 5 years) if you don't start sorting out your personal shit now.

This will have nothing to do with her and everything to do with you becoming the best man you can be. Doesn't that sound like a great, Christ worthy, personal goal?

[–]0io-Tsundere1 point2 points  (2 children) | Copy

You might search on Amazon or Ebay for lingerie you think is hot that would fit her. They have a bunch of stuff for under $5 that's great. Maybe role-play some. JohnnyA's suggestion of being a pirate isn't all that bad, really. Find some positions you haven't done before and try those (tied to a chair, whatever it is.) Have her wear high-heels or boots. There's nothing wrong with goofy sex but mix it up a bit. Get a vibrator and use it on her while you're having sex. You want to be a little outside your comfort zones so it's not always the same old thing.

Also, you shouldn't be losing an erection over her joking about freckles, it might be worth looking into viagra or something like that.

If it ends up turning into a goofy laugh-fest again at least you can blame the costume, the restraints, and the vibrator.

Sex God Method is online somewhere, I don't think it's actually sold as a book, it has lots of good ideas.

[–]umizumiz0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

Out of all the weird things that have gotten "stuck" for me, it's the idea of purchasing lingerie for my ol lady. I wanna say it was Rollos book that said not to buy lingerie, that a woman buys it when they want to look sexy for the man. I never gave two thoughts to it until I read it(wherever it was).

As long as there is no covert contracts(she can put the lingerie in a drawer and it wouldn't make a difference) then I don't see a problem. Makes sense for someone who is trying to stop needy behaviors, tho...

Spez: personally, it hasn't affected my lingerie decisions

[–]0io-Tsundere5 points6 points  (0 children) | Copy

I think the context matters a lot. If you're not getting laid and then you spend $300 on some fancy lingerie wrapped up in a pretty box that you give her at a fancy restaurant in an attempt to get laid then that's a pretty big covert contract.

If you spend 99 cents on some lipstick and $3 on a crotchless fishnet body suit, grab her high-heels out of the closet and say "Here, put these on." right before you're already about to have sex together then you're ahead of the game.

The message isn't "I'm trying to impress you and curry favor", the message is "I want you to wear this for me because I think it will make you look hot."

[–]tightsleeves0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

There is no 'us' - You need to take lead and she will follow/submit if worthy.

You are very skinny... 70 pounds lighter than me and I am only 2 inches taller. Your freckles are probably the most attractive thing on your naked body. Wait until your pecks and arms have ballooned and she will start playing with your muscles.

Read the Sex God Method for some tips... and... like your muscles... expect slow gains and no crazy quick breakthroughs

[–]LabelOtherSide[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

I agree that I am very skinny! The freckles thing really made me laugh; I know it’s true! Thanks for this. Looks like the best thing I can do right now is actually spend more time in the gym.

[–]vithus_inbau0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

mate just google for Christian marriage or sex guides. Theres a shit ton of them. they are fun to read together and then “try stuff out”. Kinda sad we live in a society that doesn’t teach us this stuff from the get go. Heve fun!

[–]wkndatbernardus0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

You need to do some push-ups, like now.

[–]LabelOtherSide[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

You make it sound like I have a life-threatening condition! Thanks for the chuckle, will do.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

stop trying. switch your brain off and let go, good sex is like liquid where time and space seems to stop and it feels like two people become one. the time should fly past without any notice. literally. not a thought should be going through your mind as you honour each other.

don't think of sex as a performance act, rather an expression of how much you like each other. if there is anything you might ever think about during sex its how much you like the other person, let that be your guide on how to pleasure her.

[–]RoccoPinkman0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Try fucking her properly, she shouldn’t be able to even think of anything to say other than

1.Fuck me

2.Daddy

3.Harder

4.I’m calling the police

Or any combination of these. Seriously though just lead and be dominant, nothing makes pussies wetter.

[–]part_wolf0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Next time you’re about to get frisky, tell her to hang on a second, then go downstairs and bring back a glass of milk and a plate of chocolate chip cookies. Then laugh and have sex and eat the cookies.

[–]JasonStar790 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

~155 lbs. 6’2”

I would say just pick her up and use her ... but this. Build some muscle first.

[–]razenha-2 points-1 points  (0 children) | Copy

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