What do you guys think of medication for social anxiety?

AsianAway · 2020-01-24T03:32:44+00:00

If you have a legitimate medical condition, that’s what they’re there for.

I was diagnosed ADHD in my mid twenties and once I started medication, something clicked. My work and personal life excelled.

Coupled with the physical and benefits from lifting has made me into much more of a man than I could ever be alone.

Just don’t abuse it.

exscionewhuman · 2020-01-24T10:22:24+00:00

Medication quiets the parts of you that are out of wack. You can tell it's a chemical though. You can tell it's weird and artificial. That part of you beneath your emotions is still there, simply aware of being aware.

Drugs can't fix you if you have a toxic mindset. Pain you can't let go of. Negative and unhelpful coping mechanisms. They can give you an artificial sense of what it's like to feel "alpha". Not bullied or afraid. You still need friends or a good therapist to integrate after the drugs.

Drugs can't show you anything that wasn't already inside you. You can have all sorts of intense and various experiences without drugs. They can help you know that there is a different side of you though. You need to integrate those feelings into your life sober. Maybe you were lied to and abused from a young age and didn't even know what it felt like to be relaxed. That it was possible. stuff like that.

You are so much more than your life experience.

RiderHood · 2020-01-24T04:27:17+00:00

Athol Kay’s Mindful Attraction Plan (Should be required reading) is very clear - getting your medications straightened out is a top priority. Mental health can be a real issue for TRP men. A LOT of us have pre-existing anxiety, trauma, shitty relationships causing depression, etc; which is part of what led us here in the first place. Talk to your doctor, there is no shame in taking medication. It’s an integral part of getting healthy and attractive. Also, there’s nothing saying you’ll be on the pills forever. Find what works and use it as a tool.

AshyBoneVR4 · 2020-01-24T03:49:36+00:00

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DubbleFUPAwitCheez · 2020-01-24T05:10:49+00:00

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Returnofthemack3 · 2020-01-24T07:48:48+00:00

As someone that has been in and out of benzo addiction for many years, tread carefully

chrisindub · 2020-01-24T13:34:39+00:00

Propranolol and Atenolol are amazing for social anxiety, public speaking etc..

And neither are habit forming or have significant side effects

It's like having instant NGAF

G0rv · 2020-01-24T09:52:48+00:00

For 30+ years I thought there was something wrong with me, having a hard time in social situations.

Then I changed mindset and realized that 98 % of the time I'm surrounded by idiots.

There's only a societal expectation that we all should spend time with each other at all times and enjoy it. But it is not a natural normal.

Yes you may experience having a problem in certain situations but what if it is the situations in themselves that are problematic, even dysfunctional. What is it that you actually want? You're the captain, you can configure the context and environment in almost any way you want to feel comfortable.

tl;dr If you don't like a party, leave. Don't pop a pill to endure it.

SaharaFatCat · 2020-01-24T10:48:43+00:00

O just had a panic attack where I felt like I was having a heart attack. They were extremely helpful. But coping strategies needed too.

O got myself checked out just in case too.

XXXMersenne · 2020-01-24T15:33:23+00:00

Capitalist society has everyone in competition playing status games (Money, resources, Bourgeois lifestyle etc). Your ~~social~~ status anxiety is a manifestation of your confusion as to your position in the local totem pole. When you feel you're the man and have all the "value" your charisma opens up and you can allow your self to be a normal guy. When this value is unclear you're not sure how cool you're allowed to be because a higher up might come & fuck with you to pipe down & stfu.

It's all in your head

Since this is in the context of social interactions I highly recommend you watch The BluePrint Decoded (Torrent & Download it). Although it doesn't cover medication per se, at various points it looks at the cause & effect relationships of anxiety in social situations. If you want to delve even deeper, deep this article.

Medication is Cash grab piggybacking of this by BigPharma. Instead of Encouraging you to live a more conscious, proactive lifestyle: Engage friends & family more, spend time in nature, minimize screens, Eat a clean organic diet; plenty proteins & monosat fats, pursue inclinations: paint, play, climb, dunk, shoot. Be more assertive & negotiate for transactions closer to win/win situations rather than being at the expense all the time. Instead of promoting that, they can put a simulation of its effects in a little orange container.

It's much harder to tell someone they're a pussy and should do the above; even harder getting them to follow through on it long enough to heal. Much easier & quicker to prescribe amphetamines & SSRIs. They can just patch you up and tuck you back into the system until your next major malfunction. Recurring revenue stream good for BigPharma bottom line, not so much for you. Don't get pimped, unsubscribe.

ultrasuperthrowaway · 2020-01-24T16:47:10+00:00

Nothing a beer or two can’t fix

OfficerWade · 2020-01-24T04:57:16+00:00

Social anxiety won’t kill you and neither will what people think of you.

Yetna · 2020-01-24T04:41:56+00:00

I’ve been on setraline and bupropion for anxiety depression for about 16 years now. I couldn’t imagine life without it. My testosterone is fine and sex drive is normal. Some people really do have bad wiring in the head. I would seek a doctor rather than listen to a bunch of nobodies in a thread though.

krusecontrol91 · 2020-01-24T03:42:14+00:00

There are apps and programs you can find that use video to practice too so it’s easier to start working on before you try with real people. I think I read about it a few years ago. Like eye contact apps is a good start for search keywords. Hope that helps

Thiswaycomrads · 2020-01-24T04:15:08+00:00

I suffer from sever anxiety attacks from time to time. Medication works really well. I actually prefer go be medicated anymore.

SteveSan82 · 2020-01-24T04:33:46+00:00

I took clonopan for anxiety. It destroyed my short term memory and I was on a low dosage. It can keep you from cumming too.

I found just jumping into what is making me anxious works better

Guinnessthemenace2 · 2020-01-24T03:36:13+00:00

Get a service industry or sales job. Exposure therapy at its finest for this type of thing, I’ve seen some of the meekest people you’ve met turn into natural extroverts though sheer exposure talking to strangers day in and day out.

send_it_for_the_boys · 2020-01-24T05:46:26+00:00

Once you get to a point when you’re really proud of yourself and feel good about who you are, social anxiety won’t really happen. You have to stop giving a fuck about what people are thinking and how they perceive you. For ME it’s as simple as I have an issue with putting people on pedestals and judging them and thinking lowly of myself and others. Work on YOU and owning your shit you just have to keep doing reps to get stronger at something man. Or you may look into cbd gummies if you are able to get them I hear they really help loosen you up a bit, and they don’t get you high. Just my 2 cents

2020-01-24T09:42:48+00:00

Never rely on a crutch

isthisalreadyused · 2020-01-24T05:38:34+00:00

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Haytch1234 · 2020-01-24T06:18:18+00:00

Have you looked into CTB? Not sure if it works well for social anxiety but its a legitimate therapy treatment

_nein_danke · 2020-01-24T09:50:27+00:00

Try Kratom Tea

sasha1911 · 2020-01-24T13:09:37+00:00

Cbd oil

fannyfire · 2020-01-24T13:44:33+00:00

The thing with mental health is that everybody seems to have an opinion about it but nobody has any real understanding of it. Medication is something that you need to discuss with a mental health professional. As someone who has seen and is being currently seen by one, I can tell you that not all professionals think that you need to be medicated. The consensus that all American health care professionals want to prescribe you medication is not untrue, but it's because health care professionals, like doctors, are not qualified to treat you psychiatrically. They are treating you with medication without taking you through what's called cognitive behavioral therapy.

You might have a genuine lack of chemical production in your brain causing you these issues. In that case, it is 100% acceptable for you to be on a prescription. A good example of this is people with severe psychosis. They're so out of touch with reality from hallucinations that they're literally not capable of stopping and having a discussion with the therapist to see what's going on. On the other hand, your anxiety or depression might be caused by external factors (work, school, and relationships, etc.) as opposed to internally (brain chemicals). In that case, it's okay to feel sad, depressed or anxious. You're supposed to have these feelings, but if they're getting in the way of your performance then you need to seek help. Sometimes, a healthcare professional can prescribe you a medication to get you back to normal with a plan to then take you off of them. The job of a professional healthcare specialist is to determine whether you have an internal problem or an external problem. When they find out what that is they're going to be able to come up with a plan to treat your issue.

xeroedouttwice · 2020-01-24T13:52:30+00:00

Klonipin sufficiently calmed me down enough to where I could handle social situations better, to the point where I got to experience sex for the first time. But it worked a little too well in that I became dependent on it, and things got out of control when mixed with alcohol. When I withdrew from it, it messed me up for about a month. That was a number of years ago, and while I've never been able to recapture that particular magic, I've developed resilience against SA in other ways.

Proceed with caution, talk to many doctors and build a solid profile of pros/cons. And continue your existing methods of self-kindness.

Hypnot0ad · 2020-01-24T14:04:20+00:00

I have the same issue. A little Sativa does wonders for me. ;)

Koshi_the_yoshi · 2020-01-24T14:10:46+00:00

Do what you gotta do to get better man.

That being said, I think the meds should only be used as a stepping stone. The end goal is to be well without using medication. Keep on working on yourself while you’re using the meds.

ColdBeing · 2020-01-24T14:29:25+00:00

The main thing about them is you don't want to be reliant on them. It's good in the short-term, just make sure you're going through therapy and keep exposing yourself to more social situations. That is really the only way to overcome social anxiety

EvelynnSpoiler · 2020-01-24T15:12:10+00:00

Phenibut. No more than twice a week maximum. Don't drink while you're on it.

Thank me later

GulpAndCry · 2020-01-24T16:00:13+00:00

short term: xanax, alcohol

seriously, SSRIs... fluvoxatine and paroxteine (seperately) worked for me, but this should REALLY be a last resort, perhaps if depression is involved. SSRIs essentially put a maximum and minimum bandwidth on your emotions. You'll never be extremely happy, nor extremely sad (once you're accustomed to them). you'll last longer in bed and if you stay on them a while you'll probably come off them with PSSD. (google it)

In MY experience (social anxiety was the biggest obstacle i faced aged 14-22) The best medication for social anxiety is not giving a fuck and exposure. (google exposure therapy). Easier said than done, though. I went out to clubs (with and without alcohol) to improve my social skills and approach. I did yoga 3+ times per week. I stopped smoking weed every day and moved in with my ex-gf and a bunch of randoms (do NOT recommend, but it was the gladiator pit of hyper-socialisation which in hindsight I needed (see exposure)) - shortly after my oneitus (exgf) started hooking up with a chad who was 6'4,250lbs, had multiple ASBOs etc, and threatened me because i fucked her, but then i took acid for the first time... completely lost all resentment, moved on from her almost immediately (she is now married to aforementioned chad) , crammed TRP and Jordan Peterson, stripped the last remaining elements of SJW left within me, stopped taking SSRIs a few months later, started seriously lifting........

what a shit show. dm me if you want.

SocketusPopetus · 2020-01-24T16:08:36+00:00

To much cocaine is bad for you.

EnterTheN1nja · 2020-01-24T17:07:42+00:00

Beta blockers like propranolol can be great for that with little side effects compared to most anxiety meds. They prevent some of the physical effects of anxiety like rapid heart beat. It's common for public speakers, musicians, and others to take them before performances, but anyone can benefit from them in stressful situations

thexceropwn · 2020-01-24T18:55:03+00:00

You shouldn't take medication unless your case is a bad one. I once took mild anti depressants "zoloft" and I think it did make me more free and confident which is great but it took me literally 1 hour to orgasm. it has side effects, I wish it had none.

pishposh44 · 2020-01-24T19:36:09+00:00

It’s okay to do however there are things you must know first: 1) There is risk of withdrawal when you discontinue and it can be a significant challenge. 2) You are treating a symptom but NOT the cause. You need to dig deep and figure out why you have inflammation in your body. Do you need to modify your diet from inflammatories? Do you have systemic infection like Lyme, Bartonella, Babesia or mono? Or do you have PTSD and need to retrain your brain?

There is a cause. It’s a temporary bandaid. It’s ok to bandaid. Sometimes it’s necessary to move forward but this is a place you’re visiting not a destination.

Slut_Slayer9000 · 2020-01-24T20:37:20+00:00

95% of medications are trash for you.

You need to figure out the root of the social anxiety. You said sometimes you hate yourself, WHY do you hate yourself? Is it your physique? Personality? Figure out what it is and attack that weakness, build it up.

Southern__Gothic · 2020-01-24T21:50:36+00:00

Exposure therapy (when performed properly) has a much, much higher rate of success than medication for social anxiety.

Exposure therapy doesn't mean "just go do it." There's a methodology to it, and you can find that methodology online if you look it up and go for .edu sources. It works like some kind of fucking miracle, but you have to actually do it right, and most people don't because they think they know what it is but really don't.

MagnetoWned · 2020-01-25T05:24:45+00:00

Honestly weed helped A LOT for me. I genuinely don’t give a fuck when I’m high af and it feels like almost anything doesn’t bother me. But it does affect everyone differently. Maybe try a small dose

frognads · 2020-01-24T04:18:10+00:00

That's a hell fucking no. I had severe social anxiety as a kid but got over it by gradually saying fuck it more and more.

SalesAficionado · 2020-01-24T04:29:33+00:00

It's going to fuck up your sex drive

ArnoldT1000 · 2020-01-24T04:49:28+00:00

I think it’s stupid

GushKaka · 2020-01-24T04:51:22+00:00

Man please don't. There is permanent side effect called pssd- post ssri's sexual dysfunction, it's permenant death or your sexuality and sometimes anehdonia and emotional bluntness. Also social anxiety found to be related to HIGH serotonin levels, not low so whatever u do don't take ssri's and not other psych meds because they can fuck you up badly. Try keto diet and nofap

fartt123 · 2020-01-24T04:58:20+00:00

every anxiety based "disease" could be solved by doing more of what you fear and adhd could be fixed by extreme order in your life, but you have to believe your fix is in your own hand.

and always remember this quote: "it takes a whole lifetime to learn how to live and perhaps you'll be more surprised by this it takes a whole life time to learn how to die."

acaliforniaburrito · 2020-01-24T05:13:16+00:00

Doctors are pill pushers, fuck them...so many answers on the internet how you can overcome certain things the natural way.

liquorbaron · 2020-01-24T06:59:01+00:00

Benzos are the only drugs used and obviously they can be addictive. All any med used for anxiety is going to do is numb you out and dull your senses. Can't have anxiety if you're dulled and lethargic from the mess.

You'd be better off looking into exposure therapy for it. The more you have to deal with social situations the less anxiety you will feel over time. It will get easier.

beginner_ · 2020-01-24T04:58:14+00:00

Depends what medication. I would avoid SSRIs and benzos. The first can affect your libido or ability to come (well in can thereby cure premature ejaculation) and mess with your brain in bad ways. Benzos are almost guaranteed to make you addicted.

DTron2332 · 2020-01-24T05:21:55+00:00

I wouldn’t indulge in them, they sound good on paper and make you feel amazing until you get physically dependent on them.

I’ve also heard many stories of dick problems because of SSRI’s. No bueno

seeing_red_ · 2020-01-24T05:58:47+00:00

pass the ladies my way if SSRIs ruin your cock

Hadabah · 2020-01-24T06:54:23+00:00

Hey, if that is what it takes to get you to the next level, do it. I cannot picture my life without it.

Edwoodz3 · 2020-01-24T04:09:09+00:00

Fuck medication. Pick yourself up and work on yourself naturally.

Any form of personality altering medication is a slip into degeneracy. Lift weights, read books, find meaning in your life.

wont_tell_i_refuse_ · 2020-01-24T04:37:14+00:00

Just avoid SSRIs. Most bad experiences people have stem from those.

TheDopestPope · 2020-01-24T09:50:36+00:00

you could try low doses of piracitam. its available online with no prescription.

Or do a deep dive with weed once a month. Im talking edibles plus smoking/vaping during the come up. Getting totally ripped and freaking the fuck out actually can be very good for anxiety in the days after.

DubbleFUPAwitCheez · 2020-01-24T17:10:06+00:00

You mean alcohol? I recommend it

Title	What do you guys think of medication for social anxiety?
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