Being an asshole douche bag worked for me.

TheSelfGoverned · 2017-01-11T21:00:23+00:00

They'll never admit it, but deep down they feed off of the drama. The fights, the shouting, the crying, it is exhilarating. They love it, and its why they go out of their way to instigate such behavior.

A healthy loving relationship is boring as fuck to them. That's why they'll try and sabotage it if you ever acquire such a thing in a LTR. And you'll be left broken-hearted and confused.

VasiliyZaitzev · 2017-01-11T23:43:18+00:00

You can be the nice guy that is bitter that women love assholes OR you can be the asshole that women love. The choice is simple, really.

trpbox · 2017-01-11T21:07:15+00:00

That was pretty much a flawless execution of a couple things.

Pressure flip instead of trying to appease her by agreeing about your haircut
By overdoing it you showed outcome independence (what kind of a guy calls a girl fat if they're trying to get laid, right?)
By walking out instead of volunteering to listen to her you showed that you value your time and probably have better things to do.

You don't have to be "mean" to use the above principles, but if you're able to keep applying them you will find yourself in similar situations. You got lucky with the weight thing in terms of your environment, if she had a female friend(s) over they probably would've joined in on bitching you out and reaffirmed her after you had left, but now she was left alone (ignoring the guy) to wonder if she overdid it.

Buchloe · 2017-01-12T06:57:57+00:00

Dude I met this chick who was SUPER bitchy and bossy, self centered feminist, thought she was a queen to be bowed down before. I straight up told her, does that shit work for you? I bet you never dated a dude who made you wet. Hard for you to respect a guy who'd put up with your bs. It's fucking exhausting. At first she tried to say she loves being the one wearing the pants. I told her bullshit. You just don't know any men with any self respect. "Well it's just a defence mechanism to see if they're real men. Most aren't. I love being put in my place. Once you get past it, I'm the most loyal girl you could imagine". Yeah, well who the fuck wants to put in that kind of energy? I couldn't be less attracted to you simply due to your attitude. I think she was stunned to meet someone that impervious to her crap, and she was all the more turned on for it. But by then I couldn't take another second of her, her body couldn't possibly compensate for how repulsive her big mouth was.

SomeGuyNY · 2017-01-11T23:10:39+00:00

She fucking lost it. Got out of her chair and in my face and challenged me to a street fight outside.

That's some jerry springer type shit brah.

trudatness · 2017-01-12T11:34:13+00:00

I would have been tempted to invite her over and bang the hell out of her. Then go ghost.

It's weird though... When the delusion breaks and you start to see shit clearly - you see the ugliness in women's behavior and yeah it disgusts you. It becomes a huge turnoff.

The next step is getting over that and fucking them anyway. That's when you get to terminator mode.

The dumb shit that comes out of their mouths sounds like Charlie Brown's teacher and you just sit there and smirk at their dumb asses while they drone on because you know in about an hour you're going to have her bent over a couch armrest manipulating her from behind with a fist full of her hair at the yank.

Once you start pounding all the shit testing insanity is meaningless. It's like it never happened. Why the fuck should you care? You already know she's a pernicious hateful little brat apt to play games. It par for the course. It just comes with the territory.

Hit it, quit it and leave it alone - that's what we old schoolers would do.

SirGaetanDugas · 2017-01-12T00:29:34+00:00

You, I like you..pull up a chair and have a drink on me

Stick around and her behavior won't bother you because

A its expected

B you won't need anything from women but sex

beautifulexit · 2017-01-11T22:16:08+00:00

If you lose attraction to a girl every time she responds positively to being shit on, you're not going to find a girl. They all love it.

Thanks for sharing, made me laugh

Thinderballs4200 · 2017-01-11T22:34:28+00:00

Nice post but you should have told her to come over to apologize then pumped and dumped her. Strong move regardless, op.

badchad_isglad · 2017-01-12T07:07:06+00:00

Good for you. Just because you can get laid doesn't mean you should. The farther you progress along your journey, the more you will realize that most women aren't worth your time.

Fuck only women that improve your life period.

zephyrprime · 2017-01-11T21:17:45+00:00

Good job but you should have banged her and then dumped her at some point after that. Also, what you did wasn't even super asshole-like. It was just self defense after being insulted by her. Society has just conditioned you into thinking it's always unacceptable to not appreciate a woman as a special snowflake.

Level_Dreaded · 2017-01-12T03:33:14+00:00

I am a bartender and i can 100% guarantee that being the asshole always pays off. Its known very quickly behind my bar i am in control. You get your drink in a reasonable time if you are reasonable. Indecisive? You wait. Douche nozzle? You really fucking wait. Pretty girl batting her eyes for a handout? You wait the longest. I've honestly been mulling over making a post about how the bar industry helped cultivate my frame. I've learned so much just from observing others in action.

TheLaughingRhino · 2017-01-12T07:25:24+00:00

I decided I didn't want a girl I had to verbally abuse just to get her to respect me.

No offense, you didn't "have" to do anything. Key to note is you can't win or earn or leverage respect out of someone who has no capacity to show or have respect.

You can laugh in her face. You can ignore her and walk away. Or you can stoop to her level.

Still do not understand this full on belief here by many that there are only two possible paths - Being a complete doormat and being a total ball busting hardass about everything.

Good "boundaries" can be had and enforced without stooping to the level of a "basic bitch" out there.

Just laugh in their face, say nothing else, and walk away and never speak to them again.

This is the mistake that most women, including raging third wave feminists make, that strength has to overt, it has to be loud and in your face and brutal. It has to be completely aggressive and over the top. IMHO, real strength comes from humility, it comes from accepting yourself and being OK with your own code, without concern for how the rest of the world operates, it comes from behaving as a cool collected operator who can shed shitty people without a second pause or glance.

Be an asshole if that's your true nature. If it's in line with your code of how you want to live your life. Don't be an asshole just to enforce upon some basic bitch. Reacting back means you care ( the opposite of love is not hate, it's indifference), why give that to some dumb twit looking to spark any kind of reaction out of you at all?

"Give them nothing. But take from them, everything" - Leonidas, 300

[deleted] · 2017-01-11T23:03:16+00:00

Gotta learn to move back and see things objectively, women love the drama, providing it can be fun when you really know what is going on.

No reason not to bang this obnoxious chick, extra points if she makes you breakfast in the morning.

prodigy2throw · 2017-01-12T00:37:00+00:00

Textbook BPD. Remember kids, never stick your dick in crazy. This man didn't even smash and his phones blowing up.

Highpressa · 2017-01-12T07:16:48+00:00

Got a little tipsy at a party and instead of being cordial ended up being very rash and kind of an asshole. One girl was inviting me over to her place for the night and another was ashamed to ask me if we should take a taxi together because of the implication. I was kind of ashamed how I'd been and weeks later realised that by being a rash dick I'd garnered more interest than I probably ever have. It's fucked up hahahah.

BL0CKING · 2017-01-11T22:47:13+00:00

congratulations, you evolved

bsutansalt · 2017-01-11T23:54:21+00:00

She also wants to hang out again, this time just us two.

I declined. I used to be really attracted to her but something changed that night. I decided I didn't want a girl I had to verbally abuse just to get her to respect me. That's retarded.

Oh young Padawan, you were so close to taking the red pill only to choke on it at the last second. You still have some work to do on getting your head clear.

anymanusa · 2017-01-12T09:55:28+00:00

Screaming? Challenged you to a fight? Stay away.

NovicePilgrim · 2017-01-13T07:37:41+00:00

You are not attracted to her because of those 20lb, don't lie to yourself.

Sdom1 · 2017-01-11T21:18:17+00:00

I decided I didn't want a girl I had to verbally abuse just to get her to respect me.

Dude, you sound like a massive pussy. You guys were giving each other shit - nobody was getting verbally abused. If you think a little banter is verbal abuse, you're soft as puppy shit. Maybe she got pissed, maybe she was joking, but she got over it. Women aren't as strong as we are physically, but they're not the delicate little flowers you seem to think they are.

You're still in a white knight state of mind. You're looking for a princess to put on a pedestal, not for a living, breathing human being to fuck and have a great time with.

When she challenged you to a fight, you could have just shot back, "I would, but I'm afraid you'd sit on me" or something like that. And then laughed at her and said, "seriously, you're this mad over me busting your chops a bit? Do you want me to just leave?"

Horus_Krishna_5 · 2017-01-12T13:38:56+00:00

it's kind of like "playing hard to get" except not really cuz you just don't care. Women love that.

dts2016 · 2017-01-12T16:44:08+00:00

Hahahaha. Gold star for you bro.

Ibart9 · 2017-01-13T00:56:15+00:00

Fuck the beta orbiter nonsense dude that's always some bullshit

Sir_Distic · 2017-01-13T01:42:20+00:00

I think you handled it right. Personally I wouldn't want her around because of the 'getting in your face and wanting to fight you' posturing. What kind of girl does that?

Anyway your response wasn't being an asshole douchebag. It was confidently passing her shit test. You threw it back in her face and she loved it. But she had to save face in front of her orbiter.

yummyluckycharms · 2017-01-13T07:11:02+00:00

Women love assholes, but Men dont love bitches.

When a woman becomes that confrontational - and does so in front of other people - run. Such a person will have no qualms making false accusations, and her beta bitch lackey will be right there to back her up.

Delete her phone number, and forget her

sweet--heart · 2017-01-13T07:47:52+00:00

"I called the girl fat and she's saying sorry" That's not it. She's apologizing because she started the fight with you first, dude. It's not that deep. She feels bad because she insulted your haircut, thus starting a fight.

Velebit · 2017-01-13T12:45:54+00:00

you are not an asshole you were petty and you did not "get her" indeed you did not even understand her joke, it's a good question does she feel bad for you as to how sensitive you are and is doing this not to diminish her reputation if it turns out she "scared and insulted a man away" if her friend tells anyone.

Mangoinhand · 2017-02-07T17:52:50+00:00

She did not respond "favorably" to you.

You wasted minutes or hours of your time with her.

All you got was a bunch of drama

Result? One post and validation that you think you Did the Right Thing.

There is nothing wrong with having a forgiven FB for some initial ASD if she profusely apologizes and promises to not so it again.

The real concern here is the "20 lbs" of weight you mention. I would bet it is closer to 30 - 40 lbs you are worried about and that's actually why you didn't take up her offer (ie: you can do better, no attacted to her)

awakened1122 · 2017-01-12T03:36:33+00:00

hmm you lost the opportunity to smash though.

the convo shoulda went like this:

Her: "you got dorky hair"

you: "your sister liked my hair last night"

her: "i don't have a sister"

you: "you do now"

just be confident/funny and dont take anything she says seriously. "you have dorky hair" is just a translation for "im a shitty person for being disrespectful/rude and i want to get a rise out of you." once you translate statements like this, you no longer feel the need to respond from a position of hurt ego/defensiveness (i.e. calling her fat) but instead respond from a position of amused mastery so that you can pound her for the whore she is. being a disrespectful asshole may work once with a person, but it doesn't work well over the long run with a particular person.

no need to get into a relationship with her, as clearly she's not good material evidenced by the fact that she has her beta orbiter around, being disrespectful/rude, and being emotionally volatile.

if i were u, i'd get back to her and put the cock down her throat. but if she's really that bad, then just avoid her altogether.

mcr00sterdota · 2017-01-12T11:11:36+00:00

Good job OP but you shoulda pumped and dumped.

Expectations1 · 2017-01-12T01:59:13+00:00

Just dont go nuts and say something like this at work.

noct3rn4l · 2017-01-12T07:35:13+00:00

Well, you inadvertently played the best cards possible (who knows how much effort it would've been trying to get rid of that third wheel otherwise). Now do yourself a favor and heed these words of wisdom. You mentioned that you used to be really attracted to this girl. Do yourself a favor, hang out with her again, smash, make a sex tape so it's permanently in your spank bank and then move on.

Outofacave · 2017-01-12T13:43:25+00:00

All this beta apha shit lol...

Mostly a woman who is comfortable enough to bitch and start shit just for woman's sake... bored, moody, poke you, mad whatever... she's being open to you and being herself...

This isn't a chance to win or loose really. It's not a contest. She's doing her part as a woman... be a man...ignore it, shrug it off, make jokes like it isn't happening. Be a leader. Most likely she will follow you and if not she needs to be shut down like any other person and told to fuck off or she will tell you that she actually is mad for this or that reason and it's over.

It's not even being an asshole or d-bag... unless your into being an asshole or d-bag. I mean pretending to be one to trick a stupid woman who likes to be shit on I guess would work for an idiot.

That's what girls and woman do. If you are going to front a game ages going to know it unless she's stupid. Ages going to make it worse... just be a man and defuse the bulkshit... it's all they want, hit the reset button for them and blow the stupid out like an old Nintendo cartridge.

Just be a man... or pretend to be an asshole d-bag to get stupid bitch women. The end .. well, like I said unless your gaming the stupid ones.

Title	Being an asshole douche bag worked for me.
Author	Rub_Lowe
Upvotes	226
Comments	100
Date	January 11, 2017 8:52 PM UTC (9 years ago)
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