askTRP Megathread November 29

MattyAnon · 2017-11-29T14:11:24+00:00

This is more of a request than a question. Can someone with skincare experience write up a guide or tips and tricks. You google this kind of stuff and it’s very hard to tell what’s effective vs what’s trying to sell you something.

Eap123RP · 2017-11-29T14:37:21+00:00

Hey, I a 21 year old guy with Asperger's. However, due to the fact that I'm extremely lean muscled (barely 130lbs and 5'8" and yes I lift) and the way I talk and sound, people think I'm younger than I actually am. No one takes me seriously and sometimes get freaked out/annoyed when I'm in an autistic mood. I also don't speak that clearly. Basically, people think I am normal until they get up close and converse with me. One guy whom we're sorta friends said he could tell I don't have any friends based on the way I talk. My University is mainly a commuter school and my major doesn't have much girls. I commute. A couple of guys from various fraternities thought I was cool they saw the autistic side of me.

So I turned to Tinder and OkCupid, but then deleted them after a couple of weeks. With Tinder, I would get occasional matches, but only three responded and this one fat sorority girl gave me her number but stopped responding when I tried to schedule to meet. With OkCupid, I got very few responses and two fat girls who stopped responding after giving me their number. OkCupid sent an email saying I am hot even though I never got a date. Maybe it's my race, pictures, and messaging game. I don't know.

Anyways what I can do to improve? Everyone, even the other autistic guys, are getting girls, why am I struggling? I have been following the red pill for awhile now.

IDGAFMentality · 2017-11-30T04:08:29+00:00

I've struggled with this for a while now, and despite my best efforts to change my mindset, I'm making minimal progress. Essentially, my question is how do you become non-outcome dependent?

From an introspective standpoint, it seems like I go through life in a constant state of anxiety and worry about crossroads in the future (whether it be a test, getting good grades in college, meeting a deadline, accomplishing my goals) and my mood and overall emotional state is tied to the outcomes of stated events to an extreme degree. Obviously, I realize this is a very shitty way to live life, and am determined to change so that I place less pressure on myself and can be content with my progress and various outcomes within my life, no matter the result. Any insight this community had would be greatly appreciated.

ceilnaffrey · 2017-11-30T06:13:44+00:00

I'm seeing a girl. We have great sex and we hang out once a week. She want something more, and ask what do I what are we. How should I answer this?

I don't wanna lie. Honestly I want her to be a plate but exclusive to me(beta-ish), but I still want to other girls too.

TRP emphasize abundance mentality, but it's hard as I can't get any other laid.

MattyAnon · 2017-11-29T13:30:54+00:00

Alright guys. I need some solid advice here. Ex-wife has new boyfriend. Before I hear the whole "oneitis" thing...I could not care less about it. What I do care about however, is that she brings him around my 4 year old son regularly. Only found out through him. Now, with a bit of TRP, I can only imagine what sort of dude he is. I can also infer that he is not the type of dude I want my boy looking up to. So here is what I am thinking...for all of the fathers in the same sort of boat; I want to meet the dude. I told her I will be meeting him to have a man to man chat while her and the kid go play. It seems as though I am now putting myself in the position of vetting this cunt's boyfriends for her. But, is that not my responsibility now as his father? Statistically it is mommy's boyfriends who are commiting the most child abuse cases. And I will absolutely let him know that if I even get a hint of some foul shit going on, I will absolutely fuck him up. (I have already come to terms with the fact that I have absolutely nothing to loose when it comes to my boy. I will probably not get custody when he starts school due to distance between her and I. In my mind, I have lost him already, but will fight tooth and nail for anything above and beyond that. Even if it means jail time. And I sincerely mean that. Part of me hopes this dude scares me at least a little bit. At least that would be a man worth my son looking up to. Am I just driving myself nuts here? Or is this sound thinking? Let me know what yall think!

FirstNamesMusic · 2017-11-29T14:00:03+00:00

Probably should have waited and posted here:

Anyone in their mid 20's get major pushback from their family? As in they try and drag you down to be "normal", and why am i such an "asshole" all the time.

It's not that I'm an asshole, it's that i used to be a pushover and now i'm living my life exactly how i want to without doing what others tell me (live in same city as majority of my family, we are all very close)

ArtistBlock · 2017-11-29T16:13:49+00:00

I've been doing great in the past few days. I've taken steps to fix my life. However yesterday was one of those days where the depression got to me. Women. That was the reason why, I went into Monk Mode, approching women got me no where and I sort of gave up. Its sad and disturbing that a simple issue, my dating life(women) is causing so much frustration and depression. I hate feeling like this. I hate having no power. I want to be woman free. I don't care anymore, I want to achieve my goals and live a selfish life. I don't want to want chase women anymore. I hate playing the game. Any advice is much appreciated.

Mescalean · 2017-11-30T01:30:40+00:00

Okay. Heres one I've lost sleep over. Ex gf of mine. Naggy upper middle class Jewish girl. Dated for I think 3 years. Broke up because she thought she was better than me going to college and all (I was working a warehouse job then). I cut off all contact. Limited time in my day and I have enough friends. Why keep it going.

She hits me up like 2 years later to chill. I deny. This repeats until I cave for 2 reasons. I just want the texts to stop. At this point I have moved on a tad career wise. Got myself a nice job in a medical grow and have been there 2 years at that point (3 now). I make good money but its not a cushy job (fuck the easy pun there) like some would think. Or hope... The turn over rate is crazy. Literal farming. I love it. Wake up at 3:30 am home by 3. Gives me time to gym after and I can call it a great day. I explain "dont come by any later than 7 i get up early" even told her the time.

Knock knock tap tap at my back glass door (apartment) and shes outside just tapping away. 10:30 at night. Im in a daze being woke out of fucking rem sleep. i tell her im going back to bed in no mood i work early how does she plan on getting home.... I ask. She responds with "i dont know" with a shocked look on her face like a five year old. I tell her to get in the fucking car. Im awake at this point and mad. Drive her to where i thought she was staying since she always stayed with her mom before she moved out.

We get to her moms place and with the tone youd expect a kardashian to use with their driver "this isnt the place". "Im staying with my dad".

Idk if it was the tone. Me not wanting to waste gas money. Her telling me she dropped out of college while thats why we broke up, I said fuck college like my father before me and plan on making a lot like he before me. She said "pipe dream".

I kick her out at the front gate. "I was just excited to see you" "stfu" and slammed the door.

Now as someone who likes to eat mushrooms and pretend there is a rhyme and reason to the universe. What happened next had me driving home laughing.

Started pouring. Not exaggeration "big ol gumdrop" forest gump rain. Ive never cackled like that.

So 3 questions. Am I on the right path? Was I too harsh or not harsh enough? Does anyone else think god or the universe completely agreed with me on that move?

Lost a little sleep over it the first month after then told myself to stop being a bitch she needed to learn a lesson about being... Her..

Hope her father is never my dr in surgery god that would be some fucked up karma

nko1209 · 2017-11-30T10:43:31+00:00

Can anyone share wisdom on vasectomies

Lamond-Sciutto · Wed Nov 29 21:53:45 2017 UTC

Where can I read the red pill theory ( basic introduction) ie where's it located in the Community Info ?

Green_Doreato · 2017-11-30T03:23:20+00:00

Could endorsed contributors make FRs, like u/88Will88 proposed 6 months ago ?

idkmypass64 · Thu Nov 30 4:07:52 2017 UTC

College dude here. So far I've had some drunk frat party makeouts, but nothing sober. I'm making a bit of progress with social circle game, but for the most part I'm not into the girls in my friend group or they're not into me. Besides, 99.999% of hot girls at my university (big 10 state school) are in other friend groups and I'm not sure how to approach if I see them walking around campus or in the dining hall line etc.

Basically... how do I approach a girl on campus without coming off like one of those cringe borderline-autistic pickup "prank" videos on YouTube?

MoldyFare · 2017-11-30T09:44:07+00:00

Hey I'm new to the trp and just wanted to ask if I was stood up, we arranged a date and a day before I asked if we were still meeting she replied "yes ofc" she also posted pics of her with a giy on social media being all flirty with him (she doesn't usually post, was this to make me jealous?)on the actual day of meeting she made an excuse saying her dog had to be taken to the vet, after I said it was "alright" she kept messaging me saying how she could make up for me etc. Did she do this on purpose? That's all I really wanted to know

MaliciousMack · 2017-11-30T23:43:59+00:00

So how do you guys feel about gay men? Or is it just a 'get it how you live' sentiment?

theoracleofbromaha · 2017-12-01T06:07:48+00:00

Long story short guys I put myself into a high impact tech role. Literally working 12-13 hour days daily. I don’t mind the work it’s just the project timelines are literally insane. I can’t help but feel that I was contracted as a political piece to blame why the project is failing. Any insight from veteran professionals here? How do I go about letting senior stakeholders know that I’m busting my ass but the project is behind?

jamaicanmecrzy · 2017-12-01T18:38:33+00:00

I have a bad case of performance anxiety. Really bad. Ive been working on myself and im actually realy confident in my game and ability to pick up on cues. But once i get in the bedroom i lose all my confidence. Idk what to do

Skyhawk_And_Skyhead · 2017-11-29T14:47:52+00:00

Idk why but recently my testosterone levels have tanked and I've been developing ED. I'm 22. How do I fix this?

420KUSHBUSH · 2017-11-29T14:00:17+00:00

What I've recently found is persistence spread over through time works very very well. I've been told it "turns me on" by many girls (yes I know because attention) but I can't figure out why they still get sexual with me and completely want me

Doesn't this go against what we know? Anyone have an explanation because I'm clueless

In33dmon3yz · 2017-11-29T14:50:37+00:00

Ok here it goes i have strong oneitis for my recent ex. I have neuer been that kind of guy before but medical conditions pushed me there. I have gotten to know her because we share that condition (kidney failure) . I have been there for her for everything sitting by her bed for 12 hrs while she was in Hospital etc. IT was long distance i know Bad but we saw each other every weekend. She has since gotten a transplant and started to change and Broke up Came back once. I know hypergamy doesnt care i feel lost and betrayed tho . Also my mom could donate me a kidney but for her its more important to relive her youth. How will i ever find someone without coming across as weak? Dont know how to go on ! Anyone dealing with something similar? Will my only Option for companionship be to lie of find someone sick?

Captain_Sorbo · 2017-11-29T17:24:56+00:00

I have a weighted vest that can hold up to 100lbs. What kind of exercises can i safely do with it?

Shaney96 · 2017-11-29T20:05:38+00:00

21, only kissed two girls (sober), had one ltr (and overall one partner). My 'desire' to improve with women is greater than most of my other desires, and I don't enjoy it being that way. I live in a small town few opportunities, however I go out every weekend and attempt to get out of my comfort zone.

My place of work is a SME software company, and nobody parties (50 people work there, most 30+ with kids), so I have only a small social group there. Recently broke up with ltr, only have a few acquaintances, and can't help but feeling like I 'need' to improve with women.

Question: Now is not the most opportunistic time to improve my outer game, and I'm off back to Uni next year. But how can help lessen the priority women have in my mind? I gym, began BJJ last week, play football, am setting goals everyday to help attain my larger goals, but I can't help but feeling that my inherent problem is my ability (or lack thereof) to express my sexuality with women. Now's not the best time to develop this, but this is how I feel?

Vidhin_05 · 2017-11-29T23:31:32+00:00

19, male here. I regularly work out in the gym (5 times a week) since 3 months (building muscle and controlling diet) and I am not overweight. Can you give tips to slim down my hips? It makes the shoulders look narrower.

halfback910 · 2017-11-30T16:33:18+00:00

When do veteran redpillers apologize? Both in the context idea romantic interest and non romantic relationships (i.e. coworkers).

For instance, say a girl you're having sex with or whatever agrees to meet with you at a place at a time and you are considerably late. Do you apologize?

For a work example, imagine you gave an answer to a colleague on an important matter that turned out to be demonstrably wrong. Do you apologize?

arsenal99 · 2017-11-30T19:58:11+00:00

Covert vs Overt Communication. I dont really understand it, does anyone have any examples? If I think something is unacceptable, I want to say it, however would this be classified as too overt? If I got direct to a girl and say I like her, again is this too overt. I quite like being open and honest

TurningRed54 · 2017-12-01T03:53:17+00:00

Me: 54Y.O., 6' tall, 175 lbs, pretty average looks I think. Started lifting in October for the first time in my life so I'm pretty weak but working on it. N-count=5, so basically I haven't really been around the block yet in spite of my age. In other words, I have pretty much zero game right now and it might take me a while to actually round up any kind of FWB type of thing.

Currently in a long distance LTR of 10 years and circumstances have come around to where it looks like she will move 500 miles into my house. The relationship is and has always been great, she nearly worships me, supportive in every way, ALWAYS sweet as pie, great cooking, cleaning and sex on demand no question.

Would be an automatic green light from me for her to move in except for two issues. 1)Being sort of picky here maybe, but she's very timid. Too scared to ride a roller coaster or swim in water deeper than a bathtub kind of stuff. Of course that makes me even more desirable as her powerful and fearless protector, but it also means I can't take her to do a lot of things I'd like to go do.
2) The big one... she's pretty damned overweight and I am really not attracted to that. She has probably gained 30 pounds since I met her and she was probably 30 pounds overweight at the time. Really big ole titties which I like but that belly, sheeze.

Much as we have a lot of good history together, I'm considering letting her go anyway because of the physical attraction. Man, I feel like a shallow person saying that but it feels pretty damn important. Of course if I ask her she'll promise to lose weight and to be brave if I'm beside her but I doubt she has the fortitude to actually fulfill those promises.

What do you think, move her in or move her out?

Would like to hear some thoughts from some of you guys who have been around the block a few (or several) times.

AbjectRepentance · 2017-12-01T08:50:57+00:00

Collection of questions here. Will be as succinct as I can:

I. Due to my inexperience with girls (in the bedroom, as opposed to in the club etc.) I seem to shake involuntarily. It unsettles the girl I am with unless I can get it under control. What can I do about this?

II. Dealing with a dry spell at the moment, and scarcity. No plates, night game is more difficult due to the balls-freezing weather. Not using Tinder due to lack of fresh photos and a porn addiction problem (Tinder triggers it). Any ideas?

III. I am getting better with gaming in a club setting, and considering where I came from in January (18 Y/O virgin, only ever kissed two girls) to where I am now (able to K-close most of the times I am out, and have had a SNL) I have made great progress. There are two things I am struggling with: a) transitioning from the club to the pull location and b) navigating LMR. I would appreciate advice regarding this.

IV. Getting/encouraging girls to invest is another sticking point. I know of no occasions where a girl has been 'chasing', and this is something I would like to work on manifesting.

V. Anyone take korean ginseng supplements, and if so how are they working for you?

TRPorDIE · 2017-12-01T11:15:44+00:00

Is a feminist an extreme case of an alpha widow? Whenever I talk with one I have that feeling

[deleted] · 2017-12-04T02:19:15+00:00

When do you know it's time to dump your ltr?

cave_in_ · 2017-11-29T14:22:56+00:00

Maybe little offtop, but where, apart from Pinterest, find inspiration for fashion outfits/looks?

[deleted] · 2017-11-29T22:47:45+00:00

Hey, I'm looking for a good voice recording app to record sexual encounters. Anyone got one they'd recommend?

Title	askTRP Megathread November 29
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Date	November 29, 2017 1:10 PM UTC (8 years ago)
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