A lot of guys around here seem to think that the red pill is some sort of action plan. It is not. The red pill is nothing more than the truth about how men and women interact with each other.
Every day I see at least a couple new posts from guys saying that you have to be alpha all the time, being beta is bad, you have to do this, or you have to be that... Nonsense: You don't have to do shit.
Not everyone here is going to have the same goals. Some guys are here because they want to bang as many hot chicks as possible. Some guys are here to learn how to get and keep a girlfriend. Some are just looking for general self improvement advice. And others have no desire to change but want to at least understand how things really work.
That's what the red pill is good for. This is a great place to learn about intergender dynamics, the way men and women interact. But once you start taking in that knowledge, it's up to you how you want to apply it, if at all.
There's a whole lot of crude, macho talk around here, which I suppose is to be expected. I think it, unfortunately, turns off a lot of people new to the sub. And there's a lot of misplaced anger, guys blaming women for their own inability to understand them. These things shape the tone of this sub and it can become quite negative at times.
But it doesn't have to be. When you swallow The Red Pill, you go through the five stages of grief. You're grieving the loss of your cozy blue pill world and the blue pill future you've wanted for as long as you can remember. A lot of guys get hung up in the anger and bargaining stages and it shows here. But once you get to acceptance, the doors of life swing wide open, and you're free to do whatever you want with your newfound Red Pill knowledge.
So, What Do You Want?
What do you hope to get out of The Red Pill? Most of this sub seems to be focused on banging as many hot chicks as possible. If that's what you want, and there's certainly nothing wrong with that, then following the advice around here will help you out tremendously. Studying game and being as alpha as possible will get you far.
But what if you don't want to fuck a bunch of women? What if you want a relationship? Can The Red Pill help? Abso-fucking-lutely!
There's a lot of anti-relationship sentiment around here, but that's mostly just angry guys who got burned venting their frustrations. There is nothing wrong with wanting a monogamous relationship. I've had several LTRs at different times in my life and they've (mostly) all been great.
With your newfound Red Pill knowledge, you'll be better equipped to not only attract the kind of women you'd want a relationship with, but also to keep them long term. You'll want to study not only game (short term mating strategies) but also relationships (long term).
The Red Pill is knowledge and knowledge is power. And I have it on good authority that knowing also happens to be half the battle. Once you learn, accept, and embrace The Red Pill, the world is your oyster. You can use it however you choose.
It's not about being as alpha as possible. It's not about fucking as many women as possible. It's about knowing what IS possible. Knowing how things actually work and having realistic expectations. How you apply that knowledge is completely up to you.
Do what YOU want to do. Maybe you don't want to change a fucking thing. Maybe you just wanted to know the truth. There's nothing wrong with that. Not everyone is gonna use their Red Pill knowledge to transform their lives.
I think a lot of the “you need to do this,” “you need to do that” talk around here stems from freshly Red Pilled guys genuinely trying to help. They've swallowed the pill and now they want you to swallow it and follow in their footsteps. They've seen the light and want you to see it, too.
It's the same reason that, once we swallow The Pill, we want to tell all our beta guy friends about it. Unfortunately, this is a terrible idea. Your friends and the blue pill guys around this sub need to figure it out on their own – they need to want to figure it out on their own. I know you want to be Captain-Save-A-Bro, but you're likely not gonna save anyone. You're just going to alienate yourself and piss people off.
The Red Pill is not a prescription or an action plan. It's simply the way things are between men and women. Once you swallow and embrace The Pill, you can have anything you want.
But it's up to you to figure out what you want. You don't have to use this knowledge to go out and game girls five nights a week, spinning plates on your fingers, toes, nose, and dick. You don't have to say, “Fuck women, I'm gonna go MGTOW my life away alone in a cave somewhere.” You don't have to do shit – you can do anything you want to.
So what do YOU want? What do YOU want to use your Red Pill knowledge for?
Edit: Thank you for the Reddit Gold and all the great answers/responses!!!