Getting a ring is too much work now and pickmeisha agrees at the top commenter

BasieSkanks · 2020-04-21T07:21:45+00:00

Unpopular Opinion is just a dumpster fire of people karma farming. Such an opinion will be popular, because Reddit is full of low value men.

dragonsanddinosawers · 2020-04-21T07:00:41+00:00

I don't think everyone is enamoured with 10,000 dollar rings. And I think that's okay. Plenty of members here have commented here in the past that, despite its importance, a HVM is not 100% about what finances he can bring to the table. I am definitely a more practical person who would prefer to use 10,000 of my own dollars towards something like paying off my college loans.

That said, I will never not be in love with ring my husband bought me. He knew that a fancy ring was never something that I would find deal breakingly necessary. But he saved up money, went out and found a beautiful one anyway, and surprised me with it less than a year into our relationship. Two years later, I am still accidentally finding out where the money came from, like the sale of his previous car from months before. And I still have no idea when he managed to sneak out, buy it, and hide it from me for ages.

All those little details that add up to the amount of effort he put into choosing a ring are what make it so much more important to me than just, hey I found this shiny thing at JCPenney. Diamonds may not have been super important to me, but the fact that they were important to him as something I deserved is what makes mine perfect.

Elegant-Stop · 2020-04-21T06:29:53+00:00

I can afford my dream ring and I refuse to settle with a man who can’t. If you can’t maintain or add to my quality of life, why are you here? Sure as hell don’t need you for the emotional support

2020-04-21T11:23:05+00:00

Despite the prevailing male myths, women are actually far more likely to take financial hits both during and after marriage. If he doesn’t buy you a decent ring, RUN.

https://www.google.co.uk/amp/s/amp.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/2017/mar/19/divorce-women-risk-poverty-children-relationship

Feines_Brot · 2020-04-21T07:23:59+00:00

It's reasonable of her to say that she would prefer the money going toward something else tbh. That's on her.

But married women spend more of their leisure time on housework and childcare, even when working, and housewives forfeit their ability to make money and put themselves in more vulnerable postion. Most men want kids, so they expect their wives to go through the hell that is pregnancy, childbirth and the aftermath.

All of that is expexted and UNPAID, the least a husband could do is show appreciation by getting his wife something that makes her happy. What these people don't seem to realize is that cheap rings with fake everything won't last too long. A beautiful, high quality ring could become a heirloom in your family.

I hate how things like engagement rings, weddings, etc. are painted as unnecessary and ridiculous. Men justify buying all kinds of unnecessary, expensive shit and letting their wives subsidize their lifestyle. But god forbid women don't want something that is meant to last them their whole lives to be cheap, then they are apparently self-centered and silly.

delicateearthbabe · 2020-04-21T06:04:50+00:00

If my boyfriend proposes with a fake diamond I'm gonna say no.

plutunic · 2020-04-21T07:07:36+00:00

women: ask men for one ring worth thousands that's supposed to last decades, as a representation of his love and care, and as a MARK/piece of jewelry she's supposed to wear day in and out to represent her dedication to him/their marriage. wants it to be beautiful, timeless, and durable/"expensive".

men: MATERIALISTIC WHORE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

a fun experiment to do with these types is ask them to do the math. let's say you get a $5000 ring (the average price in America), divided by how many days an average marriage lasts before divorce (8 years/2920 days). that ring costs you $1.72 a day.

yeah, y'all are too poor or dumb to be married.

Sekina7 · 2020-04-21T09:38:14+00:00

Lol did you see my comments ? People where having HEART ATTACKS . Lol -ZERO F*%cks given😘.

shrno · 2020-04-21T06:37:59+00:00

I don't know of any woman irl being okay with this. I'm absolutely convinced that all of those upvotes must be from males and pickmes.

radical__daphne · 2020-04-21T05:56:28+00:00

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lickyblickyuhh · 2020-04-21T12:09:11+00:00

Let them keep their green ring finger asses and let them pretend they wouldn’t love a beautiful, good quality ring. Someone convinced them that they should accept the bare minimum, and it’s not likely you’d be able to break through that with explanation. That’s sad.

The only thing I’ll agree with is the $1,000 ring statement. I’ve seen some beautiful rings I love for that price. I have one saved in my Instagram collections because I love looking at it.

To me, an engagement/wedding ring is a symbol of love. A $10 ring from ebay is so low effort and comes off as “sure whatever”. I will be wearing that ring and be showing it off until the day I die so I’m not sorry for my standards in this. I don’t find interest in it being a $100k ring, but I would expect that it is good quality to sustain a lifetime, won’t dye my skin, and it is a unique style which I’ll love for the rest of my life. Getting a ring like this would show me that he went out of his way to gift me with what I like, he knows my interests and preferences well, and he worked hard to give me that happiness. Anyone who really loves and values someone isn’t going to be cheap with their gifts to them.

radical__daphne · 2020-04-21T22:24:49+00:00

The trick is that the same guy who thinks the ring is useless also thinks the wedding is useless and probably thinks the same of the honeymoon. And I can tell you right now, he doesn't have money to buy you a house.

Enjoy a life of nothing.

sushimeup · 2020-04-21T08:45:24+00:00

Lmao saw this too and cringed

poulette12 · 2020-04-21T08:33:05+00:00

Depending on your opinions of diamonds, it might be more meaningful to some to use the money towards something else. That top commenter sounds like she values other things than the ring, which doesn’t necessarily seem like a bad thing to me. Someone people want a different stone other than diamonds. Some people want rings with special metals. Some people want family heirlooms etc. some people are completely against diamonds because of the controversial and downright horrible practices to get said diamonds... I think a house or a nest egg is more valuable than a wedding right or an expensive wedding.

krptonight · 2020-04-22T00:23:18+00:00

My cousin-in-law didn’t want a fancy ring but she got a 700k house as a wedding gift from her husband(my cousin).

radical__daphne · 2020-04-21T12:55:48+00:00

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sallybk · 2020-04-21T17:31:07+00:00

We went ring shopping together. I ended up loving the first ring in the first store. 10 stores later I said I still like the first ring. He said are you sure because this ring represents my love for you? Yep. So that's what he bought. 40years later I still love it and he still loves me. It cost $1700 in today's dollars but only $400 then. I'm the type that would rather have modest jewelry and he likes to spend more on me.

Title	Getting a ring is too much work now and pickmeisha agrees at the top commenter
Author	alskdj2019
Upvotes	86
Comments	34
Date	April 21, 2020 5:27 AM UTC (6 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/FemaleDatingStrategy
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