So basically the only reason I’m on reddit is because I struggle with my boyfriends porn use. He has since said he would refrain from looking at porn, but I know he doesn’t fully understand where I’m coming from.

It seems that almost NO guys understand where women come from!!

I really don’t understand what they don’t understand, can you guys give me some insight?!

To me, it’s very simple: We are in a monogamous relationship, and so it is not appropriate to seek out other naked women in a sexual context.

I say that a woman wants her bf’s sexual attention and is hurt when he gives that sexual attention to another woman. And guys say that that’s illogical because it’s “not about the other women”. First of all, then why do you seek them out over your partner? And second of all, so? You are still. Seeking. Out. Another. Woman. Regardless of whether she is interchangeable or not! I feel like this is such a simple argument, I don’t understand what falls through the cracks.

Instead of reaching out to your gf, you look up so-and-so and get aroused by her naked body. Like ugh what is there to not understand about this?! That is literally the definition of porn! Why does it not make sense that a girl in a committed relationship would feel uncomfortable with that?!

And another thing that makes me angry is that guys say it’s “different” when a bf looks at nudes posted on reddit vs. a gf posting nudes to reddit. To the respective genders it’s the equivalent behavior! Men say viewing nudes on reddit is okay because 1. You don’t reach out to them and 2. They’re just interchangeable people you don’t have an emotional connection to and 3. It’s anonymous

Wellll when a gf posts a nude to reddit she 1. Doesn’t reach out to the dudes and 2. the random dudes that like the photo/comment are interchangeable people that you don’t have an emotional connection to either and 3. It’s anonymous

You can’t say one behavior is valid and the other isn’t. And men would be LIVID if their gfs did this. They wouldn’t be able to handle it. All the same effing objections they could make about their gf posting nudes to reddit, you can make an equivalent objection to a bf looking at nudes on reddit.

Look, I don’t even condone a gf posting nudes to reddit while in a relationship. BUT I ALSO don’t condone a bf viewing nudes while in a relationship. You can’t say one is okay but the other is not.

I bet if a posting nudes in a relationship was as common of a practice as porn, guys would start to get all this sh*t a little more. But then again, they’re men so probably not.

Ugh I just get so frustrated.