“I encouraged him to go to strip clubs with his friends because he should have fun and he was mine after all” see what being a pickmeisha gets you? This is why forcing yourself to be the cool girl is the worst thing you can do to yourself. Give them an inch and they’ll take a mile.

ldnsurvival · 2020-02-11T13:03:43+00:00

"I'm glad he was honest".... was he tho ?? 🤔 congratulating him for the shoddiest behaviour, I'm sick

venomous_g · 2020-02-11T13:38:50+00:00

She’s going back home next week. She isn’t really ready to leave, so she won’t.

This is what settling and “compromise” gets you. Not content to simply disrespect his relationship in the ways his doormat girlfriend convinced herself was acceptable to her, he went above and beyond, multiple times.

I’m more convinced than ever that men don’t do these things because they crave sex, but because they need to degrade the women that have shown them love and grace in order to feel whole.

aclumsygirl · 2020-02-11T13:47:22+00:00

And he was so incredibly racked with guilt about this terrible betrayal...

that he did absolutely nothing for her for their anniversary 🙄

dissonantlotus · 2020-02-11T13:20:38+00:00

I’m glad he was “honest”, too! One month later when shit hit the fan. Level up, sweet summer child. There’s so much better for you.

circescircus · 2020-02-11T13:51:24+00:00

What "advice" is she seeking? She knows what she needs to do.

I swear, some women mindfuck themselves, even when the guy isn't mindfucking them. Her boyfriend straight up told her that he slept with an escort in their living room. "At first he told me he had sex with a stripper." What difference does it make? This woman doesn't sound very bright. The guy knows this, and he's making a total ass out of her.

I'm assuming he paid the escort? That's how these things go right? If that's the case, she should demand payment for every time she had sex with him since they've been together. She should do the math and think of all the money he owes her. He's obviously not going to pay her, but she should find the going rates for escorts in her area, guesstimate how many times she slept with him and come up with a figure. She'll never get her money or dignity back in this relationship. Most importantly, she will never get back her time.

Get a grip and get rid of him. It's not rocket science. Or is this how you want to live your life? That's all the advice she needs. I don't understand women who want to ruminate about the details of their surreal, sick relationships.

GRCA · 2020-02-11T15:19:14+00:00

Encourage him to go to strip clubs and eventually he’ll get a lap dance or hand job or blow job or sex.

Encourage him to look at porn and eventually he’ll choose porn over you or sneakily look at porn during sex or join a cam stream or solicit nudes online.

Encourage him to befriend another woman with no boundaries and eventually he’ll be crushing on her or jerking off to her photos or using her attention to stroke his ego or having a full blown emotional affair or cheating physically.

Definitely the big pitfall of being a permissive cool girl is that eventually the guy will find a way to push the boundary. And yes some will push it in smaller ways than others. Give some an inch and they’ll take “only” 100 yards. But the pitfall continues as the cool girl squints at him in the distance and thinks, “well at least it wasn’t a mile.”

2020-02-11T16:31:20+00:00

He buys and fucks a prostitute in your home and then doesn't bother to buy you flowers on your anniversary....

But he totally loves you and only a one time, never happened before, never going to happen again, thing.

Women are so fucking brainwashed into accepting and ignoring male depravity. I hope she wakes up from this nightmare.

m4dam3x · 2020-02-11T13:25:46+00:00

The delusion is strong with this one

2020-02-11T14:44:36+00:00

🚫strip clubs🚫

pinkyberries · 2020-02-11T15:38:43+00:00

It starts with pressuring you into anal, then going to a stripclub with friends and then a threesome FFM. It never stops until he cheats because nothing is ever enough for these type of men.

extraacct1234 · 2020-02-11T12:59:24+00:00

"I do believe he loves me"

Yeah this totally sounds like love. She's going to marry him anyway probably. She's too far gone. yet another reason to check their phones and their search history. He's probably been fucking escorts for years and though their entire relationship. She also probably has herpes and chlamydia now considering almost 10% of STDs in the US are from prostitution.

arcaenis · 2020-02-11T17:08:07+00:00

she believes it was only one time ? she’s dumber than we thought

RadarFemef · 2020-02-11T18:06:17+00:00

She’s in denial so badly. She wants to believe it was only one time, but what is she basing that on? There’s no reason to think it was just once

chungkingxbricks · 2020-02-11T17:05:06+00:00

Dump him, sis!

dilligent_squatter · 2020-02-11T18:28:14+00:00

Dude after nothing on the anniversary I would have been out, it never should have escalated past that. Men out here acting like they dgaf and then are so astounded when women get upset. AND THEN cheating with a prostitute in their own house WTF.

Also strip clubs are so creepy and awful, why encourage him to go??? If that’s not the first time he’s been to one, I would bet money that’s not the first time he’s cheated either. DUMP, BLOCK, DELETE.🤡✌️

Unlikely-Marzipan · 2020-02-12T01:14:21+00:00

I believe: Bachelor party = no wedding should take place

I’ve known of too many men who slept with prostitutes at bachelor parties to ever consider them “harmless”:

RegularAnybody · 2020-02-11T23:44:25+00:00

"I do believe he loves me." Nope. Not even a little bit.

abstractsadgurl · 2020-02-11T17:41:17+00:00

I saw this post on the relationship advice thread. And when I read she allowed him I literally shook my head. This is whyyyyy you set boundries and not be the cOol GuRl

SecretGirlStuff · 2020-02-12T03:02:23+00:00

“Aside from sleeping with an escort in our shared bed and not honoring a very important date, he’s a totally great guy. Much honest and I love him! SQUEE”. 🤮

kaoutanu · 2020-02-12T04:17:19+00:00

How nice of him to share, so that she can comfort him when he's feeling "messed up".

If she doesn't dump him, this relationship will keep some therapist in work for years.

Fitncurly · 2020-02-11T18:30:47+00:00

I begged my guy not to go when we were in our first few years. I told him how it made me feel and it was so disrespectful. He did it anyways, making excuses and all that about “it was just where my friend dj’d” (why couldn’t they hang out somewhere else?). I was so angry he would do it anyway (he went once or twice), so I decided since he wanted to see strippers and didn’t care how it hurt me, I’ll become one and not care how it hurt him. So I was a stripper for a little while (the money was good and I didn’t realize how terrible the industry was at the time). That fixed him up good, he never went to another strip club again. And after my experiences, he realizes how terrible the whole industry truly is.

May26th · 2020-02-12T11:26:15+00:00

Narrator - " it wasn't just that one time"

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