How could I have been so blind??

NoThisIs-Patrick · 2020-01-18T18:54:05+00:00

Don't let it get you angry.

Men like this pull shit time and time again. I bet he'd do something stupid or disrespect you. Odd comments. You'd let them slide. Because you just started seeing each other, right? You were probably being too sensitive.

Then, as time went on, you noticed a pattern of behaviour. You'd think "Okay, this isn't right, is it? Why is he doing this/talking to me like this?" and you probably made a soft comment, "can you please not talk like that?" or "I really don't appreciate it when you do that." He probably shrugged it off.

The pattern continues. Now you're getting pissed off. "I care about you, why are you doing that?" or "How can you talk like that to me?" and you start fighting back. Why isn't he listening to you? Why is he acting like such a fuckwad?

But he turns around, says you're acting crazy or being controlling.

Fuck that guy. Textbook gaslighting and abuse. He's wrong. He wouldn't be crawling back to you if he actually believed what he was saying. If you were actually crazy he'd stay the fuck away.

aclumsygirl · 2020-01-18T18:55:47+00:00

Nothing worse than a gaslighting male drama queen who projects his instability onto you.

This kind of guy loooves the drama of high volatility relationships (that fake suicide attempt 🙄) so he'll try to reach out again to provoke you into contact. Hold that block, sis.

rftw2013 · 2020-01-18T21:10:51+00:00

It's him, not you.

A man once "refused" to continue seeing me after I told him to stop trying to use me for sex, that I wasn't going to tolerate that. He said, "You seem frustrated and angry." Ya think, after YET AGAIN having to tell a man that he can't say "Let's take it slow" and then try to sleep with me.

Men will project their shit behavior onto you, and make it seem like YOU are the problem, when in fact THEY are the problem. You want to "take it slow?" Fine. That means no sex. It doesn't mean that I sleep with you whilst you try to figure out how many other girls you want to fuck at the same time.

Ishouldbewriting83 · 2020-01-18T18:54:26+00:00

Yeah, forget that guy. All of that is abusive behavior. He was also feeling you out to see if you'd be up for sex. If he tries it again, straight up tell him you don't miss him at all.

Witchyko · 2020-01-18T19:50:38+00:00

And here again we have proof how mentally unstable men are. Please, don't take it to your heart. Just let him go. Not worth it.

ThinkTofu · 2020-01-19T01:19:42+00:00

This man literally tried to hang himself with a belt from a cupboard for attention when I got mad at him once because he got too drunk on a night out and kept fucking up

Are you dating Bojack Horseman?

2020-01-18T20:37:31+00:00

He just wants sex

Knackered_Hubcaps · 2020-01-18T21:38:53+00:00

What a gaslighting, manipulative individual. I’m really glad you saw through his vile techniques.

goatismycopilot · 2020-01-19T00:10:11+00:00

As crazy as this sounds he was probably hoping you would defend yourself, get into a conversation and then hook up with him. Clearly your ex was not the smartest fella.

7_0f_9 · 2020-01-19T01:40:16+00:00

I love your response. I'm so glad you broke it off with him. He's garbage. I had an ex say something similar to me once and i immediately blocked him. I was just so insulted by how entitled he thought he was to fuck me. It was disgusting. They enjoy the idea of degrading us and then we'll still fuck them. It makes them feel like gods or something. Like they can treat us like puppets who are mesmerized by them. It's sick.

extraacct1234 · 2020-01-18T21:14:54+00:00

Whoa! What an asshole!

szsunshine · 2020-01-19T01:57:27+00:00

He probably said that on purpose....so you would have sex with him and try your best to be a “good girl” who never complained. FTG

super-vain · 2020-01-19T08:24:03+00:00

Ok, I know suicide is not a joke but I am dying at your description, picturing a grown idiot man in a cupboard with a belt around his neck 🤣. If that doesn’t say mental instability I don’t know what does.

MagpieMelon · 2020-01-19T09:42:42+00:00

Haha, I can’t believe them. Thankfully you can see it now!

A guy I was seeing got angry that I broke up with him and won’t leave me alone. After trying all the usual ‘I miss you’ and how sad he is, and me not responding, he sent me a video telling me that I’m bipolar. Not only did he tell me that I’m bipolar, but he admitted to stalking 2 other people and was reassuring me that it was only 2 people and not a big deal. I’ve told him if he doesn’t stop then I’m getting the police involved, and he somehow turned that on me and said that he’ll get them involved too.

I’d block him, but he’s a customer at work and he knows where I live. I want to keep what he’s saying as evidence just in case something does happen.

ny-lady · 2020-01-19T16:48:31+00:00

I like when they say your crazy but keep coming back! LOL If you were actually crazy they wouldnt come back!

Sbplaint · 2020-01-19T03:35:41+00:00

The irony of reading this post while Justin Bieber's "Sorry" plays on my Spotify...just when I thought I couldn't be any angrier too! Sorry Biebs, but Kick Him Out 2020 doesn't have a celebrity exemption! Blocked and deleted.

theghettogirl · 2020-01-19T04:26:24+00:00

Beautiful line, I'd put it on a mug.

Ms_Tilly · 2020-01-19T16:42:09+00:00

He is pure trash. I'm so glad you saw right through that sad attempt at manipulation and blocked his ass. THE AUDACITY. Nice response too 👍

Title	How could I have been so blind??
Author	rosapalmera
Upvotes	162
Comments	37
Date	January 18, 2020 6:47 PM UTC (6 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/FemaleDatingStrategy
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