Vetting: advice needed please. He is very devout orthodox Christian. Liturgy for him was at 0700 today. To make it clear, he seldom forgets I just don’t tolerate this behavior.

amyanubis · 2020-12-13T22:38:07+00:00

If he is a devout Christian then why is he having sex with you? I thought they did the no sex before marriage thing?

ughthanksbutno · 2020-12-13T22:38:45+00:00

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frustratedmarxistfem · 2020-12-13T22:49:16+00:00

Saying this with love but why are you arguing with him? No man who is actively pursuing you would forget to say "good morning" after sex or "have a great day, headed to church" etc. Is this the first time you had sex?

TheGoodie · 2020-12-13T22:53:11+00:00

“I just started using my phone for the day”

Total BS. He’s clearly lying to you. If he wanted to make the effort to text you, he would have. He’s definitely not thinking of you as a #1 priority.

staywiththecrown · 2020-12-13T23:01:16+00:00

Even if he had church this morning, why couldn't he text you AFTER? Like, "Morning. Just finished church. How are you?" Especially after you two had sex. It's not too much to ask. Dump him. He'll try to get more sex out of you and will dump you for his pure, virginal church dream girl.

amyanubis · 2020-12-13T22:51:20+00:00

I would have blocked him if he didn't contact me the next day. Do you have proof he goes to church? Or could he be using it to make him look like "a nice guy"?

voodo2020 · 2020-12-13T23:02:51+00:00

Looks like he is using you for sex and you know it sis...you don’t have to and shouldn’t explain yourself multiple times again and again...if he puts you in the situation where you have to say “I said I feel used for sex”, you are 200% being used

randomgirlimok · 2020-12-13T23:09:02+00:00

I once dated this guy who unbeknownst to me at the time, was always with this other chick on Sunday’s and so he was never available on this day with varying excuses. She worked in the “service industry” (like waitresses, hair dressers, etc) and I guess Sunday is like a Saturday for them because they don’t work on mondays. So, do you ever see him on Sunday’s? He might have this day reserved for hanging out with a girl who has that kind of schedule.

MadamLeFay · 2020-12-13T23:36:02+00:00

He isn't very "devout" if he is having premarital sex. Also, he'll never marry you, he'll marry someone within the church.

ravenx1979 · 2020-12-13T23:35:21+00:00

Hes lying. I have had pretty much this exact conversation. There was another woman in his bed when he "didn't expect to not contact me this late"

Queen-of-My-Realm · 2020-12-13T23:03:32+00:00

Jesus would have given you a good morning text. This ain’t Christlike.

amyanubis · 2020-12-13T23:37:50+00:00

I always say "If they act like they don't care, BELIEVE THEM!"

WildTenderness · 2020-12-13T23:47:35+00:00

Notice how he just keeps making excuses and doesn't outline how he will change or make up for his behaviour... He doesn't care, girly. He wants sympathy points and to secure a warm place for his dick another time.

Davina33 · 2020-12-13T23:16:45+00:00

They always say sorry but deep down they know they are fucking with you. They enjoy it! It boosts their egos. Don't even bother telling a man how you expect them to behave. They already know. Dump them.

mistlylotpot · 2020-12-13T23:16:33+00:00

Run the fuck the other way.

Owl-right · 2020-12-13T23:25:23+00:00

This sounds insincere. My man never forgets. If he does he ain't the one ♥️

Twolipz_78 · 2020-12-13T23:11:21+00:00

Omg! Lmao @ 1630 in the afternoon, I love that!! Also can I just say how much I loathe being called “babe”? They do that so they don’t call you by the wrong name!

Title	Vetting: advice needed please. He is very devout orthodox Christian. Liturgy for him was at 0700 today. To make it clear, he seldom forgets I just don’t tolerate this behavior.
Author	fairywakes
Upvotes	8
Comments	34
Date	December 13, 2020 10:34 PM UTC (5 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/FemaleDatingStrategy
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