Whats ur routine for first 3 dates?

heathrowaway678 · 2021-06-13T03:05:11+00:00

Good setup, I like it. What's your date 2 success ratio?

NumerousImprovements · 2021-06-13T05:45:12+00:00

Date one always a coffee. Happy to pay for this myself, often the girl shouts. Feel each other out basically. I don’t like building rapport and getting to know someone over text so I try and set this up pronto. Get a loyalty card at your local cafe guys.

Date two depends on the girl and how date one went, what sort of vibes I’m getting from her and what I’d want from her. If I don’t see anything resembling serious with her, I try and get her over to mine straight away. I’m a bartender and have a decent home bar, so the deal is cocktails and snacks with a movie. If I want to explore something more than sex with a girl, then it could still be the above, but date two might be something like mini golf, drinks out in town, something cheap that allows us to continue getting to know each other, but not something that couldn’t also lead to her coming home with me.

Date three I agree with most people here, you need to be sleeping together by at least the third date. If I haven’t already slept with her by date three, this date will be completely tailored toward physical escalation and getting back to mine. So night time, bit of alcohol, easy logistics. If nothing by then, she probably won’t hear from me again.

pialox · 2021-06-13T06:32:22+00:00

Drinks at favourite bar. Bounce to 2nd bar and escalate. 3rd location go for a kiss. Then pull home.

Never go to restaurants only bars. She wants to eat she can do it before hand. I'm not paying for dinner or having a bitch who doesn't want to fuck cos she ate too much.

If they get to a 3rd date I would probably either plate them or just not proceed.

alternateaccount49 · 2021-06-13T04:21:24+00:00

add more action/location changes on 1st and second

Patient_Gas9560 · 2021-06-13T03:47:41+00:00

Coffee (I just get to meet them and talk tbh, don't want to give them serial killer vibes)

Biking in countryside or playing any sort of physical sport (I've found it oddly intimate when riding a bike on a meadow by a river and watching the sunset)

Getting drinks at a bar

I personally keep all drinking dates to a minimum, firstly because drinks fuck with gains and secondly because I'm not a huge drinker.

TheSunshineMan · 2021-06-13T03:29:27+00:00

Do you have any hobbies? Do that.

ifonlyeverybody · 2021-06-13T07:26:02+00:00

I prefer to get laid not before the third date.. I'm old-fashioned ;)

1) Exactly like yours: starbucks and evening walk by the city. Gauge interest level and to make sure no crazy vibes.

2) Same like the above but a shorter walk and drink at a nice bar.

3) Do an activity together like a hike or a sport and from there decide if its worth progressing further or dump her.

basedjr- · 2021-06-13T03:09:40+00:00

Always a walk+snack combo. You have it totally spot on. No need to have introductions over a $70-100 dinner, also if you’re serious about a plate no need to make the first date a 12am hook up
A restaurant you both kind of bond over during the first date. “Hey have you been to x? The nachos are amazing, I’ll have to show it to you”, etc.
I usually F close on the third date if it goes good, that way she understands what I want out of the relationship isn’t just fucking, plus if she is actually good company I don’t mind having three dates of interaction. Date 3 is usually come over and have some wine or go to a lounge/bar. I don’t usually have sober sex with women the first time because it’s pretty intimate and I’m not there with them just yet, idk I’ve just gotten into that routine.

axiscontra · 2021-06-13T04:59:31+00:00

Pretty spot on. I'm more of a get food at a bar type setting tho.

Guapscotch · 2021-06-13T04:01:18+00:00

Honestly I’ve never had a strategy or routine. I just go with the flow and do whatever feels right in the moment. I enjoy an element of spontaneity, sometimes even I surprise myself.

alfalikeafox · 2021-06-13T03:46:50+00:00

Blowjob

vaginal

Anal.

Then, on the second date, see what happens :)

atrejomtnz · 2021-06-13T19:29:25+00:00

Tacos and drinks on the first date. Guaranteed fuck especially if you’ve been vibing

BlueBrye · 2021-06-13T05:26:56+00:00

Why are you not trying to F close on the first date?

cornpoke · 2021-06-13T07:36:16+00:00

Lol dude, if she's not all over you within the first hour you are wasting your time and money, would she schedule 3 dates with Tom Hardy or be taking off his pants within 10 minutes in some carpark??

atk352 · 2021-06-13T12:54:24+00:00

1) meet her for drinks at a bar local to your place. Pull her back for a movie at your place. I've had upwards of 30 dates this year and closed about 20. I decided to keep 3 of those 20 around for a consistent rotation.

I'm astounded that members of this community think it's necessary to meet a girl mid day for coffee at Starbucks, as if that's an acceptable place to build sexual tension. makes me cringe just thinking about. What an absolutely terrible environment to start out from.

no_user_ID_found · 2021-06-13T08:56:56+00:00

Having a drink somewhere, when the weather is good make that a picnic kind of thing in a public park.
At home, cooking together, getting to know eachother, if we seem compatible; kiss at the end of the evening.
At home, watch a movie, have sex.
Something active.

TeddyMGTOW · 2021-06-13T12:56:04+00:00

1st date bang!

LibertarianLibertine · 2021-06-13T14:05:44+00:00

Date 1: Come over to my place and fuck.

&repeat.

Milk_moustache · 2021-06-13T09:02:30+00:00

Drinks, get absolutely munted, see how she handles having a drink get her a taxi home if she’s plastered.

Drinks again

More drinks.

skyrunner22 · 2021-06-13T05:40:07+00:00

Used to be date 1 go to get drinks then bowl/hukkah at spot near house, worked out well enough but didnt close all the time. 2nd interaction if needed would be come over for food n drinks, if we actually go out..

With covid havent gone out as much but one of the first places to open was strip clubs so started doing that as first date and the sample size is small but its worked out soo well, lmaoo..

I have never done the coffee thing (dont really drink coffee), with me I am a social drinker so its no biggie to grab drinks.. Maybe if I am already at starbucks or something it would make sense.. But even when I have pulled at a mall and its pushed to an insta date we go for drinks at the chili's or cheesecake factory attached..

beaverlooter · 2021-06-13T13:08:07+00:00

honestly you should be trynna fuck on the first link up. i don’t even call them “dates” that shit too formal. usually i’ll be able to fuck first link up if not that’s cool, we can go to the park or get sum pizza or whatever and i bring her back to my spot. if i don’t fuck by the second link up i go ghost.

the goal is to keep your investment as LOW as possible

riggedved · 2021-06-13T09:30:23+00:00

Last 3 dAtes:

Pick her up. She literally tells me “all day ive been thinking abt you fucking me. I was like, just come and insert it.” We ended up fucking in the car. Came on her face and dropped her back.
She comes over to mine. We fuck 3 times. She tells me that was the best orgasm she had.
She come over to mine. We fuck 3 times. She tells me that was the best orgasm she had.

rad_dynamic · 2021-06-13T10:41:19+00:00

Will either invite them straight over for wine, meet at a bar nearby for drinks if she has stranger danger, or invite them to one of my upcoming parties

lolomotif12 · 2021-06-13T11:35:55+00:00

Date 1: cheap drink in cafe/bar, park walk, show her your personality and build the attraction. Escalate.

Date 2: Something more interactive, museum, gallery, activity to build some comfort and make the day fun/enjoyable. Escalate.

Date 3: I usually don't get to this without getting laid but if it has taken 3 dates for me and I still haven't got laid, I lose interest.

2021-06-13T14:13:09+00:00

Oral, PIV, Anal

DiskKiller2 · 2021-06-13T15:17:54+00:00

Guys, never have coffees on first dates. It’s boring and there is zero chance of a sexual vibe. Just jump directly to #2 aka drinks in a nearby bar.

Edit: dinners next? No. That definitely doesn’t work. You only take a girlfriend to a dinner place. OP doesn’t know what he’s doing, stop the upvotes

Kodiak01 · 2021-06-13T15:58:04+00:00

60-70 bucks on dinner is no big deal

For a lot of women, that's not even going to buy you apps and a drink.

Dextorian · 2021-06-13T17:42:36+00:00

Actually took a girl to a trampoline park for a first date was fucking ace, depends what mood im in

tb151 · 2021-06-13T18:14:19+00:00

I don't personally dig the coffee date. Prefer a first date that's fun/memorable and sets a tone. Coffee can be so "friendish" and that's not what I want to put out there. Honestly one of my favorites is a bar where you can rent ping pong tables

danaw1992 · 2021-06-13T20:33:35+00:00

Mine are:
1st date - blowjob or a handy
2nd date - standard penetration
3rd date - anal

catz123456 · 2021-06-13T21:26:11+00:00

Always try to involve drinks from the get-go. Push for F-close on the first date. Doesn't always happen but if I'm into her, I'll make sure I get something first date.

King_of_kings4 · 2021-06-18T00:52:51+00:00

I think this is good.

1) Coffee/bubble tea + walk in the park. If it's good chemistry invite her back for a movie.

2) Day date, go to the markets or a walk and finish at a bar. Invite her back.

3) Dinner date rate next to your apartment / home. Invite her back

4) next her.

Title	Whats ur routine for first 3 dates?
Author	__Lord_of_Light__
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Date	June 13, 2021 2:30 AM UTC (5 years ago)
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