I think most of us here will agree that sex is wasting woman's emotional energy. Contraception aside, sex for a woman is much bigger risk than it is for a man. It is also more risky because for women it creates much stronger bond than it does for men.
A woman having sex with a man is, in a way, denouncing the power. Before sex, she has upper hand, after that, the man.
Because of this, I think it's not a stretch to assume that women need some level of attention, affection and security in order to be able to have sex.
This is where the beta orbiters come. They give the emotional energy that can be converted to sex. Unfortunately, both for them and the woman in the example, sex doesn't have to be given to the orbiter who's put the effort.
So, when "nice guys" buy flowers, take women out to dinners and so on, hoping to turn that effort into sex, there's a lot of truth to that assumption. Women turn emotional support and resources into sex. But the thing that most of these guys miss is that the sex doesn't have to be returned to the person who's powering the system.
The most important conclusion that can be taken from this is that it's almost impossible for a woman to ride the CC if she doesn't have orbiters. There is basically no fuel for it in this case.
So, if any of you have a problem with sleeping with men to early, maybe it's because you got too many beta orbiters. And by beta orbiters I mean everything that gives you validation - Facebook, Instagram, guys in the friendzone, colleagues at work that flirt with you, and do on. Of course, it's hard to eliminate every possible thing fueling this, but you should try to reduce it as much as you can.
The only guy that should provide all these things is the guy you plan on sleeping with. This way your judgement won't be clouded and the sex won't happen until that man has put the work that is the objective price of sex.
Having beta orbiters is unfair to the guys, but it can also burn you too.
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